Speaking of "proposing marriage", it should be the most unforgettable and happy thing for all women. The best destination of love is marriage, and the starting point of a happy marriage is absolutely indispensable. It is said that the content in marriage is more important than the form, but a sincere marriage proposal ceremony is the highlight of the whole marriage and even the whole life.
There are also endless ways to propose marriage. Apart from flowers, diamond rings and atmosphere, I personally think that a man's "sincerity" is the most important. The act of proposing marriage is based on certain feelings and is the embodiment of mutual love. In reality, many unmarried women feel that the sincerity shown in proposing marriage is closely related to money and material things.
As an experienced person, I always firmly believe that the importance of etiquette in marriage is definitely not set off by money and material, but the inner feelings of each other are the dominant throughout the marriage. The purpose of proposing marriage is not to show off and waste, but to exaggerate one's love for the other half within the limited ability.
Proposing marriage is a man's spontaneous will, not a woman's initiative to ask for and ask for it, because a love has always been actively paid and expressed, not by one party's begging, nor by the other party's passive pay.
Speaking of which, I thought of the personal experience of a male friend Xiaojie. Not long ago, I got a marriage certificate with Lingling, my girlfriend of six years. I was going to have a wedding during the Spring Festival. The day after they got the marriage certificate, they also got the divorce certificate. The root of the matter is the proposal.
Xiaojie and Lingling are junior college students. After three years of campus romance, they escaped the graduation break-up season. Lingling belongs to the type of little woman, who likes to rely on Xiaojie and yearns for romantic love. After graduation from work, in order not to be in a painful long-distance relationship, the two decided to start a husband-and-wife life, squeezing off the bus together, buying food and cooking together, and visiting the supermarket together.
Three years later, Xiaojie has married Lingling, and both parents acquiesced in their marriage. Xiaojie has always wanted to take root and settle down in the city through his own efforts. Before he has certain economic strength, he doesn't want to wronged Lingling. In the third year of work, Xiaojie saved the first 200,000 yuan in his life by his own efforts.
Xiaojie and Lingling's greatest wish is to have a home of their own in the city. The first thing after saving 200,000 yuan, Xiaojie bought a 60-square-meter wedding room with a small two-bedroom apartment. Everything is logical. Lingling's parents repeatedly urged them to hurry to get a marriage certificate. A few days ago, it was Lingling's 24th birthday. Xiaojie has already thought about it. On this day, he wanted to give Lingling the best gift by "getting a marriage certificate".
Getting a marriage certificate went smoothly. Just after receiving the marriage certificate, Lingling asked Xiaojie in the lobby of the Civil Affairs Bureau: "Husband, today is our wedding day. You should propose to me. In order to show your love for me, you must kneel on one knee and hold flowers in your hand. Say I love you out loud. Everyone at the scene must have heard it. I want to be the happiest woman. "
Xiaojie is embarrassed. He is introverted and inarticulate. He felt no need to propose. They have been together for six years, and all the ups and downs have come. Do you still care about this ceremony? Speaking of which, Xiaojie has been staring. The day before receiving the marriage certificate, he prepared a wedding diamond ring.
Xiaojie took out the exquisite diamond ring box from her bag and put it in Lingling's hand: "Dear, I'm ready. This is my wedding gift to you. Let's hurry home. "
Lingling was unhappy, suddenly stopped and pursed her lips and said, "I won't leave you anyway." You always said you loved me, so there was no formal proposal ceremony. If you really want to marry me, is it so hard to kneel down and say I love you? "
Xiaojie is a little angry and thinks Lingling's request is a bit excessive. He never wavered in his feelings for her. Marriage is real life, not these empty minds. Besides, with so many people at the scene, Xiaojie was asked to kneel down and propose to Lingling, and he couldn't save face.
"Stop that now, almost ready. I bought you a ring and a house. I see you are sincere in finding fault today, right? Would you feel better if you insisted on embarrassing me? Not sensible at all. "
In a rage, Lingling was blurted out by Xiaojie's words: "If this marriage is not married, it will be meaningless. Anyway, if you are married, you can go. "
Marriage is not a joke, and the divorce is less than an hour. Is such a woman serious about marriage? Our married life has just begun. If divorce becomes a mantra that pops up casually and slanders each other, I suggest not getting married. Going on without firm belief is a kind of torture and pain for both husband and wife. If we can love, we should be together. Don't always talk about divorce. If you can't love, let the other person go. The sanctity of marriage is a responsibility, and it is a belief to move forward hand in hand.
Xiaojie was finally impatient, tore up the marriage certificate and yelled at Lingling: "Go, get the divorce certificate."
After completing the marriage formalities, Xiaojie and Lingling reached a unanimous divorce appeal, and recently went through the formal divorce formalities. The six-year relationship was actually destroyed in the proposal, and it was on and off countless times. They have long been used to each other's existence, but it is precisely because of their inner obsession, mutual intransigence and mutual incomprehension that they are angry and ruin their best youth and this hard-won relationship.
What's wrong with Lingling's proposal? Maybe some women think it is difficult to get married. What's wrong with a man who wronged himself and asked for marriage? What I want to say is that the original intention of proposing marriage is a testimony to the sublimation of two people's feelings. Not to build momentum, not to show off, not to embarrass the other side, to ask others with the idea of self-will. This is not love, it is compulsion.
There are many ways to propose marriage. What really touches a woman's heart may not be a bunch of flowers or a ring, but a man's true feelings. Sincere love, every affectionate hug and every warm word are every "proposal" in marriage. If you compromise with each other, even if it is a luxurious open-air marriage proposal ceremony, this man may not be able to walk into each other's hearts.