However, some children are "very distinctive". They are born thrifty and thrifty. Even if the small toys are worn out, they are reluctant to throw them away and are still treasured. In the hearts of family members, such a thrifty child is their overall goal.
But sometimes, parents' views on the problem are superficial, and they only see the excellent side of their children, but they don't know that they are hidden in the "frugal" The Secret Behind. The little boy that Kerry saved in this way, the childhood doll had already changed color, but he still held it to sleep.
Even if it is not enough to play intelligent robots every day, Kerry doesn't want to play with new toys. In the eyes of others, this person is a well-behaved child, who is not easy to get into trouble with his parents and will not spend money on snacks. But the more so, the more unhappy my mother is.
Because he saw the story of "sock addiction" hidden behind Kerry's frugality. In essence, Kerry is a nostalgic little boy. As long as it is what you want, it will be better collected. Even if you sleep at night, you should bring its dolls and robots.
In the final analysis, it is the child's lack of security. In Kerry's mind, those old toys are the source of his sense of security. Whenever you hold this little toy tightly, you will take it lightly and become very calm. Maybe only a small toy can see his weak side.
Speaking of which, everyone should understand why Kelly's mother is so heartbroken and sad. Because he saw the child's heart through the phenomenon, the so-called "frugality" is only a weak phenomenon. Therefore, don't think that children's nostalgia and thrift is a good thing.
First, children's nostalgia is mostly due to these reasons. 1. Parents' company is not enough. So far, in fact, most parents understand the importance of companionship, especially before their children go to primary school. But unfortunately, when mom and dad say companionship, it's not that children want to accompany them. To put it simply: the quality of companionship is too low, and mom and dad are completely kidneys.
It seems that I am accompanying my child, and my body and mind are still in my mobile phone. I might as well ask what's the point of such company? Even, parents are a little tired of their children's many personal behaviors and don't care about their children at all.
2. Parents' education is not too strict with cultural education on weekdays, and they always like to use the form of shouting or punishment. They think that the stricter they are, the more excellent children can be cultivated. It is really necessary to criticize parents' educational attitude. Because children are not as strong as they think, they will worry and avoid.
The wrong education method will make the distance between parents and children farther and farther. And it will continue to make children feel scared and only stay with their favorite old toys, so that they will not be scolded and punished.
3. Having no friends and not knowing how to speak may be the main reason for the growing environment, perhaps because of innate reticence, and some children are naturally introverted. In daily life, they have no friends and don't want to go to social media, let alone talk. When things happen, even the closest parents are unwilling to tell him. ...
In the hearts of all kinds of children, toys that accompany them since childhood are the closest and most trustworthy people. Even if this little toy is worn out, children can feel a lot of strength and belonging from this little toy.
Parents should not be too surprised about their children's sock fetish, but they should not treat it as "very distinctive". It is very likely that with the growth of age, children's psychology will change to a certain extent, and their fetish for socks will gradually fade away. If parents are too extreme, they may bring secondary harm to their children.
Second, warm advice to mom and dad, no matter how busy, please give your children high-quality companionship, at least the time together, you must know how to cherish and make use of it. Learn more about children's inner changes and their demands for truth, rather than relying on chemicals to cover up his childhood.
Even if the parent-child communication was not very good before, it can be alleviated through careful companionship and become more and more harmonious. Actually, it's not that hard. Read articles, tell stories, or play with children and do some simple sports.
At the same time, we should also minimize the reprimand and punishment for children. Children who grow up with accusations and denials are more sensitive and sensitive, which is not good for their health. Give them more, no doubt, find his advantages, and educate children to gradually unload their inner guard.
If the child is in a bad mood, be sure to help him clear it in time. It is devastating for children to have bad emotions on their minds, because they really can't bear it.
Write at the end: learn to face the ordinary and shortcomings of children, because everyone is unique. It is very likely that his main performance is not very good at this time, but as long as parents are willing to spend time and energy to shape, children can become shining stars.