In our life, many people are not understood when they insist on their own choices. Later, it was proved by facts that people's incomprehension was used to make me extraordinary.
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Five years ago, my comrade-in-arms Brother Yu faced a career change.
Although many people around him didn't understand, including his family, Brother Yu persuaded his wife and parents to choose his own job.
He said, when faced with important choices in life, don't listen to other people's advice. You need to know what you want. Then make a firm choice
I asked him, what do you want?
He said, I don't like the rules and regulations in the system, and I haven't thought about being rich or expensive, so it's enough to be with my family, have a relatively free job and enjoy a quiet and ordinary life.
In the end, Yu Ge found a job in a school near his home, with a monthly salary of about 4,000, from nine to five. The most important thing is that there are not many things and he can take good care of his family.
I went to his house last weekend. Yu Ge just sent the children back from dancing practice. He rubbed his hands and spread out rice paper to practice calligraphy. There was a sweet guzheng in the study. ......
I said, you have been carefree these days and entered the retired cadre mode ahead of schedule.
Brother Yu said with a smile, it's far from leisure, but if your requirements are not high, it's really a good choice to choose your own job. Thanks to this policy, I can live the life I want now!
Indeed, if you can relax, don't care about others' so-called no circle and no political status, choose a job with a monthly salary of nearly 8 thousand and find a job with a monthly salary of more than 10 thousand, you can live a good life in Chongqing.
On the other hand, if your circle of friends depends on your status and rights, your civil servant status can be owned. This is actually not a pure circle of friends, so be it.
In life, we are always used to judging others by open standards, such as being smooth, having a successful career, being promoted and getting rich. ...
Just because we can easily understand such people and call them winners.
But is this necessarily the right and only choice?
The so-called mass standards are just the established views of the general public.
Besides, isn't the standard for breaking?
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I have always liked this sentence: "If everyone knows you, what do you look like?"
My other comrade-in-arms, Hao Ge, chose his chosen job, which made people around him puzzled and even surprised.
Hao Ge can be a civil servant in Shanghai if he chooses to plan resettlement. Many people will choose this way because the treatment and life are good.
Brother Hao and I met at a business training meeting organized by the military region. At that time, Hao Ge explained the new business operating system to us. After several business trainings, we all got together and got familiar with each other.
Brother Hao is conscientious and enthusiastic. I have met several technical problems, and he has been very enthusiastic to help solve them.
I was deeply impressed by his obsession with technology and serious attitude.
After Hao Ge chose his own job, we had a long phone conversation. He said that although many people suggested that he choose the planned resettlement, he stayed in the system for more than 20 years, and his personality was not suitable and he did not want to continue. He wants to go out, try something new and do something interesting.
He said that many people don't understand our choices, but life is our own and our choices are not for others to understand. It is enough to be clear about our goal and be able to work towards it.
We kept in touch intermittently and learned that he had submitted many resumes and interviewed many companies. Several times, he told me in frustration that things have not been going well recently. He doesn't like the company he chose, and the company he likes doesn't like him either.
Later, I learned that he was hired as the office director by a Shanghai branch of a state-owned enterprise. Later, because of the adjustment and change of work, I was very busy for a while, so I broke contact.
About half a year. One afternoon, I suddenly got a call from Brother Hao. It turned out that he was promoted and was appointed as the executive vice president of a subordinate company with an annual salary of more than 300,000. I congratulated him and asked him to tell the story of his promotion so quickly.
He said the story was out of the question, but the experience was really deep. In short, be a low-key person, do things seriously, and pay always pays off.
After he joined the company, the office of the company in Shanghai Lujiazui CBD will be renovated, and he is mainly responsible for it. During that time, he studied deeply in the industry, consulted many companies, designed countless schemes and guarded front-line supervisors. In the end, not only the decoration work was well done, but also a part of the budget was saved, which was recognized by the company leaders and colleagues. Later, he successfully completed several important tasks assigned to him. This company cadre adjustment, he is a newcomer, with no background and qualifications. Because of his excellent work, he was directly promoted to the vice president of his subordinate company.
Finally, he said that administration is not his goal, but technology is his ideal. He is still waiting for me to come out and do something we are interested in together.
I smiled and said, Brother Hao, you really don't take the usual road. When someone else takes office, you must be thinking of making great achievements. You still want a chance to transfer back to work. I guess a lot of people don't understand you.
Hao Ge said, of course, it's 1 minute now, and it will be ready in 60 seconds. Who knows the future? Life is only a few decades, and there is no time to always consider making others understand. Go your own way and let others talk.
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Indeed, what suits you is the best. Your choice is not to make everyone understand you.
When faced with important choices in life, no matter what you choose or whether others understand you, it should not be one of the main factors.
Of course, I don't advocate starting my own business. On the contrary, I think self-employment is not suitable for most people.
Because you have lost your stability, your work circle, your stereotyped system and your political identity in the eyes of many people.
You are an ordinary citizen. At the age of 30 or 40, you should start over and compete with those young and energetic post-90s and post-00s.
If you don't have strong goal-driven and good personal management skills, plus a little experience and confidence in walking the society, you may regret it.
I remember a line in the movie "Ashes of Time": Everyone will go through such a stage. When they see a mountain, they want to know what is behind it. I really want to tell him that when you look through it, you will find nothing special. Turn it over again. You may think it will be better here, but I know he won't listen. With his character, how can he be content not to take a walk?
One's own way, one's own way, one's own choice and one's own understanding.
Just like the changes we are facing now, choose to stay? Leave? Autonomous? Or a plan? Or demobilization?
There is no choice that everyone can understand.
There is no perfect choice that is universally applicable.
When people are alive, everyone is an island. Being understood is lucky, but not being understood is not necessarily unfortunate.
After all, each of us lives our own life, and there is no need to live what others think.
The world is wonderful because life has countless choices, countless possibilities and countless appearances.
Besides, a smart and confident person will not indulge in the understanding and recognition of others, because they know what they are pursuing.
So don't seek outside recognition and understanding. It is enough for you to know yourself.
We really don't need to invite too many people into our lives, because we care about other people's eyes.
You know, the so-called passionate years are not the radiant days later, but your persistence in your dreams when no one cares.
Because in this world, thoughtful people will not be too gregarious anywhere.
Just live the life you like.
I am Xiao Zhang Xiansen, thank you for reading.