Overcorrection is one of the effective strategies.
Dongdong is 7 years old this year. He is a very active child, but he often leaves his things behind. The most annoying thing is that no matter where he passes, he always leaves some souvenirs. For example, he will leave the door wide open, throw his coat on the sofa and put his sneakers in the living room, completely ignoring other people's reminders, warnings and punishments. His mother followed him every day to clean up this and that for him, and there was no time to do anything else, so she felt very headache about his behavior in winter and winter.
So she discussed with her husband and decided to use self-correction and over-correction. They told Dongdong that they would never pick up anything for him again. Once you are found littering again, no matter what you are doing at that time, you must stop and put things back in place before you can continue. Not only that, as long as anything at home was misplaced at that time, he would put it back until his parents were satisfied. After Dongdong's parents explained these new regulations to him in detail, they also demonstrated them once until Dongdong fully understood them.
For two days in a row, winter and winter performed well, and everything around them was clean and tidy. But on the third day, I forgot to close the door because I was in a hurry to watch a TV program, and my clothes and toys were scattered all over the floor. Dongdong's mother turned off the TV on the spot, then asked him to close the door and put things away, and then asked him to clean the ashtray and tidy up the sofa cushions until the living room looked clean and comfortable. Because Dongdong was too slow, he only saw the last five minutes of the TV program he wanted to watch.
On the fourth day, he forgot to close the door again, but this time he did it before his mother found out. From then on, Dongdong rarely asked others to remind him to do this and that; And every time he finishes packing, he will call his mother to see the results of his work.
Manhua is a fourth-grade student. She often gets poor grades because she can't hand in her homework on time. After she didn't improve her late homework for two months in a row, Manhua's teacher told her that if she didn't finish her homework on time, it would take 15 minutes to finish her homework after class. In addition, she must stay in the classroom, and if necessary, ask her to stay 15 minutes to do her homework after school; Besides, she has to finish extra homework in the same unit. This is the overkill method.
The teacher and Manhua discussed the details in detail and answered all her questions until she agreed. In order to determine whether Manhua understood the regulations, the teacher also asked her some details.
There was no free time for two days, and after school, she was left behind. Manhua began to hand in her homework on time. Mother is also one of the contributors to the formation of Manhua's habit, because after the teacher contacted her mother, her mother also used the method of over-correcting at home, so that Manhua could start doing her homework after dinner and not put it off until bedtime.
The above two examples are to use self-correction and over-correction to change bad behavior habits. The purpose is to make children feel disgusted and self-correcting consciousness.
The second effective strategy is regression.
Ma Fan is regarded as a "problem student" at school, and the teacher feels very headache for him. Because no matter what the teacher asked him to do or what homework he was assigned to do, Ma Fan always argued with the teacher and asked him why he was doing these things or that the homework assigned by the teacher was unfair.
Later, the teacher began to treat Ma Fan with different attitudes. Whenever Ma Fan begins to argue with him, the teacher turns around to guide other students or bury himself in his work. After 3 weeks, Ma Fan's arguing behavior no longer appeared; At the same time, Ma Fan seems to have changed. Not only did he become happier, but other annoying behaviors seemed to disappear. Compared with other students in the class, Ma Fan seems to have no problem.
If someone else is doing something you don't like to attract your attention, and you are prepared not to pay attention to him in advance, this is the so-called dilution method, commonly known as the neglect method strategy, which can also be called the "cold treatment" strategy or the withdrawal strategy of attention. So don't pay attention to those bad behaviors and promote their appearance, so a healthy and happy relationship will develop. It is more effective to take the method of deliberately ignoring such behaviors as embarrassment, temper tantrums, coquetry, unreasonable troubles, sobs, pranks and class clowns.
For example, one night Xianxian wanted to eat candy, but there was no candy at home. Mother told her to buy it for her tomorrow, but she couldn't help crying and insisted on eating candy. Anyway. Later, my mother brought the empty candy jar to Xianxian and said to her, "You can cry here. If you can order candy, you can eat it. If you can't cry, you can cry until tomorrow I'm going to read the newspaper. " Say that finish turned and walked to the desk. Strangely, as soon as my mother took the newspaper, Xianxian stopped crying. She wiped her tears, picked up the doll and said to herself, "Don't cry, I'll buy candy tomorrow." Why did her mother persuade her to leave without listening to her, but she understood? Here, the key is that mom will stop pestering her and paying attention to her, so that she can calm down and understand that she can't buy sugar until tomorrow. After two or three times of "cold treatment", children will generally not be unreasonable in the future. Because he knows it's no use making noise. If parents can accommodate their children from an early age and make trouble without reason, there will be no scenes that make parents cry helplessly.
When children make trouble without reason and deliberately provoke their parents, parents had better take a neglected method, that is, "cold treatment", and quit without a fight. In most cases, children's provocation is to compete with their parents' rights, or to explore their own scope of behavior and see how much autonomy they can gain. If we get involved in this conflict, it is an encouragement to the children's wrong motives. Quit from the escalation of contradictions, leaving a child who wants to make trouble. He knew that he was bored, had no opponent and was not fun, so he had to give up at last. Parents withdraw from provocation, which is equivalent to telling their children: "You have gone too far, this is the border." Children will soon understand the truth, adjust their behavior and return to the state of cooperation with their parents.
Mark's parents are no strangers to educating their children. They dealt with their little rebels in various ways. They beat him, punished him for standing in the corner, urged him to go to bed early, and scolded him, all of which had little effect. Little Mark's bad temper remains the same.
Later, one night, Mark's parents were reading a newspaper in the living room. They said something that angered their son. Mark fell to the ground and became furious. He screamed, hit his head and waved his feet. This time, both parents were completely angered, but at that time they were at a loss and ignored them. They went on reading the newspaper without saying a word.
This is the last thing Mark wants. He stood up, looked at his parents, and fell down again before the second performance. His parents didn't respond to this again. This time, they looked at each other tacitly, and then looked at Mark in surprise. Mark suddenly fell to the ground and performed for the third time. Mark's parents continue to ignore him. Finally, what was Mark's reaction? He thinks it is foolish to cry on the ground. After that, he stopped losing his temper with others.
Mark's tantrum naturally disappeared because it was not strengthened.
For example, neighbor Yang Yang is only 6 years old, but she is very polite. Seeing you one morning, she shouted "Hello, Aunt!" Because you were in a bad mood, you didn't want to talk to anyone, and you ignored Yang Yang's greetings. It is less likely that Yang Yang will see you and say hello the next morning.
This example is an example of the wrong application of regression method, which dilutes a good behavior, that is, the behavior that should be strengthened.
Skinner believes that reinforcement is the basis of shaping behavior, and it is easy to fade without reinforcement. According to Skinner, children want to do something "just to attract the attention of adults". If you want to make children's bad behavior disappear gradually, you can ignore it when it happens and exclude their attention. In the eyes of a child, whether he has been strengthened by external stimuli for many times is the only criterion for him to measure whether his behavior is appropriate. The amount of practice itself does not affect the rate of behavioral response. Exercise is very important for the formation of children's behavior, because it provides opportunities for reinforcement. Only practicing without strengthening will not consolidate and develop a behavior.
Pay attention to the following points when using the strategy of ignoring the gradual elimination: first, it must be used many times to be effective; Family members should have the same attitude and form a unified alliance; Third, it is used in conjunction with positive reinforcement. Ignore the child's bad behavior, deliberately ignore it, withdraw attention, and join care and appreciation in time when the child manages the behavior well; Four continuous use, not stop, otherwise it will aggravate the child's bad behavior.
The third effective strategy is condemnation.
Mr. and Mrs. Wang have a 3-year-old daughter named Meimei, who often leaves food all over the table. They think that Mei Mei is old enough to mess up the food. So, the next time the whole family began to eat and Meimei began to stir the food, Mr. Wang grabbed Meimei hard to keep her from touching the food, looked at her and said firmly, "Meimei! We don't like you messing around with food, because it takes mom and dad a lot of time to clean up the mess. Now eat with your spoon! " After Meimei took a few bites, Mr. Wang said, "You ate very well, Meimei! Your parents are happy that you eat so well! "
In the process of eating this meal, my parents scolded Mei Mei several times, but when she had a good meal for a few minutes, she also praised her several times. This process is carried out at every meal. After a week, Meimei doesn't touch the food. Of course, mom and dad will praise Meimei's good eating behavior from time to time. Teacher Zhang works in a kindergarten. There is a boy named David in the class who often beats other children. The teacher decided to correct David's behavior by reprimanding him.
The next time David hits someone, Teacher Zhang grabs David's shoulder, looks at him and says, "David! You can't hit Xiao Kai. If you hit other children again, no one will like you and you won't make friends. " Whenever Mr. Zhang sees David hitting someone, he will continue to scold David in this way. Besides, whenever Teacher Zhang sees David playing well with other children, she always smiles and tells them that she is glad to see them get along well. Sometimes she would pat David or give each child some cookies, so after a few weeks, David's beating behavior gradually decreased.
The basic principles of using the reprimand method are:
(1) reprimand is the most effective only if the following three points are made clear: ① reprimanded behavior; 2 reasons for being reprimanded; ③ Appropriate behaviors that should be replaced;
(2) The tone is firm, but you can't use a sharp voice to convey reprimands, and you can't get out of control and start shouting, which makes the tone not firm enough;
(3) use body language to strengthen expression, look directly at the child or stare at him with eyes;
(4) Be sure to be close to the children, otherwise the effect will be minimal. If you are not close to the child, it is difficult to look at him with your eyes, and you can't grab his shoulder to enhance the effect of reprimand;
(5) Don't ignore bad behaviors, persevere and eradicate bad behaviors when they are still in the bud. Never indulge your child's "first" foul, but pay close attention to the "first attack". Because before those serious bad behaviors appear, there will always be some minor bad behaviors, and the latter is easier to correct with reprimanding skills. If you reprimand when quarreling, you can avoid fighting;
(6) Use physical contact to prevent dangerous or persistent bad behavior, and any behavior that poses a threat to children or others should be banned immediately. For example, touching the power supply, running around in the street, fighting, destroying public property and other behaviors need to be reprimanded by physical contact;
(7) often praise good behavior;
(8) When necessary, it should be supported by concrete actions. When reprimand fails to achieve the expected effect, other methods to reduce bad behavior can be used to enhance the effect. Such as isolation, over-correction, deprivation of rights, etc.
(9) Don't lose control of your emotions. Remember to control your emotions when reprimanding, and don't blush and have a thick neck. If you don't want to lose control of your emotions, you'd better let your child know that you can control your emotions, but you can't tolerate his bad behavior. Using physical contact to prevent the occurrence of problem behaviors can control emotions without hurting yourself or your children; Or use techniques such as isolation and overcorrection to support your reprimand. Finally, pay attention to praise good behavior immediately after it appears, and let the child know that you just don't like his behavior, not him.
The fourth restriction method of effective strategy
First, the rule restriction method.
Dana moves very slowly in the morning, so her parents decided to use a "time card" to correct her habit of fooling around. The specific method is to let the daughter set the alarm clock before going to bed every day. After getting up in the morning, draw a circle where the "time card" is closed for the first time. If you get up on time, ask her to clean the room, brush her teeth, wash her face and prepare to play the piano within 40 minutes after getting up. If the first pass is delayed, she will have to go to bed half an hour early at night; If she misses the second level again, she will have to go to bed an hour earlier. She can study in bed, but she can't make phone calls or watch TV. What are the advantages of doing so? We feel that the greatest benefit is to return the responsibility originally borne by the mother to the child. Because the goal is clear and the punishment method is clear, it is much easier to implement, parents don't have to beat their chests and feet, and children don't have too strong rebellious psychology.
Restraint method is a way to restrain children with discipline, norms and systems, so that they can do according to the correct requirements and gradually form good morality, quality and habits. Children's consciousness is not high and they need certain rules. Overcoming bad habits requires both internal willpower and external compulsion, and it is impossible to rely entirely on consciousness. As the saying goes, "No rules, no Fiona Fang; State-owned national laws and family rules. " Discipline, norms and system constraints are very necessary for children's growth. A stream without a shore is just a swamp, and the growth of children needs to be restricted and guided. With these restrictions, there is vigilance, what can be done and what can't be done, and it is clearly stipulated that children can be reminded and prevented from making mistakes. Help children develop their self-management and self-control ability with external rules and disciplines. Parents require their children to be responsible for their actions through some rules, so that children can gradually learn how to control their impulses and abilities. If there is no regulation, parents will decide temporarily, and children will be at a loss, which is not conducive to cultivating standardized behavior. The binding force of norms and rules is necessary for children's growth. With rules and regulations, we must conscientiously implement them. No matter how well the rules and regulations are formulated, it is useless not to implement them. Making rules and not implementing them is worse than having no rules. There are no rules, you can create rules. If you establish them but don't implement them, it will be difficult to establish the authority of the rules in the future. Implementing rules and systems is the key to restricting laws. The key to the implementation of rules and systems is whether parents can use them to strictly require their children to be "consistent". To implement it well, we should always remind our children to follow the rules and regulations, establish their awareness of implementing them, remind them everywhere with rules and regulations, sum up and compare them afterwards, and make them truly "laws" that bind children.
If the restriction law really plays a restrictive role, it is necessary to use rewards and punishments. Praise and reward the behavior of seriously implementing rules and systems, so that children's behavior of implementing rules and systems can be strengthened and better implemented; We should criticize and even punish those who violate the rules and regulations. Without rewards and punishments, rules and systems will lose their dignity, so rewards and punishments can be said to restrict the life of the law.
The formulation of rules and systems should be reasonable and fair. That is to say, it should conform to the age characteristics of children and be practical. Should not be too strict and too wide. In order to cultivate children's good moral character, at home, one or two rules should be emphasized at each stage, so as to concentrate on developing or correcting one or two habits. Concise and to the point, few but precise, too many regulations and too many abuses are useless. It is best to get the consent of children when making rules and regulations. It is better to discuss with them. Only with the consent of the child can there be a basis for conscious execution, and it is impossible to completely force orders. Once the rules and regulations are formulated, they must be relatively stable and cannot be achieved overnight, but they must also be increased or decreased with the growth of children.
The firmness of implementing rules and systems comes from the constraints of organizational discipline. Without certain discipline, rules and systems will soften, and rules and systems will not play their due binding role. The main reason for the softening of rules and systems is the softening of supervision. If we don't adhere to principles, make norms flexible, engage in so-called flexibility, or "distort rules and systems" in the process of supervision, we will lose the seriousness of the supervision system and make norms lose their deterrent power. Therefore, in the implementation of the norms, there must be a strict inspection system and a reward and punishment system.
Second, the family rules and regulations
Family rules can be divided into two categories: one is aimed at the whole family, which is a family "convention" that everyone should abide by, grow together and make progress together; The other is aimed at children, and parents use codes to restrain their children's behavior, which is mandatory to some extent. For any family, these two family rules are necessary.
(A) the family system
When Ms. Song's children grow up to 10 years old, they hardly do any housework and their grades are average. Husband is addicted to the internet; She is also angry all day long and doesn't tidy up her room. Her home is in a mess and there is often no place to waste. The whole family is in anarchy. I am troubled by this and don't know how to solve it. At work, she saw the various systems of the school. The rules of superiors are often posted in the publicity column and hung on the wall to remind everyone to abide by them at all times, and are linked to rewards and punishments. She came up with the idea of establishing a family system. That night, the whole family discussed and unanimously passed.
The whole family got together and began to make a system. You have told everything, from life to work, from housework to study, everything is very detailed. When to get up, who is in charge in the morning, noon and evening, how to mop the floor and wash clothes, how to control the online time, how to arrange the daily study time, how to exercise and relax on the rest day, and when to go to bed at night … are all displayed. In order to show the importance of this matter, the computer designed patterns and borders, and finally signed the names of family members.
In this way, every family member's behavior has rules to follow, the task is clear, and few people don't follow it. Even if they do occasionally, they will be punished in time: their punishment is to increase their labor tasks.
Since the birth of the family system, a family's life has been in good order, and each family member has his own duties and acts according to the rules. The windows at home are bright and clean every day, which makes people very comfortable. Children's learning has always been among the best, and Ms. Song and her husband have also benefited a lot. On New Year's Day in 2005, Ms. Song and her husband made appropriate adjustments to the family system, and put forward higher and more detailed requirements for the family to make it more suitable for their current family situation. For example, problems such as speaking civilized words, not spitting and family consumption have been added.
Family system can cultivate members' good habits of life, study, leisure and growth, which is conducive to family harmony, warmth, enthusiasm, health and progress. (2) Good boy code
Ms. An's family won the title of "Beautiful Family" in the province and the whole country for many times, and the couple were also named "Top Ten Parents" in Henan Province. His daughter and son are both doctors studying in the United States, and his daughter has a double doctorate. She attributed her success to three family codes: one is the code of good husband and wife; The second is the code of good parents; The third is the good boy code. Let's focus on the "good boy code".
The Good Boy Code is mainly formulated for preschool and lower grade children. Children are getting older and older, and this code of good children seems naive. However, this code will benefit daughters and sons for life by cultivating good habits. The child went to junior high school, and almost no need to worry about it.
According to the age characteristics of children, Ms. An compiled the code of good children into a jingle:
1. The law of going to bed early and getting up early when children grow up. Don't make trouble, run around, be picky and eat snacks when eating.
Wash your hands before meals, rinse your mouth after meals, wash your face and feet before going to bed, and have a regular haircut and bath.
3. Walk straight, sit upright, pay attention to the car when walking, keep the road on the right, stop at the red light and go at the green light.
Guests should say hello first, offer tea with both hands, answer any questions, say goodbye politely and respectfully, and welcome guests. Don't bring strangers into the house when your parents are away.
5. Don't watch others eat (note: I lived in a miscellaneous hospital at that time and watched my neighbors while eating). Eating other people's food is called gluttony. Don't run around and yell during lunch break, my uncle and aunt are sleeping. Don't throw peels around. It's unhealthy to scribble on the wall. Be polite in public places and be a civilized gentleman.
6. Do what you can and pass it on to others. Today's work is finished today, and procrastination is a bad habit. Take care of your things and restore your used items. Sweep the floor and help my mother take out the garbage every day.
7. No hitting, swearing, lying or lying. If you don't take someone else's needle and thread, you must return what you borrowed. You must ask permission before visiting and behave like a guest.
8. Honor your parents and grandparents, and not getting angry is the first priority. Everyone likes beautiful things. If you lack it, give it to me first.
9. Ask directly if you have a request, and don't let sex lose your temper. If you are unreasonable, you must criticize, and if you are reasonable, you must reward.
10. I like reading, studying, playing poker, playing chess, learning painting, telling stories, catching cicadas in the wild, fishing, swimming, climbing trees, practicing running and being clever at horse racing.
Third, the principle restriction method
An extended concept of restrictive law is discipline, and we must never compromise or make concessions on the issue of principle.
When my daughter was in high school, she once went to a classmate's house to play after the exam. She had a good time and called: "Dad, can I not go home tonight?" It's rare for me to stay with my classmates and have a good night. " Dad said, "No!" "Why not?" Dad said, "Minors are not allowed to spend the night outside. This is a national law and they must go home. " "Why not? I asked my classmates to tell you. " Her classmate, a girl, answered the phone and said, "Uncle, we are very happy together ..." "I know you are good friends, and I want you to be happy, but your parents are not at home, so you can't decide. Today, she must go home There are no rooms left. If you want to live together one day, you can come to my house and I will be responsible for explaining it to your parents. "
Dare to say "no" to children's bad tendencies and dangerous tendencies, and stick to it. This is the responsibility and obligation of parents.
Because a child is surfing the Internet, from stealing money from his family to stealing money from his relatives, and finally even stealing money from his neighbors, parents have no choice but to give their children money to surf the Internet. This is a mistake in principle, which will accelerate the catastrophic arrival of children. In any case, the principle is absolutely not allowed, compromise once, there will never be peace! At this time, parents can tell their children that surfing the internet is one thing and stealing money is completely different. We are still not allowed to surf the internet. If we find you stealing money again, whether it's from home or others, we will call the police and deal with it as the police should. We will never be sad. You should know what stealing means to a minor like you. Children usually have scruples after listening to it and dare not commit it again.
You must stick to your principles and stick to them even if you have tears in your eyes. Parents who pay equal attention to love and authority can bring health and happiness to their children and families. Education without authority and principles is terrible, and disaster is inevitable, which will ruin children's happiness. Good parenting is a combination of two factors: love and discipline, which are interdependent and balanced. If children are allowed to develop freely in childhood and lack external and internal authority and discipline, they never do things they don't like, never accept orders they don't like, never form the habit of respecting their elders, and it is difficult to restrain themselves spontaneously when they grow up.
The growth of children needs corresponding constraints. Especially in the process of growing up, there have been some serious problems, such as lying, stealing, playing truant, indulging in games, not handing in homework, making bad friends and so on. Educators should calm down and discuss with their children, make a restrictive and corrective plan, and replace the rule of man with the rule of law. The fifth effective strategy is deprivation of rights law.
Once, Mrs. Steiner's daughter went to a friend's house to play and said that she would come back on time. However, she didn't come back at the appointed time. Although her daughter came back late, Mrs. Tanner didn't blame her, but pointed to her watch, suggesting that she was late. Mrs Steiner thinks that the daughter's unpunctuality is a bad behavior and must be corrected. In order to punish her daughter, she canceled her plan to watch a good movie. When my daughter saw that her mother wouldn't let her go to the movies, she quickly admitted her mistake and said, "Today is my fault. Please forgive me this time! " Mrs Steiner said uncompromisingly, "It's too late today. I can only express regret. " I can't forget my daughter being punished like this. Since then, she has never made the mistake of being unpunctual.
A mother once asked: Our 8-year-old son is forgetful. No matter what we ask him to do, he can't seem to remember. He was assigned a task, but he forgot to ask him to give someone a message, which will never be connected. Things seem to get worse with age. Is there any way to improve his memory?
The counselor replied: Your son is not forgetful, but disobedient. "I forgot" is an evasive statement used to replace "I don't want to" or other similar disobedience.
The child will forget this and that, but he will never forget that there is ice cream in the refrigerator, or that his parents casually mentioned taking him to the zoo a few weeks ago. Why do children always forget what they are told to do?
In order to improve children's memory, we might as well make a list of things or some "privileges" that they can enjoy, such as riding a bike, playing outside, inviting friends to get together at home and watching TV. Anyway, if some children are interested in things and love them very much. Stick this list on the refrigerator door. Whenever he "forgets" one thing, he begins to cross off one thing (riding a bike) from the first item on the list. Every time one item is crossed out, the privilege will be revoked and will not be restored until next Monday. On Sunday night, after sending the children to bed, I cancelled all the records, took down the old list and posted a new one. In this painful way, let the child pay for his so-called "forgetfulness" and let him take responsibility for this problem. If you can stick it out, I can assure you that in a few months, you will find that his "memory" will make amazing progress.
In the above two cases, the method is deprivation of rights, also called restriction of rights. Behavioral psychology, called reaction cost or behavior cost, refers to a behavior intervention method that makes the actor lose some reinforcement after the behavior occurs. Reaction cost is widely used in real life. For example, in some public places, there are often regulations prohibiting spitting, smoking and running red lights. Once someone violates them, they will be punished immediately, such as fines, cleaning and maintaining traffic order. The principle of reaction cost is that individuals have their own natural tendency to strengthen. Once they lose this reinforcement because of a certain behavior in a certain situation, they will avoid falling in the same place in the future, thus reducing the possibility of such behavior.
The advantages of reaction cost are simple implementation, less time consumption and wide application range, which can be used to combat various bad behaviors. For example, in the first case, children may not be allowed to go to Children's Home for a week without being deprived of the right to watch movies, or they may not be invited home to play. Let children grow up through experience. For another example, careless children can use this method besides other corresponding correction methods: withholding pocket money twice a week, limiting their favorite cartoons for three days, or canceling a long-awaited activity. The chosen punishment must be effective and meaningful to the child. If your child likes listening to your stories best, you can choose not to tell them as a punishment. When using this method, we should try to explain the punishment before the bad behavior happens. For example, "Son, you haven't behaved well in eating these days. Cry when you eat, and mom won't tell you a story today. " Let the children remember and say it. Violation can be carried out according to the regulations, but it should be noted that for some children, because of repeated deprivation and reinforcement, they are limited to what they are most interested in and the legitimate rights they should enjoy, and there are too many frustrated experiences in their hearts, which are easy to produce opposing emotions and rebellious psychology. To this end, on the one hand, it is necessary to determine the appropriate price, on the other hand, it is necessary to do a good job of helping and guiding. Even if the child is punished, it will enhance the determination and ability to "correct evil". Case application guide:
Children delay eating and often miss dinner; Partial eclipse, especially not eating vegetables. In view of the fact that the child likes to play table tennis and eat fruit after dinner every day, and likes to play basketball or football on weekends, his mother made a rule for him: if the meal is delayed, he will not be allowed to play table tennis that day; Put down the food and don't let him eat any snacks that day; He didn't eat vegetables for two days in a row, and he was not allowed to play basketball or football on weekends. In this way, after two weeks, he developed better eating habits, and now he is getting used to eating vegetables.
There is a prerequisite for the application of deprivation law: the actor must have a certain amount of deprivation reinforcement. When the actor does not have a certain amount of reinforcement and wants to deprive him of his rights, he can make some arrangements and provide him with a certain amount of reinforcement. Therefore, the combination of deprivation of rights and token system will achieve better results. The token system can be implemented for two to three weeks first, so that children can be strengthened to some extent, and then the two can be combined at the same time, so that bad behaviors can be better corrected and good behaviors can be strengthened and consolidated.