For example, the hit drama "Anjia" some time ago vividly explained to everyone that the treatment of four daughters plus one piece is not as good as that of a son. It doesn't matter if a daughter doesn't eat for a day, but a son can't eat instant noodles for a meal. Why do you have a daughter? This is to give birth to a son. When the daughter grows up and makes money, she will also send flowers to her brother or younger brother.
Therefore, in the eyes of such parents, the value of a daughter's existence is for boys.
It is said that art comes from life, and the TV series "Anjia" is indeed fictional, but this story also exists in reality. What is even more chilling is that this son-preference man is not the child's father or grandfather, but the child's grandmother and a woman.
A six-year-old girl was scolded by her grandmother for a piece of braised pork.
Relatives Xiao Jiang and her husband, working outside all the year round, put a pair of children in their hometown and gave them to their grandparents for care. Jiang Ye knows her mother-in-law very well, and she also knows that her mother-in-law prefers boys to girls. But on second thought, it was difficult for Xiao Jiang to treat the two children completely fairly, so he left with peace of mind.
Because Xiao Jiang and his wife miss their children very much every day, they also have video calls with their children from time to time, but one night when Xiao Jiang and his wife came home from work, they found that the video calls with their daughters were somewhat abnormal.
That night, Xiao Jiang's mother-in-law took her son out for a walk, leaving only her daughter at home, but her mother and daughter were chatting. Xiao Jiang suddenly found something wrong with her daughter's left face. After understanding the situation, she realized that it was because her daughter was beaten by her grandmother.
Xiao Jiang was also very uncomfortable after listening to it. She called her husband to listen to her daughter's crying. It turned out that the cause of the incident was only because the daughter ate a piece of braised pork cooked by her grandmother for her son. Xiao Jiang, in particular, once again remembered her mother-in-law's attitude when she gave birth to her daughter, and she was even more unhappy. She decided to discuss with her husband to take her daughter over.
The harm of son preference
1. Psychological inferiority
Maybe many children who grew up under the concept of son preference will think so, right? Is it a crime to be a girl? . Because they are young and immature, they can't understand why they are treated differently, so under the frequent accusations of their parents, they will think that everything is their fault.
After that, children will gradually feel inferior, even if they grow up and know the truth, it is still difficult to get rid of this negative psychology.
2. Unsafe
If children lack the care of their parents, they will gradually build their own psychological fence to keep outsiders away, but they are eager for others to be kind to them. And children with such ambivalence naturally cannot get along with others correctly when they grow up. How can we talk about happiness?
3. Three incorrect views
Many times, son preference is a female role in the family, but why bother women? It is conceivable that girls who grew up in such a family will continue the past when they get married and have children in the future. In fact, this is also because the correct three views were not formed when I was young, so I brought the tragedy to the next generation.
Interpersonal relationship is also one of the important ways to determine our happiness in life, and it is also an important way to make us happy.
Therefore, whether it is a boy or a girl, family harmony is very important and children's interpersonal relationships will be harmonious. This is the greatest contribution made by parents to the happy growth of their children.