Sweet:
I think I want too much, I can only say a lot. I won't think about it for the time being, I don't want to be too sad, but I don't want it. So carefree can't be realized for the time being.
If the work is not done well, the leader will say that if the work is done well, there will be more work, which will make you tired when you are on a business trip, tired when you work overtime, and tired when you don't rest at noon.
Ding Anqi:
"Want" is a kind of desire. People don't have to wait until the desire is satisfied before they are carefree, because the desire can never be satisfied. We cultivate our minds by learning to live comfortably in this imperfect world and dancing in chains. This is a realistic philosophy of happiness in life.
If a person has no desire, or no desire from the heart, he can feel at ease, which is a very high level. But if a person deceives himself by saying "I don't want anything" because he can't get what he wants, it is a helpless self-deception. This is not "letting go", but an escape. The law of life is: you can't escape what you really want. If you don't pursue hard, you will live in depression and disappointment. Therefore, the ultimate solution to the pain is to really face your own desires and manage your own behavior.
Sweet:
I can understand what Ying Jie said before, so I went to the back to face my own desires and manage my actions. How can I be carefree when it comes to reality?
The project has to pass the index, but it can't.
This project must be completed and has been postponed.
The finished equipment is out of order.
Pig teammates are in trouble (or they may be themselves).
It seems that what I said is a very realistic problem. Once I didn't do overtime well, I thought, all the problems are about my ability, and I was even more sad in an instant.
Ding Anqi:
Sweet, there is a word in medicine called "living with illness", in fact, so is our life. You feel that some things in life can't be as you wish, so you can't live a carefree life. The subtext is "as long as reality can't satisfy my wishes, I will suffer", but why does reality have to satisfy your wishes? The fact is that the reality will not be transferred by anyone's will. If a person refuses to be unhappy in life, he is rejecting the truth. The only way to solve the pain is to accept the fact first and then try to change it. The significance of accepting the truth is that our emotions are no longer against reality, and the psychological energy saved can be used to change the status quo.
Sweet:
I accept the reality, but I feel that when the reality is difficult, there are worries.
I can live a happy life, for example, I can eat ice cream with toothache. But toothache still exists, I think so, and there will be anxiety.
Ding Anqi:
In meditation, there is a state in which you feel the physical pain and allow it to exist completely, but you are not occupied by it mentally, just like watching another person observe, experience and analyze your physical pain. A good meditation master can be physically ill, but his spirit is free, bright and carefree. Although it is difficult for ordinary people to do it, you can try to exercise yourself in this direction.
Sweet:
Does Yingjie mean that you can be carefree under any circumstances? You can watch the pain when you are sick, and you can calm your mood when you are anxious, like this?
Ding Anqi:
Yes, that's it!