When I heard that New Oriental 18 years old, I was in a trance. 18, we grew up. New Oriental changed from a school I had never heard of at first to the first educational institution listed on NYSE in China. 18 years old, which is also the age when most people enter the university. At such a time node, I want to talk to you about several important things in the university stage.
About dreams and life planning
/kloc-when I was 0/8 years old, I didn't know what life planning was, and I never thought about my dreams. Looking back now, if I had access to more information, I might have gained more during my college years. As for what a dream is, I didn't realize it until I graduated and worked for several years. In my opinion, a dream is an idea that haunts your mind every day, and you won't be content until it is realized. For it, you are willing to get up early and be greedy for black, and you are willing to suffer. Even if it doesn't come true in the end, you still have no regrets.
How to find your dream? The best way is to listen to your inner voice and put it into practice.
University is undoubtedly a good time to establish the goals and general direction of future life, because we are still young at this time and there are still many opportunities to make mistakes. With the protection of campus walls, the cost of making mistakes is relatively small. Lu Youqing wrote in the Diary of Death: "What is a university? The university is a free library with a rich collection of books, a group of friends with unpredictable future and the confidence to walk in the rivers and lakes. " I think these three sentences sum up several important things that universities should do: reading helps us understand the world objectively; Make friends and help us understand the people who make up this world emotionally; Do things, give yourself the opportunity to fully understand yourself, and forge a courage to wander the rivers and lakes.
About learning
When studying in university, we can easily fall into two misunderstandings. One is the blind pursuit of learning more knowledge, taking many classes, shuttling through various classes every day and being busy with various exams. In fact, there are many ways to learn, not only books and classroom content is learning. When reading, you must remember to look up at the world. Second, I feel that the knowledge in school is not practical, so I often skip classes, either go outside to attend remedial classes or go out to find various odd jobs to earn money. I suggest that you try to leave Monday to Friday for school study, and other social experiences and studies can be carried out on weekends and holidays.
About love
Some people say that life is incomplete without a love in college. In fact, there is no need to be so deliberate, don't look for love in the form of love, and don't fall in love because of loneliness. The reason why campus love is unforgettable is probably because we were all simple at that time, just loving for the sake of love, without much thinking and care. Therefore, if you can persist in that innocence in the future, you will definitely meet the right person.
About mastering information
When I was a freshman, a good friend told me: Let's go to New Oriental together during the holiday. I asked: What is New Oriental? The friend showed a surprised expression: Ah, you don't even know New Oriental!
To this day, I am sincerely grateful to this good friend. Without the information she told me about New Oriental, I might not be lucky enough to be a TOEFL teacher in Beijing New Oriental School, and I will do different jobs in New Oriental in the next few years, including director of children's department and assistant to teacher Yu, and accumulate experience in different fields. Of course, through other channels, I may know about New Oriental one day, but I may miss the recruitment of New Oriental, and I will not teach in New Oriental since my junior year.
This incident made me realize the importance of information. If I miss the information, I miss the opportunity. At present, there are many ways to obtain information. We should make full use of online news information, Weibo, social networking sites and forums. But at the same time, we also need to select and filter information. I also want to remind you that browsing aimlessly is a waste of time. Look at the space and share comments, and an hour or two will pass. People who can make achievements are first of all people who can manage themselves well. (inspirational article www.lz 13.cn) I was luckier than you in college, because I didn't have so many choices, so I didn't have so much interference. When I was in college, I was not so lucky as you, because there were not many choices, so there were not many opportunities and surprises.
About practice
When I was a graduate student in the United States, the first required course was called career development. The teacher told us that from the first day we entered the campus, we should think about graduation. Time is cruel, it won't wait for us too long, and it won't give us too many opportunities to slack off. Therefore, from the beginning of freshman year, we should figure out what field we want to work in four years, and then push back to see what kind of knowledge, quality and ability we need to engage in this kind of work. Only in this way can we have a clearer grasp of how to improve ourselves. It is best to start internship from the winter vacation of freshman year. In this case, you have done at least five or six internships before you really look for a job. Even if you are not sure what you really like, you can at least rule out some you don't like. Life is a multiple-choice question one after another. It is important to choose the correct answer directly and know how to use the exclusion method.
At this point, I also have a deep understanding because of my personal experience. Graduate students majored in finance and public management, and most students majoring in finance would think that investment banks or consulting companies are the best places to go. Students majoring in public administration are willing to choose to work in some international institutions, such as the World Bank and the United Nations. There is a big difference between these two jobs. I'm not sure which one I like better before I do it. So, through hard work, I applied for internships in two investment banks and the United Nations in different semesters and holidays. To my surprise, the internship experience made me understand that these jobs are not the careers I have long wanted to choose. We are not looking for a job that others are satisfied with, but a job that we really like. As Steve Jobs, CEO of Apple, said: I am sure that I love what I do, which is the only reason that has supported me to go on all these years.
About time management
Everyone has different habits of using time, and those who can make full use of their spare time are most likely to succeed. Those tiny time and details are often the core factors that determine the difference. So don't underestimate three or five minutes. If you spend three or five minutes every day doing something important for the future, you will achieve amazing results in a few years.
Time is also cruel. It won't be nice to you just because you care about it, and it will give you more. Therefore, if you want to achieve more than others, you have to invest more time than others. Unless your IQ and EQ are higher than ordinary people in all aspects, there are not many shortcuts.
On the Establishment of Interpersonal Network
If you want to realize a dream, when it seems a little out of reach, the easiest thing you can do is to get close to it physically first. To extend it, once you have determined your interests, you should first understand the information and materials in this field, and more importantly, you should know more people in this field.
I always hear some students complain: "We are just students and don't have much experience. Those people with rich social experience, who wants to know us? " How can we meet people who are better than us and can give us guidance? "In fact, when building a network of interpersonal relationships, you can't have a strong utilitarian heart. Don't always want to know people who are "useful" to you. What kind of attitude you treat others, others will treat you in the same way. You expect others to be "useful" to you, so were you "useful" to others when you were still in college? Therefore, the establishment of interpersonal network, the most important thing is to build on the basis of giving, learning and being honest with others. By participating in some social activities or internships and doing more things for others, your road will be wider and wider. You treat people around you sincerely, and one day, they may become your nobles.
In the final analysis, what universities need to overcome most are unrealistic fantasies and impetuous emotions. Finally, I want to end with what Bai said in a speech: ideal: if you think about your ideal every day, you can't live in front of you; Youth: no generation of youth is easy; Quality: the most important quality is not talent but psychology; Life: the truth of life is dull; Attitude: The final judgment is yourself, don't live in the eyes of others.