-Who needs home schooling more?
Grasping well in the early stage of family education can get twice the result with half the effort. In recent years, the educational reform in schools has been very hot. I think some teachers here are more aware of the resistance to reform. What the principal and teacher say most is that parents force us to take the exam-oriented education. Quality education in schools has changed a lot, but parents don't do it. Parents said that the broadsword of the college entrance examination was hanging there. What should we do? In the words of a professor at Suzhou University, this is the asymmetry of educational literacy and development of the whole society. Every parent's eyes are fixed on Tsinghua Peking University, and all their hopes are pinned on their children. It is difficult to admit the differences between children and accept the fact that one's children are not as good as others'. Parents believe that only exam-oriented education can realize this desire, so now school quality education and exam-oriented education are together. However, how do children live? How do they feel? What is their quality of life? Is there any stamina for sustainable development? Parents won't wake up until the last moment. I often read in the newspaper that a child committed suicide before the college entrance examination, and the parents of a master student who committed suicide a few days ago reflected, which is really worth studying. Parents have trained their children to master's degree. According to our usual view, children become talents. How can this end? What are we missing? We should discuss it. How can we educate our children well? What qualities can they have to help them grow? Many parents don't understand. Some parents will say that their education is low and they can't manage it, so let others manage it: in order to let their children learn more, they have invited many tutors to send their children to the teacher's house, or simply let them board at the teacher's house. But can parents educate their children well with a high level of education? Actually, it is not. There are several professors in a university. They are excellent in knowledge and conduct, but the two children don't know why. They don't like their parents at all. They didn't want to study and made no progress, which made the two professors lose face and feel that their lives were a failure. What is the reason? I understand that those two children grew up in the countryside with their grandparents when they were young. This is the problem. If parents have good cultural literacy, but these cultural literacy does not directly affect their children, it is empty and full of poetry books. Psychologists have specially studied that children's personality structure begins to form at the age of two or three. Although people are growing all their lives, childhood is the most important thing. At that time, all the foundations-habits, hobbies, interests and values were just beginning to take shape. You have led him on his way, and he has no problem moving forward by himself. But if you don't guide him well, then these habits, interests and values will be confused, and it will take a lot of effort to change them in the future. Recently, Beijing TV Station has a TV series called True Love Don't Sleep. It is about the father selling blood for his children to go to college, but the children are eating, drinking and having fun in the city, and boasting that his father is a contractor and rich. Later, because of poor academic performance, many subjects failed and were expelled from school, but the children didn't take it seriously and lied to their families that they were studying. Such plots are not fictional, and there are many in real life. Nowadays, parents try their best to create conditions for their children and try their best to choose schools for their children, from kindergarten to university. Many parents are working-class people. Some couples' monthly wages add up to one or two thousand yuan, and the school selection fee is ten thousand yuan. They are also willing to spend money. They said to create conditions for children. First-year students look forward to the typhoon. In fact, children nowadays work hard, even harder than us adults. There is not a child who is unwilling to learn well. But here's what I don't understand. Since the environment is good and children work hard, universities have been expanding their enrollment in recent years. Why is the problem of education getting more and more serious? Why are there always problems? Some children killed their parents, some committed suicide, and some were tired of learning and missed since childhood. A parent told me that when the typhoon "Mai Sha" came, the children were all very happy, saying that it was good that the typhoon came and there was no need to go to school. Will the typhoon come or not? This child is only in the first grade and has only been in school for a few days! Why don't children love school when they are so young? Actually, you can't blame the children. There must be objective reasons. Marx said that education is by no means a simple cultural transmission. The reason why education is education is precisely because it is an "awakening" of personality and soul. This is the core of education. People's growth is inseparable from education-school education, family education and social education. But which is the most important? I think it's family education. Some people say that family education is puzzling and there is no value standard to measure it. In fact, whether you intentionally or unintentionally, consciously or unconsciously, parents influence and educate their children every day. I just participated in the selection of the top ten families (parents) of overseas students in Zhejiang Overseas Chinese Federation. One family material was written simply, called "Let Interest Be the Master", which was almost ignored by us. Take a closer look, it's amazing that all the children in their family are very good. One of the children is a professor at the University of Heidelberg, Germany, who studies quantum information and has made many pioneering achievements in the field of international physics. He was treated well in Germany, and Germany tried every means to keep him, but he returned to China. Before his grandmother died, she left a last note asking him to return to the motherland after studying abroad. Now he is a professor at China University of Science and Technology. Because of his outstanding achievements, he was named one of the top ten outstanding young people in China in 2004. What parents do has a great influence on their children's life. Parents should not be teachers. There is a saying that parents are children's first teachers, which I don't quite agree with. I think this sentence is far from pointing out the importance of parents. Parents are not teachers, but teachers teach students knowledge. Parents are the guide of children's life, the forerunner of children's education, the helmsman of family education, the role model of children and the assistant of children's success. American psychologist Steinberg said that the main way of family education is to lead by example and do it by intuition. Tao Xingzhi said: "Life is education". Very reasonable. Everything is education, educating children through parents' words and deeds. And everything you say and do is not prepared in advance. You rely on intuition. This is the biggest difference from school education. There are many differences between parents and teachers. Teachers are specially trained. Schools educate children according to their age, but parents are different. Parents always face the growth of their children. The contents of school and family education are also different. Schools impart knowledge and parents impart feelings, will and values. If parents also act as teachers, children have little nutrition and motivation to grow up. Regarding family education, Steinberg put forward four principles: first, parents set an example; Second, parents should make rules and bind their children according to the rules; The third is to help children cultivate independence; The fourth is to establish and implement the goal of raising children. Because family education is intuitive, parents' family education literacy is very important, and literacy determines the level of intuition. Parents should know the basic characteristics and principles of family education and be able to distinguish the most complicated problems in family education. For example, children are sensitive to life order when they are 2-4 years old, and sensitive to social rules when they are 2.5-6 years old, that is, before entering primary school, at home. But how to make children obey the rules and be creative? This is really difficult and needs a kind of wisdom. The first understanding of family education literacy: family life style is of great significance to children's success, and every parent should pay attention to its choice, creation and adjustment. Some families have better conditions, and parents are busy with work. Although they go home to talk with their children, their daily lives are either given to nannies or sent to boarding schools. Children should live with their parents. Let the child stay with the nanny, and the nanny will take care of everything for the child. The quality of such education is definitely low. One parent has a successful career and a busy job. For the sake of children's growth, he carefully selected a teacher for his children, and let them live in the teacher's house and live with the teacher for six years. The child got good grades and good conduct, and became a monitor. However, when this parent found me, he still felt very depressed. He said two things were very bad. First of all, children are not interested. After finishing his homework, he would rather sit in a daze than go out to play with his companions, saying it's boring, but what's the point? Don't! In addition, children dare not be responsible. What's the use of such people if they dare not say or do it in the future? This parent provides such an environment for the child, and what the child learns can only be his teacher's values and lifestyle. In fact, even if you have little time at home, you can take time to chat with your children and convey your feelings and values. Now he looks at his son and feels as if he is looking at someone else's children, because the children's emotions and values are different from his own. For family education, we should pay attention to the guidance of the environment on values. In some families, parents do nothing all day and play poker and mahjong at home. Children living in this environment will not be too diligent. Many surveys show that among the savings of urban and rural residents, the savings for children's education exceed the savings for housing and old-age care; The cost of children is much higher than that of parents, and the expenditure spent on children has accounted for more than 50% of the income of husband and wife. There is a couple whose monthly income adds up to about 1 000 yuan. But children want to buy a mobile phone for 2000 yuan, and children are not good enough. After a week, the child lost his mobile phone and clamored for another one. The couple borrowed money to help the child buy one. We should think about why children do this. Who let children be so inconsiderate to their parents? It is the parents themselves. Family cultural atmosphere is the sunshine, air and rain for children to grow up. In many ways, parents are irreplaceable. As a parent, you should take up your responsibilities. The second understanding: we should pay attention to the rational construction of family education resources. It is necessary to make effective use of high-quality educational resources and form a situation in which all kinds of educational resources are managed together. In family education, we should see clearly how many influencing factors there are and know how to choose and identify them. Today's children are surrounded by televisions and computer bags since childhood. From the perspective of education, it is best for children before the age of 3 to fall in love with books first, and then contact TV when they are older, so that children can enjoy reading first. Since the birth of XXX, a girl from Foha, many parents have the desire to send their children to Harvard. But have you ever understood? What kind of university is Harvard? It is a university that trains citizens of the world, and it enables students to participate in discovering, explaining and creating knowledge or forming new ideas. So does your child have the potential to become a citizen of the world? How does domestic education correspond to Harvard education? If you want to carry out your plan, you should constantly guide your children to think and explore these problems and put education and training into practice. The third understanding: Family education needs to respect children's growth laws, so that children's subjectivity and sustainable development can be fully developed. Children feel and experience development in the interaction with the environment. There is a kind of parents who never deliberately let their children learn anything when they are young, but give them enough space and time to play, play and have personal interests, and constantly discover their interests, their personality characteristics and their "materials". He knows proper guidance, which not only makes children have a happy childhood, but also stands out from the crowd, from an ugly duckling to a white swan. The fourth understanding: Family education is expressed through creative love. Family education is expressed through love. The essence of love is the ability to give others growth and development. Parents should have knowledge, ability, wisdom and art of love. Let children be infected, experienced, understood, appreciated and rewarded. Some people become criminals, and it is precisely because they lack the care of their parents that they have hatred for society and others. The practice of creating sex is manifested in cultivating a good emotional atmosphere, carefully observing children and attaching importance to personality education in daily life. It must be understood that it is completely normal for your child to be inferior to others in some ways. Last year, there was a book called Eighteen-year-old Computer Genius. It is about a teenager who is very interested in computer games because of his poor academic performance. His mother saw that he was not a good reader, so she sent him to an electronic vocational high school. At the same time, as the administrator of the local area network, she often brings her son the latest games, constantly provides fresh knowledge and constantly tells him what computers are for. With her encouragement, her son became more and more aware of his lack of knowledge and began to study consciously. The mother also discussed with her children, regardless of the restrictions of academic diplomas, and resolutely let her children drop out of school to take the self-study exam. After continuous efforts, the child finally started his own company when 18 was old. Junior high school is a stage where many children change, and many parents easily lose confidence in their children and feel very disappointed. In fact, no child is born unwilling to learn well. How can we make them rise in reality? The key to make children confident and successful is to provide them with a good family atmosphere. Fifth understanding: we should be alert to educational consciousness and put the correct concept into practice. There is a book called "I only raised you to 18 years old". The parents in the book are themselves masters of education. He told his children that I will only raise you until 18 years old, and you will be independent after 18. The concept of "I will only raise you until 18 years old" is very advanced, and I agree with it. /kloc-learn to be independent after 0/8. However, in the process of getting the child to recognize his ideas, parents have not done enough. Later, the children expressed dissatisfaction with their father's letting them drop out of school. In education, human development is determined by many factors. It is necessary to standardize children's thoughts, feelings and abilities. Know when to insist and when to wait. There is a second-grade child. For some reason, he doesn't want to go to school. His father tried many methods, but he still couldn't. In the end, there is only one way: wait. After half a year, the child wanted to go to school by himself, and even changed schools to be the monitor. So many times, we have to understand that some behaviors of children in adolescence are normal. I admire Edison's mother. At that time, everyone thought Edison was not a good student. Only when his mother didn't give up on him did the genius of invention appear. Parents should always be full of expectations for their children.