"Grateful heart, thank you, accompany me all my life, and let me have the courage to be myself ..."
The moon is full, and love warms people's hearts. September 14, 2008, Mid-Autumn Festival night, Longhai Courtyard, Erqi District, Zhengzhou City. Accompanied by the affectionate and melodious "Grateful Heart", a group of people surrounded a disabled person in a wheelchair in red to the community square. This is a unique "Mid-Autumn Festival old neighbor gathering", which brings us to a world of love that has lasted for 32 years-
32 years of misfortune followed.
The man in red is the protagonist of the "Moon Appreciation Meeting". His name is Gao Xinhai. He is 57 years old. He is an ordinary resident of Longhai Courtyard Community. When he cut in line at 1976 Zhao Gou Farm, he suddenly suffered from acute transverse myelitis and became paraplegic. He lost consciousness from the chest down and lost the ability to walk. The whole body, with only one pair of hands, can still be controlled freely.
However, the misfortune is not over yet. 1983, the pillar of the family and his second brother who had been taking care of him died of illness; 1987, his beloved mother suffered from colon cancer and underwent resection. 1997, eldest brother also had a resection because of lung disease; Three years ago, my father suffered from Alzheimer's disease.
After many misfortunes, Gao Xinhai is still optimistic. In Longhai Courtyard, neighbors can often see his bright smile and hear his hearty laughter. Behind the laughter, there are relatives, friends, neighbors, and the silent care of the party and the government. ...
For 32 years, relatives have been holding hands.
From a healthy and cheerful young man, he suddenly became a disabled person who could not take care of himself. Faced with bad luck, Gao Xinhai and his family have no time to be afraid and sad. From the moment he became ill, the whole family threw themselves into the fight against the disease.
When Gaoxinhai was ill, his father was a train driver in Urumqi Locomotive Depot, and his mother was sickly. His eldest brother Gao Xinsheng and his second brother Gao Xinmin in Zhengzhou did not hesitate to take up the responsibility of nursing, immediately asked for leave from the unit, and took Gao Xinhai to the road of seeking medical treatment. From Zhengzhou Railway Central Hospital, to Henan Medical College, and then to Peking Union Medical College Hospital, the two brothers have been accompanying them.
Disappointed to see a doctor, his unmarried second brother became the main force to look after Gao Xinhai. Because he is unconscious below the chest, Gao Xinhai can't control himself when he urinates, and someone must help him with his stool. First, he should put on Kaiser Lu, and then help him with his hands. Eating, dressing and helping him defecate ... became the homework that the second brother had to do every day. In order to take care of his younger brother, he put off getting married until he was 32.
However, something unexpected happened in the sky. Such a good brother 1983 died of liver cancer, and all kinds of concerns about his brother.
After my second brother died, my mother dragged her sick body to take care of her. "Gao Han is really a strong mother. After the cancer operation, she still insisted on taking care of the third child! " During the interview, I kept hearing such sighs from my neighbors.
But after all, my mother is old, and she often falls down at work. 1998, my 36-year-old sister, Gao Xinxia, took the initiative to apply to the company for "being laid off" in advance and took over the baton of taking care of her younger brother. I have been cooking for my brother and parents, washing clothes, doing some daily chores and running back and forth between the two families for ten years. Many people who have been to his house will never forget her silent work.
The power of family ties turned into the support of life, which made Gao Xinhai deeply attached to this incomplete but warm home.
32 years of neighbors and comrades spread love.
In 32 years, more than 10,000 days and nights, countless problems, in addition to family, there are more good neighbors and good "comrades-in-arms" who inject courage and strength into Gao Xinhai's life.
Gao Xinhai said that from 1976 to now, in 32 years, the love relay between good neighbors and good "comrades-in-arms" (educated youth friends who went to the countryside together that year) has never failed.
In the early years of illness, Chang San (Chang Sijun), Xiao Gui (Wang Jingui), Xiao Sheng (Sun Yusheng) and Fan Yue made the greatest contributions. When I was hospitalized in Railway Central Hospital, four people guarded the ward every day. In Longhai Courtyard, everyone knows that Sun Yusheng, who wears glasses, loves cleanliness, but it is he who buries his head under the sheets and pours shit into the pot every day, just like his family.
From the goalkeeper of the railway youth football team before his illness to the "lame man" who can't move without being hugged by others, Gao Xinhai's heart has experienced ups and downs. Chang Sijun, who lives across the hall, found his mind and ran to squeeze into a bed with him. He "talks while lying down" every day: the girl next door, the World Cup, the star diego maradona, the responsibility of life ... The truth finally resolved the sadness.
There were not enough people to see a doctor in Wuhan, so the neighbors of the hospital closed his canteen and walked for more than a month, ignoring his wife who was suffering from polio at home. The treatment didn't improve, and the neighbors pinned their hopes on rehabilitation training. In groups of four, two people raise their arms, and two people pull their legs and push their backs, twice a day, and persevere. ...
Work, school. Around 1982, Chang Sijun and other partners walked out of Longhai Courtyard one after another, and Sun and others took over the second stick of love.
In the past six years, Gao Xinhai's condition has become increasingly stable, and the care of his neighbors has continued. Handle work-related injury identification and medical expenses reimbursement ... friends are enthusiastic to help. The Zijingshan Building opened, and neighbors pushed him around the mall. In a ball game, his friends pushed him to the locomotive stadium; Enjoy the snow together in winter and enjoy the cool together in summer; When to take medicine and when to change the fuel tank, everyone remembers to pay off more than he does. ...
The World Cup once every four years is a feast for friends. At that time, golfers and neighbors came to Gaoxinhai to buy some beer, bring some side dishes, and sometimes even their wives and children to relive the past and release the passion of life. They want to make his life full of care and his heart full of care.
As time goes by, the true feelings remain the same. This man is busy with his work, and that man goes on, stick after stick. The love for Longhai Courtyard has never been compromised.
Kitten (Wang Zhiping): He retired early because of an eye injury. He took the initiative to take a bath with Gao Xinhai. "Every time I take a shower, I am in a wheelchair. He pushed me away and went to the nursery bathhouse near my home. First, I got out of the wheelchair, took off my clothes and was carried into the big pool. After washing my back, I put on my clothes and put them in a wheelchair. Then I pushed it home. " Gao Xinhai said, "Wash for ten years until the nursery bathhouse closes."
Laobian (Zhao Xinyi): Over the past 32 years, he has become a full-time hairdresser of Gao Xinhai. Let Lao Gao look relaxed and he will feel comfortable. Wake up in the morning, go to Lao Gao's house to have a look, then "conveniently" wash your face, dump the urine discharged at night, catch up with Lao Gao's defecation, rub your stomach and dig with your hands. These have become his habits for many years.
Lao Chen (Chen Huiyun): He was hired as a compound cleaner two years ago and was infected by love. Together with another cleaner, Lao Li, he became a frequent visitor to Gao Xinhai's home. Take him to the moped, fix the car, clean up the housework … do whatever you catch up with.
Lao Jia (Jia Liucheng): I have to talk to the high-tech submarine every day. I will bring him a handful of soy sauce and a bottle when I buy food.
Yang Jizeng: After the death of his second brother, Gao Xinhai was extremely depressed. Yang Jizeng saw it in his eyes and immediately took his two-month-old daughter and milk powder diapers to his house for a whole week. ...
"Too many, too many." Gao Xin Haiyang said with tears in his eyes that almost everyone in the compound had helped him. After a while, he came again. Old friends are old, and so are young people Sun Lei and Yu Yang.
32 years of sunshine has warmed the party's heart.
"Our disabled children are coming." Recalling 198 1 year 10, I didn't know who shouted a word when I went to the Civil Affairs Bureau of Erqi District to go through the work-related injury formalities, which made Gao Made Xinhai extremely excited. He said that this sentence will always be the warmest scenery in his heart, and the government really treats us as children.
In the past 32 years, Erqi District, Yima Road Office and the community have taken him as the key assistance object. When the first batch implemented the minimum living allowance, they gave him the full minimum living allowance and disability allowance, and leaders at all levels should go home to express their condolences on holidays.
In front of Gao Xinhai's home, there is a slope for the disabled. This is a community coordinated railway system specially tailored for the high-tech sea. From the slope, Gao Xinhai can drive a disabled moped directly to his bedside.
At the head of Gao Xinhai's bed, there is a square signboard with the mobile phone numbers of the secretary and director of the office and community written on it. As long as there is something at home, feel free to contact. Gao Xinhai seldom makes this call, because the community director comes very frequently, once a day, and these neighbors come several times a day, so everything is solved at any time.
"The party and the government gave me confidence, good neighbors gave me courage, and good comrades gave me warmth. How can I live without laughing? " On the Mid-Autumn Festival, Gao Xinhai's words, like the bright moonlight, touched the heartstrings of everyone present.
Never leave for 32 years, never leave for 32 years. Love, produced in Longhai Courtyard, gathered in Longhai Courtyard and spread in Longhai Courtyard. It is this kind of love that transcends the kinship of flesh and blood, quietly soothes the sufferings and misfortunes in life, turns into a symbol of joy, turns into rain and dew that soothes the soul, and nourishes the soul of every family in this century-old courtyard.