Real education needs to guide children to become an independent personality, rather than taking it for granted directly. Teach them to be confident but not complacent, independent but not isolated. Stimulate their imagination, doubt, self-care and humility ... All good education is full of wisdom and heartfelt care.
Father's strategy
My son is very dissatisfied with his work. He said angrily to his father, "My boss doesn't care about me at all. I'll slap his desk another day and quit. "
My father said, "I suggest you thoroughly understand all the trade skills, business documents and company organization of your company, and even learn how to repair the glitch of the copier, and then resign." In this way, you regard the company as a free learning place. Don't leave until it's all over. Don't you just catch your breath and gain a lot? "
My son listened to his father's advice, sharpened his gun at the last minute, and even stayed in the office after work to study the method of business documents. A year later, the father asked about his son's work: "You have probably learned it by now, so you are ready to strike the table and quit!" " "
"But I found that in the past six months, my boss was impressed with me and recently entrusted me with an important task. Now I am the red man of the company! " The son said proudly.
"This is exactly what I expected," my father said with a smile. "At the beginning, your boss didn't value you because you were incompetent and didn't study hard. Later, you worked hard, and of course you will be impressed. It is a common mistake that people only complain about the boss without reflecting on themselves. "
That's no reason.
On the first day of the third grade, in the physical health class, the teacher hung a human anatomy map on the back wall. The names and positions of important bones and muscles are marked on the map. That painting has been hanging there all semester.
In the final exam, as soon as we entered the classroom, the anatomical map was put away. There is only one question in the whole paper: "List the names and parts of the main human bones."
We protested almost in unison: "We have never learned."
"This is not a reason." The teacher smiled and said, "That knowledge has been hanging on the wall for months." We barely answered for a while, and then the teacher put away the test paper and tore it into pieces. "always remember." He advised us, "Education is not just about learning what others tell you."
If you are a teacher.
One day before reading, I went to the classroom to help. I saw a classmate lying on the table in the back row. I picked up a book and patted him on the back. He suddenly looked up and said, "What are you doing?" I didn't sleep! "A full face of arrogance
I can't wait to get rid of him at once. At this point, the students don't know what happened between us. I tried to restrain myself and keep my head cool. I smiled and said, "What do you say, what about your teacher lying on the table?" Oh, by the way, I heard that your composition is good. Write an article "If I were a teacher". "
He didn't speak at that time, and I continued to patrol the classroom. After lunch that day, this classmate came to my office and said, "Teacher, I was wrong. I shouldn't be so rude. " I could see that he really repented, so I naturally forgave him.
The post office is "irresponsible"
A girl fell in love with her teacher. Unable to extricate herself, she couldn't help sending a letter to the teacher. However, when the letter was put into the mailbox, the girl immediately regretted it: the teacher already has a happy family, and she is still so young. What will the teacher think after reading the letter? If classmates and parents know, how to face it? The more girls think about it, the more afraid they are, and the original "hot" love is suddenly scared by fear. In order to escape the robbery, she even thought of death. But as the days passed, the teacher's expression, as always, was still in class with a bright smile.
One day, while chatting with students, the teacher accused the post office of being "irresponsible" and his letters were often lost. The girl was relieved that her letter was "lost" by luck.
A few years later, when the college graduate visited the teacher who had fallen in love with him and still respected him, the teacher gave her this letter that had been preserved for many years. At this time, she suddenly realized that she quickly stood up and bowed to the teacher: "Thank you, teacher! Thank you, teacher! "
No burden
There is such a family, the son's grades are very poor, getting worse and worse, and once he was the last in the class.
The father took his son's test paper and said with a smile, "Great son, you won't have any burden in the future!" " The son asked in surprise, "Dad, are you sick?" "The father said," I'm not sick. Think about it. What burden does the last runner have? "Don't worry that someone will overtake you, but as long as you run forward, you will certainly make progress."
My son was very happy when he was inspired.
The second time, I got the 29th place in my class. When the father saw his son's test paper, he said excitedly, "Great son, you have improved by more than ten places than last time!" "
The third time, my son got the 10 in the class, and my father said excitedly. "Miao Zi, you are amazing! There are only 9 places short of the first place. "
In this way, no matter whether the child's grades are good or bad, the father always insists on positive encouragement and never scolds, but the child has undergone unexpected changes.
You taught me.
One day, mother and children went to a building to do business. When they entered the hall, the elevator was entering. They hurried to catch the elevator. At this moment, an old woman came in from behind. The young mother instinctively stepped back and let the old woman enter the elevator first. At this time, the elevator was full, so the mother and daughter had to stand quietly at the door of the elevator and wait for the next trip.
After that, I took the elevator again. This time, there were only mother and daughter and an old man in the elevator. When the elevator reached the ground floor, the door opened, but the daughter standing at the door gave way back and said, "Grandpa, after you." Grandpa said, "After you, son. Grandpa walks slowly. " My daughter still refused to go first by herself, insisting that grandpa get out of the elevator first.
Mother stroked her daughter's head happily and asked, "Why did you let grandpa get out of the elevator first?" The daughter said, "You taught me just now!"
What a pity.
American Mrs Steiner is a famous early educator. One day, the child asked Mrs. Steiner, "I want to go to my classmate's house to play, can I?" Mom said, "Yes, but you must come back before 12."
But the child arrived home 20 minutes later than scheduled. When Mrs Steiner saw the child coming back, she said nothing but pointed to the clock on the wall. Knowing that he was late, the child immediately said apologetically, "It's my fault."
After dinner, the child changed clothes quickly, because she goes to the movies with her mother every Tuesday. At this time, Mrs. Steiner showed the child the clock again and said, "It's too late today to watch the play and the movie." The child shed tears sadly. Mrs Steiner didn't stop there, but said something very regrettable and intriguing: "What a pity!"
In the face of the child's fault, although Mrs. Steiner only said a few words and didn't take any punishment measures, she made the child understand a simple truth: if the mother's request is correct, you must definitely do it, or you will pay the price.
Silence is better than sound.
Just after the first class of a class, I was in trouble.
That day, I walked into the classroom excitedly with a book and saw two boys fighting in the class. At this time, my classmates' eyes shot at me together, and the two boys stopped playing. One of them looked at me with her hands akimbo and her head held high, obviously ignoring me. In fact, before this, I had learned about his "background"-naughty, and the teacher couldn't help him. Judging from his swagger, I know he won't listen to anything at this time, and the best way is to treat it coldly. So, when nothing happened, I went straight to the podium and said, "Students, please sit down, let's start the class …" He looked at me doubtfully and sat down in his seat a little at a loss.
After class, I still didn't say anything about it. Until the afternoon, when he saw that I still didn't mean to criticize, he seemed a little uneasy. Finally, after school, he knocked on the door of my office and admitted his mistake. From then on, he seldom got into trouble.
interest
In a stage test, a boy got 59 points in Chinese. He came to me and said, "Teacher, please add 1 to my composition, just 1. Please! " I said: "the composition will never add points; However, I can change your total score to 60-I will lend it to you 1. But you have to think about it. You can't borrow 1 minute for nothing, but you have to pay interest. If you borrow 1, you can return 10. I will deduct 10 from your next exam. How's it going? If you think it's not worth it, don't borrow it. " The boy gritted his teeth and said, "I'll borrow it." Results In the second exam, he got 9 1 in Chinese, deducted 10, and left 8 1.
Glass door
The door of the school auditorium has not been kicked for almost a day since it was installed. The school tried many ways, but the door was often kicked, mended and mended.
As soon as the new headmaster took office, the logistics director explained the situation to the headmaster and suggested replacing it with an iron gate. The headmaster smiled and said, "Don't worry, I made the strongest door."
Soon, the old door was demolished and the new door was installed. I haven't been kicked once since I installed it. Children always slow down involuntarily when they walk to the door.
It turns out that this is a glass door.
password
When the teacher asks questions in class, some students always raise their hands. The teacher asks him to answer the questions, but he can't answer them, causing the following students to snicker.
After class, the teacher asked him why he did it. He said that if he didn't raise his hand when the teacher asked questions, his classmates would call him a fool after class.
So, the teacher agreed with him to hold his left hand high when he really knew, and raise his right hand when he didn't. Gradually, the classmate raised his proud left hand more and more, and answered the teacher's classroom questions better and better. This child, who might have drowned in too much ridicule, has also changed from a poor student to a good student.
tell a lie
One weekend, I made an appointment with my son After work, he came to pick me up by bike, but after two hours as agreed, my son hasn't come back yet.
While waiting, I happened to meet my son's colleague. He said that my son went to the movies with several people, so I have to be patient.
After a while, my son came back. To my surprise, he lied that the car broke down on the road.
"I can wait 10 hours, but I can't stand you lying to me, son." I turned around angrily and decided to walk home by myself. My son stepped forward and tried to explain something. I went on to say, "I'm angry, not with you, but with myself." You see, I have realized that I am a failed father. Now I will walk home and reflect on this 18 km road. "
My son has been pushing the car behind me for more than three hours. Since then, my son has never lied.
Dang Fanwen
When correcting a girl's composition, Miss Li found that it was plagiarized. At that time, he wanted to write the word "plagiarism" in his composition book. Can you calm down and think about whether she will correct her mistake by doing so? Miss Li thought twice, called her to the office and said to her with a smile, "Your composition has improved. I believe you must have spent a lot of time and effort. The teacher wants to praise you in front of the class. Would you please correct your composition and read it aloud in class? " The little girl didn't speak and left with her head down.
The next day, she came with a revised composition. Miss Li found that she had rewritten her composition. Although not brilliant, she wrote it herself and the teacher praised her. When reading aloud in class, she was very confident and won applause. Since then, the girl has developed a strong interest in writing.
Program arranger
Zhang Siming, a teacher in the middle school attached to Peking University, once encountered such a thing: a student in the class likes playing computer very much, which can be said to have reached the level of obsession and high programming level, but it has delayed a lot of homework. In particular, he doesn't like to learn chemical formula, thinking that it depends on memory. With computers, it is meaningless to learn these things. As a result, his chemistry exam was not ideal.
Teacher Zhang went to talk to him and gave him a "computer" question: Can a computer automatically balance a formula input? The classmate was refreshed at once and began to study when he got home. But in order to write a program, he must first understand the balance principle of chemical formula. Soon, he wrote a program on the basis of understanding the chemical balance method.
Mr. Zhang seized his eagerness to prove his programming strength and raised the second and third questions one after another: Can any chemical formula in the book be balanced with your programming? Besides simple formulas, does your programming also apply to more complex formulas? These two questions not only promote students' review and memory of chemical formulas, but also deepen students' study of chemical formulas.
Facing the progress of students, Mr. Zhang fully affirmed his programming strength, encouraged him to learn all subjects well, and created a prerequisite for him to be admitted to the computer department of the university. Since then, students' learning has become more conscious and active. Because through teacher Zhang's guidance, he knows two things: one is that he can learn well, and the other is that he must learn well.
cheat
Once, the school held a parent-teacher conference, and grandma went to school instead of her parents who worked outside the home. Xiaoshun was in a state of anxiety all afternoon, thinking: the teacher will definitely tell grandma how her grades are in a mess.
Finally, grandma came back, and Xiaoshun waited for grandma to scold. But grandma's face is radiant and looks happy. He looked surprised. I didn't expect the teacher to tell grandma that she did a good job.
Later, Xiaoshun went to college, and he was the first to visit the primary school teacher in the summer vacation. Speaking of this, I only heard the teacher say to him regretfully, "I said a lot of bad things about you that day, but the next day, your reaction surprised me." Since then, your grades have soared, and I have been thinking ... At this time, Xiaoshun realized that it was grandma's kind deception that saved him.