If you are the one who is loved, then the person who loves you, no matter how much he does, is good for you, but what he does and says is not what you want, then you will not be particularly happy if he does well. Maybe others will think that he is good to you, but you won't. The person you love is destined to be because of his every move, every word and deed, and even everything you like, so even if he is not so good in the eyes of others, it is enough for you.
Some people want to be the one who is loved, thinking that they will be happy and that their feelings can be cultivated slowly, but they don't. If you don't like someone from the beginning, it will only be more difficult to get along with each other in the future.
I have a roommate. I fell in love with a senior in my freshman year, but I didn't catch up with him for half a year. She is a Yan Kong, and the seniors only grow up on her aesthetic point. We saw that her struggle was fruitless, so we advised her to give up. We might as well accept Liu Tongxue who paid silently by her side. In addition to plain appearance, Liu Tongxue really didn't feel anything wrong. People buy her breakfast in the morning, give her an umbrella when it rains, and give her the overall knowledge and warm her appropriately if she has nothing to do. She also accepted our suggestion and decided to try Liu Tongxue, but a few days later, she broke up with that Liu Tongxue. She told us that when Liu Tongxue was intimate with her, she saw Pingping Zhang's humble face, and she was a little sick. She said she knew it was unfair to Liu Tongxue, but she just couldn't get over it. She just likes seniors, and breaking up with Liu Tongxue is an early way to let each other leave.
The senior graduated earlier than us and worked in one of the four major accounting firms. My roommate worked hard when he found out. Her goal is to work in the same place as her seniors, so that she can have a chance to keep in touch with them. So I think it is better to be a lover. If you can have a result with the person you like, it is naturally the best. But if you can't, it's not bad to fall in love with an excellent person and be able to push yourself all the time and regard him as your own motivation!