Cold war with his girlfriend, she made up with others.

"I don't think I'm fit to be with you. I don't think you're fit to be with me, that's all." Yesterday, Xiaoyun (a pseudonym), a 25-year-old female college student, complained to reporters that she had quarreled with her boyfriend. Her boyfriend said, "Now that the Cold War can be handled well, let's be ordinary friends." I think my boyfriend is lying to me. I think my boyfriend is breaking up with me. I don't really want to go on with him. Xiaoyun and her boyfriend once complained to reporters about how her boyfriend cheated her. Why didn't she break up with her boyfriend? Why does her boyfriend always apologize to her immediately after quarreling with her? Yesterday, the reporter consulted Tang Jing, a psychology professor and emotional consultant of Chongqing Normal University.

1. How did her boyfriend cheat her?

Xiaoyun is 25 years old and lives in an apartment on Chunxi Road, Nanping, Nan 'an District. Xiaoyun said that when she was a freshman, her boyfriend worked in an insurance company. They often meet and chat, and sometimes go shopping together to buy clothes and eat together. But after their junior year, they never went out together again. "He told me that he had a project to do, but I didn't know what it was called." In June this year, Xiaoyun was pregnant, but there was no news from her boyfriend, so Xiaoyun suddenly broke up at the end of August. In the face of her boyfriend's request to break up, Xiaoyun didn't mention anything. "He said that this matter has not been properly handled", but in Tang Jing's view, the probability of this happening is very high.

How did he apologize to her?

Xiao Yun: I think the way he apologized to me was to apologize immediately after the quarrel. Every time I quarrel with him, he will apologize first, and he also says nothing. He is by my side, and we will solve any problems together. He gets my praise every time he apologizes. Tang Jing: This kind of apology is inappropriate. In love, when you can't fully understand each other, apologizing is to make them understand more. But if a man apologizes to you immediately after every quarrel with you, you will feel that it is normal for this man not to love. If a man apologizes to you in time after every quarrel, it means there is something wrong with him.

3. Is there any good way to save this relationship?

Tang Jing: Xiao Yun shouldn't run away from this relationship like Xiao Yun. You can take the initiative, lose your temper and make her apologize, and change the subject to make her forgive you. If boys encounter such problems, girls must actively deal with them. If your boyfriend doesn't want to break up with you, but he wants to break up because he is too disappointed, then you can tell him something like "I like you the way you are" first, and then guide him to find other members of the opposite sex to exchange feelings. If you have an argument with a friend before the cold war, you can break up with him first and then communicate with him.