What are the reasons why men betray their wives?

Author Jiang Hanzhong According to the website of American doctor of medicine, M. Gary Numan, an American marriage counselor, has done a lot of research on men cheating on their wives. According to his research, one in 2.7 men will cheat on his wife without her knowing it. In order to expose some men's true intentions of cheating, Gary investigated hundreds of loyal and cheating husbands and finally wrote an epoch-making new book, The Truth of Men's Cheating. Gary said that he is a marriage counselor and his work encouraged him to write this book. "I have been consulting women for more than 20 years, getting along with them and seeing how shocked and sad they are when they know that they have been betrayed, and how serious the consequences are for their children and families." Gary introduced the victim's "responsibility" in the process of her husband's betrayal, but he still said that he wrote this book to give women the initiative. If people do as I say, you will have evidence and be in a better and more favorable position in the relationship between husband and wife. In this way, you can not only prevent the tragedy from happening, but also establish a more beneficial relationship for both sides. "So, what is the primary reason why men betray their wives? 92% of men said it had nothing to do with sex. Most people say it's because they refuse to appreciate each other, let alone express their love. Gary said, "Men are emotional animals, but they don't look like that, and they won't tell you that they are. "Worrying about bills, children and housework every day makes couples naturally stop appreciating each other. Gary said that there is a woman who often makes this man feel good. " She gave him a different feeling and made him feel appreciated and envied. ""Men look strong, capable and powerful. However, men's hearts are as lacking in self-confidence as many people. They are looking for someone who makes him feel highly valuable. "Men have a winning mentality. Just look at their performance when they like team games. Gary said, "They like to win, as if the team is theirs. As long as the team participates in the competition, men will see the end. Once you know that the team can't win, the TV opportunity will be turned off immediately. In the survey, many men told me that losing the team is like losing. Maybe they are not good men. If you want to save your's relationship, you must understand men and make them feel that they have won by doing something for you. "Gary said, don't be afraid to praise your man, and don't be afraid to tell him that you appreciate everything he does." We got married because we wanted someone in this world to really think that everything we did was great. We all hope so. The more we give, the more we get. "How many men go out to have sex? Not as much as you think. Gary found that 88% of the men surveyed said that other women are not necessarily more beautiful than their wives, and they are not necessarily more beautiful than their wives. An interviewee named AJ said that his relationship with his wife Jennett was not stable five years before his marriage, that is, when the wooden marriage came. " We even went to sleep in separate beds under the same roof. I feel depressed every time I come home from work. Therefore, before I feel weak and incompetent about my role, if someone is interested in me, I will like what I do, my job and my clothes. "A couple will face some changes in their lives sooner or later, but Gary urged the couple to remember how interested they were when they met or got married." Everyone can get this kind of attention, and everyone wants it. Because it has nothing to do with sex, everyone believes it. No matter who you are or what you look like, you will be kind, considerate and enviable, you will be encouraged and considerate, and you will pay attention to every word you say. "So how many men confessed to their wives before the incident? Only 7% of the respondents admitted their misconduct to their wives without asking, and 55% of the men either denied it or lied before the mountain of hard evidence. " Gary warned those women with illusions that if you want to expect your cheating husband to tell you the truth, buy lottery tickets, because you are gambling. In 2004, Colin discovered that her husband Scott was having an affair. Colin said she caught it several times. On Father's Day for the first time, women called home. "We are in the kitchen, and I am standing next to him. I heard the woman say,' Are you all right?' ? "Hang up!" He told me that the woman was the dispatcher of his unit, and his words were really suspicious. Colin said that Scott's having a woman outside made her miserable, but lying was worse. Colin went on to say, "after being married for so long, it is impossible for a person who trusts you to look you in the eye and lie." "Although Scott and his wife are family, when Colin's mother died, he said he began to lack confidence." I don't think there is anything I can do. I can't tell my wife. "In retrospect, I don't know when this feeling turned to our relationship," Scott said. She really wants me to be a strong person. I choose to escape because of my self-confidence, because our marriage will face challenges, and my ability to love her as a husband is limited. "Small things reflect big problems, and small things can also help couples twice. If a person wants to cook breakfast, he will burn the bread. Gary advises wives to have a positive attitude. " A man wants to please his wife. If the message he sends is a psychological setback, believe it or not, it will make him lose confidence. Gary said: "Let him have a good impression on his attempts and efforts, that is the true meaning of love." Catherine wanted to track her husband through the GPS system and installed spyware on his computer. It turns out that there are two things that can't be done. Gary said Catherine should let her husband take a polygraph test. "We think he is fooling around. The problem that Catherine has to face is such a problem-it is very difficult for women. Do you want to know? " Gary said that it is not easy for women to know the truth, which will mean the end of marriage and the beginning of pain. Gary said that lying is really the biggest betrayal. "I said to men, just like beggars, you should be honest with your wife when you start to be interested in others. Sit down and say to your wife,' Honey, I was wrong! Gary said that if you find your husband's behavior suspicious, there are several ways to investigate him, such as knowing the phone records or computer usage, and installing a GPS tracking device in the car if necessary. But first, it is necessary to find out whether it is legal to install this global positioning system in your country. Brian and Annie said that they never wanted to face the problem of extramarital affairs. Annie says Brian never goes out at night. They have a good relationship and have sex every night. However, Brian used his lunch break to meet a woman. I have always thought that extramarital affairs mostly occur between couples with unhappy marriages or lack of sexual life. We don't lack either of these things. I don't know how I got into an affair so easily! "Brian said that he started dating only one friend." Later, because some * * * had a hobby, they developed a relationship. I didn't choose to have an affair, but it happened. "Brian's right, most men know their lover without two conditions, one is a job and the other is a hobby. At first, it was just an ordinary emotional relationship and a friendship that could be developed. " We all think that people who cheat their wives are bad people. They are terrible, depraved and uneducated. No, they are just lost lambs, good people who have done something wrong, and they can be your husbands! "Brian's own book, Revealing the Truth about Men Cheating on Their Wives, introduces some signs that will appear when a husband cheats on his wife. First, don't go home for a long time. Second, sexual life is reduced. Third, try not to touch you. Fourth, don't answer the phone. Fifth, there are more and more criticisms of you. Gary said, "These signs are not only signs of cheating on my wife, but also a prelude to some people cheating on their wives, because I am interested in prevention. If he starts cheating on his wife-whether it's betrayal or betrayal for you to expose, these are preventive. "Lisa said that she found that her husband Matt was having an affair, and the nanny at home accidentally saw the open email address, which contained more than 200 emails from her lover. The nanny told Lisa at once. Gary said that men often hide their extramarital affairs from others, even if the extramarital affairs are over, they should hide them because they can't get rid of their guilt. If they want to face their wives, they need to remove the traces left, but they can't clean them up. " Reconciliation will always have negative effects, and women should not know what they should know. "For a woman, what you need most is a comprehensive understanding of what happened in order to protect yourself effectively in the future, such as" Who is she? " Where did you meet her? "When did it happen?" "Do you have anything to do with her?" "Do you still love her? "It's best not to ask details, let alone" Are you telling me what she said? ""Is she better in bed than me? ""What color is her underwear? " Once you have all the information, it will be difficult for you to get over this hurdle. "