It's actually quite simple. As the internet said, boys buy houses before marriage, girls are responsible for decoration, and they are responsible for repaying loans together after marriage. When you divorce, you will find that the house was bought before marriage and does not belong to the joint property of husband and wife, so girls can't get it at all.
After marriage, the girl's money is used to pay off her debts, her assets are cleared and she gets nothing. Because there is no job, the law thinks that the girl is incapable of raising, and the child may be awarded to the man. Once divorced, the money is gone, the house is gone and the children are gone. This is a poverty alleviation marriage.
How's it going? Did you have an epiphany when you saw this explanation? I can also think that the situation of some people around me seems to be more consistent with the above explanation. In fact, poverty alleviation marriage has always existed around us, but not so many people paid attention to it before
What is unacceptable about poverty alleviation marriage is that one party's squeezing and calculation of the other party has violated the initial intention of marriage. One party who joined the marriage from the beginning is impure, so how can the married life be happy in the future?
There are some men around me who bought a house before marriage, but they didn't decorate it, just put it there. When it comes to getting married and letting her decorate, she feels natural.
When they may fall in love with a woman, they will advertise that they have a house, but they will not ask her to decorate it until they get married. I will also say with a clear conscience: this house will be where we live in the future. I will pay for the house and you will pay for the decoration. It is fair!
Many girls are blinded by such lies, so they decorate themselves. But they all ignored a problem.
It doesn't matter whether we can be together for a lifetime. However, once there are problems in marriage, even when you want to divorce, you find that the house has nothing to do with you. You just decorate it, you can't take it away.
At this time, the girl can only regret it.
As we all know, marriage should not be so haggle over every ounce, nor should it be mixed with too many calculations and materials. But some people naturally like to calculate others, fearing that they will suffer. Then if you marry such a person, you'd better keep an eye on it, because if you don't pay attention, you may be sold by him without knowing it.
What do you think a girl should do when she meets a scheming man who has been scheming for her from falling in love to getting married?
This is not a virtual problem, but a real thing that happened to Lu Xiao. Now she is very upset and doesn't know what to do.
The cause of the incident lies in her current husband. Lu Xiaogang married him, only to find that this man has a deep heart and has been calculating himself. When marrying such a man, Lu Xiao was very worried about how to live in the future. She can't always think about it. Is he calculating himself?
When Lu Xiao and her husband met for the first time, they were introduced by friends. At that time, Xiao Lu contacted men several times and found that men were very smart and knew how to please Xiao Lu. Over time, two people naturally together.
The following year, Lu Xiao fell in love with a man. Men often tell her that they should work hard, buy a house and a car, and let Lu Xiao live a happy life. Hearing this, Lu Xiao was very moved. She found that men are really frugal, so considerate Lu Xiao never took the initiative to ask men for expensive gifts, and most of the expenses together came from Lu Xiao.
Today's Lu Xiao recalled that time, only to understand that men were not really good to her, but men were calculating her at that time. They didn't want to spend money on Lu Xiao and said some beautiful words to make Lu Xiao happy.
The man didn't save as much money as he said, but all his money was saved. Lu Xiao didn't know at that time that this man had secretly bought a house when he fell in love with her.
After more than a year of contact, Lu Xiao felt that she understood men, and it was time to talk about marriage. So he euphemistically put forward the idea of getting married.
The man immediately understood her idea and proposed to Lu Xiao.
Some details of the wedding were properly discussed. The man told Lu Xiao that the house had been bought, but Lu Xiao was surprised because he had never heard of it before. But at that time, her mind was all focused on the wedding and she didn't care.
Men use buying a house as an excuse to say that they have no money at home and don't want to give a bride price. Lu Xiao relented and agreed.
In this way, after everything was settled, two people got married.
After the wedding, after the excitement, Xiao Lu's brain began to calm down. She wanted to have a look at the wedding room, but her husband told her that the house had not been decorated.
Lu Xiao asked: When will the renovation start?
Unexpectedly, her husband said to her, "As you can see, my family spent a lot of money on buying a house for a wedding. I don't have the extra ability to decorate. " I thought about it. Your family is responsible for the decoration of this house. "
Lu Xiao calmed down and asked, "How much is the decoration?" The man calculated and said, "About two hundred thousand!"
To Lu Xiao's surprise, the decoration cost of 200,000 yuan is already a luxurious decoration in the local area, while the house bought by men is only 500,000 to 600,000 yuan. On second thought, she said, "the decoration is too expensive, but it's not that my family doesn't pay." I'll tell you what, I'll get 200 thousand for my home decoration, but I have to add my name to the house. "
As soon as the man heard it, he refused, saying that he spent so much money to buy it in full, and it was pre-marital property, so it was impossible to add Lu Xiao's name.
When Xiao Lu heard this, he found himself in a trap. The man obviously set himself up. So she got angry and said directly, "No name, decorate yourself."
Because of this incident, the couple quarreled, and the man turned to accuse Lu Xiao of haggling over every ounce, not uniting himself, and only calculating himself. Xiao Lu was very angry. You set me up first, but now it's the other way around.
The two men quarreled more and more fiercely, and Lu Xiao returned to her house angrily. Now she is very upset. What should she do in the future?
In fact, I think husband and wife can help each other in marriage, but it is not that one party keeps giving and the other party keeps taking. How can such a marriage be happy?
If one party marries you in a way that allows you to help the poor, then nothing in all your "poverty alleviation" projects can impress him, because greed is endless, your ability may not be infinite, and one day you will not be able to give him what he wants.
All unmarried girls should be wary of poverty-alleviation marriage.