They asked, what should I do? From the psychological differences between men and women in love, I talked about the differences between men chasing women and women chasing men and the corresponding strategies. After chatting for a long time, they still asked me trembling, if I do as you say, will I catch up with her?
I shook my head helplessly, not necessarily. They said, are you wrong? How could it not be?
Yes, it's my fault. I shouldn't say so much to emotional idiots. Breathing will kill you.
Do you really think that feelings are like programs, and you can get certain results by inputting correct instructions?
Don't be silly. If so, all the men and women in this world have been paired successfully. Where are there so many single dog?
Emotion is the most elusive thing in the world!
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My friend Xiaofeng is a rich second generation. He has worked hard enough. He graduated from a famous university and worked for a Fortune 500 company. He is also a decent Gao Fushuai man.
It stands to reason that such a person should not have emotional problems, right? Yes, there are still 10 20 girls chasing him, not to mention 180. It's just that the peach blossoms delivered to the door have made other friends greedy.
But he also has his troubles-the girl he likes doesn't like him. He chased for a long time, but the other party was still cold.
Is the gift not exquisite enough? Is the arranged date not romantic enough? Is he not good enough for her?
Neither.
According to her, it is "you are a good person, you are very kind to me, but I'm sorry, I really don't have that feeling between lovers." Let's be friends! "
He refused to give up: "but I don't lack friends, I just need you." I don't feel anything, we can cultivate it slowly, you don't have to refuse me in such a hurry! "
She came back with an apologetic expression and left him.
When Xiaofeng confided all this when she was drunk, a friend snickered that there were girls in Gao Fushuai who couldn't handle it. Xiaofeng said with a wry smile that such a girl is a good girl. It's a pity that I have nothing to attract them except excellent material conditions, but material conditions are the least important for them.
Actually, Xiaofeng is not the kind of man who has nothing but money. He also has his light, but his light doesn't shine in the corner of her heart.
You have it, she doesn't want it; What she wants, you don't want it You didn't do anything wrong, but you lost everything.
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There must be some, right? Pan Ke is a master and a master? About waving a letter? Swallows and leeches? Rui? Do you want to play with me? Sorry about the letter, okay? Are you afraid of losing your house? /span>。
Haha, what do they take feelings for?
Their thinking is typical customer thinking: I have no money, so you don't even look at me. When I get rich, you all kneel down.
Feelings are not transactions!
If it is a transaction, then many men who have lost their true love will be very happy, because in this way, as long as they strive to become strong, the lover who has lost and left will come back to them.
But the question is, are the girls who want to be together when they have money really the girls you like to toss and turn?
Admit it, some people, you can't catch up, it has nothing to do with whether you have money or not, only whether you are the right person for her.
You are not the right person. Her city gate is closed, let alone knocking. You can't open her heart by knocking at the door.
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I have spent a long time studying bubble science, which is called the knowledge of picking up girls. Based on psychological theories such as evolutionary psychology, it has developed a complete system, including both theoretical and practical methods.
I used to think that once I mastered bubble science, I got the key to pry open a girl's heart, and since then I have realized emotional freedom and easily won the heart of a beautiful woman among thousands of flowers.
When I mastered almost all the bubble theory and became familiar with all kinds of routines-chat routines, chat words, dating skills, and the strategy of pushing down girls-I found that these routines were not very helpful to a good relationship.
Showing high value, cold reading, suppressing, pushing and pulling, disqualification, fugue, frame control, emotional shock, planting heart anchor? Are all these bubble learning skills useful?
Useful. These skills have reached the point of mastering human nature and controlling people's hearts. PUA people who can skillfully use these skills are never short of girls, even? Pan-Huan Huan? Lucky magic tripod? /span>。
However, these skills only improve your success rate in pursuing girls. If you failed to pursue 100 girls 99 times before, you may succeed several times after mastering these skills. However, in a specific girl, these routines may be completely ineffective or even have the opposite effect.
I have a friend, whom we call a lover. He is a natural cheat on girls. In the third grade, he had slept with more than a dozen girls. After years of continuous cultivation, I can't see how deep his "skill" is. I just heard that he has finished the "100-person chop" and slept in the zodiac and the zodiac.
He is best at chasing girls. Will there be girls in love rat who can't catch up?
Yes He wandered around the Jianghu for many years and met a girl. He regretted it as soon as he saw her. He regretted that he had wasted too many years and met her so late. He regretted that he was not a good person and worried that he was not worthy of such a beautiful woman.
Routine has penetrated into his blood, and his words and deeds are full of routines. He approached confidently, thinking it was another simple temptation. Yes, he never thinks he is chasing girls. He just seduced them again and again and succeeded.
However, this time, he miscalculated. The girl looked at him in disgust. She turned a blind eye to his routine, his affection and his acting skills.
Seeing that she was going away, at this moment, he panicked and all the routines and skills disappeared instantly. He seems to be a clumsy little boy in love again. He forged an indissoluble bond with a sincere heart, but unexpectedly won her favor and finally got married.
After the e-invitation letter sent to me by WeChat, he added another sentence to me. He said that after learning so many routines, sometimes he still can't catch up with a girl he really likes. Some girls can't use routines, and some girls don't want to use routines. I wish you find the girl you can catch up with with only your heart as soon as possible.
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I often thought later, do you need so many external conditions or internal strengths to chase a girl?
With better conditions and smarter skills, it is indeed easier to chase girls, but is that the love we want?
No, what we really want in our hearts is such a girl: we don't need Gao Fushuai, we don't need brilliance, we don't need humor and erudition, we don't need to pretend who plays who, we just need to be ourselves. We can be with her, not because of anything else, but because we are ourselves, and she just likes us-real, sincere, ordinary, ordinary us.
People and things you like don't need to persist. Anything that requires you to persist hard is not something you really like, and it won't last long.
The right person doesn't need to try his best to chase. Nine times out of ten, you can't catch up with anyone who needs your best. Even if you catch up, it's hard to be happy for long.
So, stop chasing, you can't catch up. Look back, wait a minute. Snail girl has been running after you for 500 years, and it's time for you to have sex with her.
Why can't you even make an appointment?
The most obvious sign is that it is difficult for you to ask her out. You said make another date! She said yes. But when shall we make an appointment again? I didn't know you mentioned a date, but she said she wasn't available. You asked her when she would be free, and gave you a vague time "after the busy days". When can I make an appointment? Only God knows. Some girls don't refuse directly, perhaps because they are soft-hearted and want you to quit, or just think that someone is so kind and has an inexplicable vanity. No matter what kind of mentality, if you can't make an appointment, you'd better touch your nose and take a long vacation.
Not interested in your achievements.
You recently received a big order, and you got a promotion and a raise. You have so much positive news to share with her, and she just said congratulations politely. Men always hold their heads high in front of the person they like, and let the other person know that their performance will be a way to attract each other and increase their goodwill. But all this is only based on her liking for you, otherwise she will only think that you are arrogant and boastful, and your achievements have nothing to do with her. If you think she is cold when sharing these achievements, don't say it again, because she will roll her eyes again.
It's no use removing all obstacles.
You will judge the friends around her, and you think it will make her feel that you are the best person for her. Listen carefully, sowing discord or belittling others will not destroy your rival in love, but will make people think that you are too scheming and in charge. Who is suitable for her is her own feeling, and she has the final say. Even if she asks you for advice, you should continue to respect her ideas. If you speak ill of others and find that her face has fallen or become silent, maybe you really criticized the person she likes, then stop chasing all the men around her, and she won't like you.
Accompanying is just to fill the needs.
Do you think it will be promising to say a few words and make an appointment? She doesn't look for you when she is eating, drinking and having fun, but only when she is in a bad mood and needs company or assistance. To her, you are just a tool that fills her heart and is durable and easy to use. But love is not a battlefield longer than anyone's. You stay a little longer, and then do your duty. Finally, you will also watch others take the lead. You're just her logistics. If you find that no one is in good health and call you if something happens, don't chase. Tool people can always be replaced, and she won't like you.
I don't like your surprise.
Give her a gift unexpectedly, suddenly go to her without an appointment, sing a song downstairs to show love, and send roses to the company? . You think that girls love idol dramas, so making some romantic surprises from time to time should win her heart. But you forget, are you the hero of the idol drama? If you arrange a surprise, but you see her face is not moved but frightened, you should be self-aware, no matter how good the plot is, it is useless for the protagonist to be wrong. Don't think about what to do next. At this time, there is no way to win.
Really like the classic Japanese drama 10 1 proposal, not every girl can stand it. And the point is not to spill dog blood, but to be "sincere." If you can't catch up with her with your heart, in fact, any tricks are useless. Please stop harassing others, she just won't like you.
Sometimes I can choose to pretend to be blind, but don't think I am stupid.
Later, I didn't keep anyone, nor did I say such ridiculous things as not to go.
Did you find out? We can't disturb many people.
The world is like a giant doll machine. I just want to see you through the glass window.
Many girls you think you can't catch up with are actually not chased at all; Many boys you don't like actually have girlfriends; Many boys you like actually have boyfriends.
I had too many dreams when I was a child, and too many fantasies when I grew up!
I want to accompany you to be my pillow from Bohemian youth.
When I meet someone who says, "I'm so outspoken, so please forgive me," I just want to slap him and say, "It hurts so much when I hit someone, please bear with it."
Xu Zhimo once said, "In my life, there will at least one time that I forget myself for someone, asking for no result, no company, no ownership or even love, just meeting you in my most beautiful years."
The sentence is romantic, but the reality is sad. If you do this, nine times out of ten you will be black and blue.
Crazy like a person, pay all sincerity and patience for him, but still can't walk into his heart, and finally just a passer-by in his life. How sad it is to see him like others.
Mickey was lovelorn when he was alone.
Mickey likes seniors in high school. From the moment she met him, her world was full of him.
Mickey was so kind to his seniors that everyone around him was moved by a lot of confusion.
The senior will send water when he plays ball, and buy him food when he is hungry. She also applied to which school the senior entered, and even if she failed, she would stay in the same city with him.
Mickey is a lazy man. He never gets up early unless something important happens. However, just because the senior complained at night that a shop was delicious early but difficult to buy, she made chicken blood in the morning and went out to queue up for him at 6 o'clock in winter. It's really cold and dark, and there are few people on the road. Mickey is really a little scared, but she is willing to think that seniors have to eat, no matter how cold it is.
Mickey has been following in the footsteps of her predecessors for seven years. He went to work in another city after graduation, and she followed her as soon as she graduated.
After all these years, Mickey is still single, and so is her senior.
Mickey chased her senior to a strange city, thinking that she was a smooth road to sunshine avenue from now on. When we saw our senior, we never thought about being with her.
Last week, Mickey planned to tell the seniors again, and came to the downstairs of the seniors' dormitory with carefully prepared gifts and a lot of heartfelt words.
Mickey greeted the headmaster and his girlfriend in fear and trembling.
Mickey said that she was unwilling and couldn't figure out why she was so kind to him, but he took someone else's hand! ! !
Pay will be rewarded. This sentence applies to everything, but not to love. Love can't be gained by pleasing others. That's just that you are humble, and no matter what you do, you just touched yourself.
For someone who doesn't love you, you will never be moved.
Many times, we just treat a person well from our own point of view.
We always judge other people or things from our own perspective and personal preferences, and sometimes we even try to figure out each other's feelings with the attitude of "what I think you will look like".
But you know what? In fact, you only like the person you imagined, and you try your best to beautify him and surpass him ideologically.
You didn't love him, only to find out in the end that from beginning to end, it was just a play you played for yourself. It was a sleepless night in his life, and all you cried and smiled was yourself, only you applauded?
You have always been a one-man show. ? 1? 3? 1? three
Everyone has a feeling of self-pity, but it happened that he touched himself.
Sometimes, your kindness may become a burden to others. Your efforts may not be needed by others.
What is good for a person should be just right.
Don't be nice to others in the way you like, and don't be too humble, otherwise you will not only be unable to impress him, but also be looked down upon by him.
Don't continue to do things that only touch you.
Your kindness and your efforts should be left to the right people.
I hope you meet someone who touched you, and he touched you.