This is also an unshirkable obligation and does not exist at all. What you are willing or unwilling to do is your own mother. You don't need her anymore At this time, she offered to leave and return to her hometown to live. Do you tolerate her 100%? At this time, you must say that she is willing to go, so you can't say that. It sucks.
No matter what conditions permit, it is the most important thing that children and old people are willing to follow and let them live happily in their old age. In fact, there are no children in the city now. Especially in our generation, most of them are only children.
Whether the daughter-in-law is an only child, and whether the parents-in-law are rich, as long as they have money, it will be easy. For money, they have to put up with it, and they have no loved ones. This is the reality of today's society.
This phenomenon is quite common in cities. As the saying goes, filial piety is not as good as filial piety. Most parents are reluctant to live with their sons and daughters-in-law. I prefer to live in my daughter's house. This is our family. The wife said it well, but it didn't last long. Finally I stayed at my daughter's house for a long time. So now I basically know the names of my sisters-in-law. I feel like a stranger to my sister-in-law's family.
Neither mother-in-law nor daughter-in-law should live with children. Daughter-in-law and son-in-law don't like living with you either Divorced after quarreling with several son-in-law and mother-in-law. It is the same contradiction to say that it is difficult for a mother-in-law and a daughter-in-law. Therefore, it is said that the elderly will buy a house if they have money, and rent a house if they have no money. Remember, Children's Home is not your home.
It is inevitable that only-child couples care about their parents, because that is their responsibility. Parents-in-law should consider the feelings of their son-in-law, and parents-in-law should consider the feelings of their daughter-in-law. Obviously, this big family life will be very harmonious!
Even if there is no bride price, few sons-in-law want their parents-in-law to live in their own homes! This is human nature! So some men ask their daughters-in-law to be kind to their parents! I also want to see how you do it! If you love your partner, you should love me, love me, love my dog! I've experienced it myself! Talking too much is all tears!
Why can't we arrange our own lives and get involved with our children? Neither son nor daughter can count on it. Let's rely on ourselves. If you can't move, go to a nursing home. This is the most reliable. The life of the son and daughter-in-law, the biological parents of the daughter-in-law, can't spend the night [covering their faces]. This daughter-in-law has a low family status. No one should say anything about providing for the aged too early. Who knows what you will look like when you are old, and who knows what will happen.
Moreover, when people are old, they are all sick and can't move. It's okay to have a wife. If the wife leaves first, they can't move that day, no matter who cares. Even if you find a wife, even if you have the money to hire a nanny, someone will have to run errands for you and hire you, and you will have to watch the old man not be bullied! You can't say anything, let alone your in-laws and your in-laws. When you are old, you must try your best to help your children and you must try your best to support them.
The old cat sleeps in the room, and one generation leaves the next. If children want to be filial to themselves, they should be filial to their parents and in-laws, because children are watching and learning. This is that religion is better than language. There is another way to provide for the aged. If possible, parents should be closer to themselves, and the distance between a bowl of soup and parents is not under the same roof to prevent conflicts. But being close to parents can facilitate care, and both parents can adopt this method.
Of course, parents should also know how to respect their children's lifestyle, not interfere with their children, and all things should be solved by their own children. If you really feel that the child is not doing well, you can ask the child out and say it separately. It is best for the elderly and their children to have their own independent lives, but it is convenient for their children to take care of the elderly.
This is just a model. No matter what mode, family style is really important. If you want to be taken care of by your children in your later years, you must first pay attention to your parents. Even if you don't want to, you have to do it even if you look like it, because everything has a cycle of cause and effect. If you want a good result, plant a good cause, and if you want a bad result, do it casually.
All women in the world know how to tolerate all members of your family when they get married, but you can't even tolerate your wife and parents. How can you tolerate this world? Is it natural to live with the man's parents? You shouldn't be with the woman's parents?