Listen to the first half of the sentence well, and the second half will blow up! There is no buffer space, I can't wait to find a stepmother for my daughter in my dream!
Later, knowing the specific details of the quarrel, I suddenly moved my heart;
1. When he dreamed of my death, he was very sad. After waking up, he touched me. Hold me in your arms and sleep peacefully;
His first reaction is what about his daughter? If I die, my daughter will not get the best maternal love, which makes my husband very afraid;
In fact, have you found that the more intimate people are, the more likely they are to have misunderstandings in communication and cause overreaction?
Because close people tend to express their results directly in a safe and relaxed state and ignore the details of communication, while those who receive information tend to ignore thinking and etiquette when responding.
In the book "Instantly Obtaining the Conversation of the Other Party", a communication principle "three seconds principle" is mentioned.
Chris Krayingkai, a psychologist at Wieseman College in Massachusetts, USA, filmed a conversation between a career counselor and a client. Top listening experts can make the parties feel warm and comfortable, make them feel safe, and thus express their true feelings defenseless.
Chris Crainkay summed up the conversation style of top consultants as the "three-second principle"
If you wait for three seconds to respond to anything you say after the other person has finished speaking, and then calmly continue the topic with "hmm" and "yes", this is the "three-second rule".
Although my husband directly told me the result of his dream, his expression was obviously dignified. This is the moment when I need to listen patiently and hope to comfort him.
But I couldn't restrain my emotions because I only heard the result, and an avoidable war broke out.
If I use the "three-second principle" communication method and pause for three seconds, my mood will be buffered. Then be calm and don't make any critical response. He can patiently express the details of things, and no misunderstanding will happen!
Are there any misunderstandings about impulsive communication in life?
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