The owner of this article used to be a wounded person who had been sad for several years. It was not until last year that I realized that my sadness was nothing, and someone was worse than her.
Let's look at her experience in the first person:
1 Forced divorce
No more than ten people know about my marriage.
That year, I worked alone in the field. I got to know Huang Chen because of my business contacts. After a night of lingering, Huang Chen dragged me to the Civil Affairs Bureau. In this way, we got married, no one asked for advice, and no one informed us.
After getting the marriage certificate, Huang Chen introduced his family to me: his father died young, and his mother brought him and his sister up. Because my sister has never been married, she has been living with her mother. "My mother and my sister are very nice people, and they will definitely like you." Huang Chenjian believes that his family will accept me.
I am vaguely worried that family members have one attitude towards family members and another attitude towards outsiders. There are too many such examples. However, Huang Chen and I are married, so we can only try our best to follow the fate.
We made an appointment to go back to Longcheng this weekend, and Huang Chen took me to meet his family. However, I was temporarily arranged to work overtime and had to change my plan. Huang Chen wanted to go back to Longcheng to see his mother, so he left alone.
On Saturday night, I worked overtime until I got home at 9 o'clock. As soon as I entered the door, I got a call from Huang Chen. I was about to speak when an elder's voice came from the other end of the phone. That's Huang Chen's mother.
I am already Huang Chen's wife, so when I speak, I call my aunt "Mom". Aunt quickly stopped: "Don't call mom, I haven't even met your people, I can't afford to be a mom." I heard that you and Chen were married in a flash. How dare you flash marriage ... "It turned out that this phone call was from my aunt. At that time, Huang Chen went out shopping and stole his mobile phone for me.
Aunt's words just say that finish, the phone was robbed by Huang Chen's sister. At first, my sister said a few polite words to me, and later it was also the tone of education and accusation.
Unfortunately, the phone is dead. I quickly found the charger, and then redial when the phone has power. Unexpectedly, Huang Chen's cell phone was turned off. I'm afraid my sister thinks I hung up on purpose. I'm rude. I reissued an apology message.
After sending the text message, I waited for more than an hour with my mobile phone, and there was no response.
The night is already deep. I decided to deal with it the next day.
Being too tired from work, I slept until noon the next day. After lunch, Huang Chen's phone rang again. I answered the phone excitedly. It's him. But his voice is a little tired and sounds a little abnormal.
He told me the time to come back, and never said anything else. I wanted to talk about his mother and sister, but he stopped: "Wait till I get there."
I met Huang Chen at the railway station. When he saw me, he was not excited by the newlyweds at all. He walked in front with a suitcase and turned a blind eye to me chasing after him.
I was angry all the way. As soon as I entered the house, I couldn't help venting my anger. Huang Chen looked at me like a stranger.
"My mother told me to divorce you, while now just get a license which also don't know our business. What do you say? " Huang Chen seems very helpless. I am more helpless than him: "Your mother and your sister have never seen me. How do they know that I am not a good wife? What age is it, and it also interferes with other people's marriages. " Huang Chen stared at me: "What other people? My mother and my sister are my closest relatives, not others. If you can't understand the feelings between our families, then we are really not suitable for being together. Getting married is a mistake. "
Only then did I realize that my marriage with Huang Chen was too impulsive and didn't consider everything behind it. Huang Chen is more and more opinionated and emotional, and always educates me with his bitter stories with his mother. I couldn't bear it, and finally filed for divorce. When I mentioned divorce, he was stupid again, saying that I took marriage as a joke.
We tortured for more than a month and finally divorced. Holding a divorce certificate, Huang Chen looked very complicated and asked, "So divorced?" Are we too irresponsible for marriage? "I want to slap him in the face." You've got a divorce certificate. What's the use of talking about it? Why did you go early! " Say that finish, I turned away, tears kept flowing downwards.
Help him "put out the fire"
Why does Huang Chen's mother object to me being with Huang Chen? There is a simple reason. I grew up in a single-parent family, and my family has no money or power, which will not help Huang Chen's future, and may even drag him down. In short, our combination is a "weak combination", so the two companies will only get weaker and weaker, and there is no prospect to look forward to.
This divorce reason is naked and bloody. Disappointingly, from marriage to divorce, I have never met Huang Chen's family. Huang Chen refused to arrange for us to meet on the grounds that "meeting will only be embarrassing". It was a blessing to leave this spineless man early.
This divorce left a psychological shadow on me. I began to be afraid of contacting the opposite sex and falling in love with men and talking about marriage again. I locked my heart. If you don't meet the right person, it's better to live together and live freely.
In a flash, several years passed.
A few years later, Huang Chen and I both returned to Liuzhou, but there was no contact. A friend told me about him. Suddenly picked up a phone with a strange number, and Huang Chen's voice came from the other end.
He asked me for help, saying that his wife and his mother had quarreled, and his sister went to help, but she still couldn't argue with him. He asked me to find two or three friends to help him, so as to undermine his wife's prestige.
His help is very good.
Huang Chen was in a hurry, saying that others were in other places, and the specific situation was not clear. "In short, please help me. I don't have many friends, and even fewer live in the city. "
Huang Chen begged again and again, but I really couldn't refuse. I asked two male colleagues who have a good relationship on weekdays to help me.
When I arrived at the community where Huang Chen lived, I heard a noise from a family.
I knocked on the door trembling, and a woman opened the door angrily: "What's the matter?" ? Can't you see that our family is very busy! "She looks like Huang Chen, about 40 years old. I guess she is Huang Chen's sister.
Before I could explain my purpose, I heard another voice: "Who is it? Bustling out. " The owner of this voice is someone of a certain age. I guess it's Huang Chen's mother. My heart twitched and I remembered the past.
The door opened and Huang Chen's sister and mother appeared in front of me. I just watched them, and another person in the room rushed to the door.
She looks a little thin, younger than me. She should be Huang Chen's wife, Zhu. Desperately, she tried to tear down the "fence" built by Huang Chen's mother and sister with her own arms, but she wanted to leave the house, but she was blocked.
The situation is wrong. Huang Chen told me that his mother and sister were bullied by Ah Zhu, but the scene in front of him was clearly that Ah Zhu was bullied by her grandmother and sister. Huang Chen's family is full of anger, while Arjun is indignant and full of tears. My intuition tells me that I was cheated by Huang Chen.
I called him right away, and Huang Chen begged me to help his wife leave and let her return to her family for the time being. While his wife and sister were not paying attention, Aju rushed out and rushed downstairs. Looking at her back, a sadness welled up in my heart.
3 no longer participate
If I hadn't divorced Huang Chen, would I be bullied by my wife and sister now? I am glad for what happened in those days.
I really wanted to blacklist Huang Chen's phone number, but I didn't do it in the end, because I thought of "one-night fling, a hundred-night fling".
Huang Chen confessed to me that after he married Arjun three years ago, there was no peace at home. Aju's family is good. Huang Chen's family was very satisfied with Aju at first, so they made a couple.
However, some of Ah Zhu's family members love gambling, some are lazy, and some are caught by the police for doing crooked things ... Huang Chen's mother and sister are more and more dissatisfied with Ah Zhu, and finally they become incompatible, even a small matter can be raging. Huang Chen said: "I love traveling now, and I am happy to be quiet."
After listening to Huang Chen's story, I felt a little sympathy for him: "After living like this, I might as well be single as me." Huang Chen is very supportive of my view. He has been exhausted by his family. I suggested to him, "Hurry up and have a baby. With children, the elders will be more tolerant of the younger generation for their children. " Huang Chen also has this idea, but no matter how hard he and Aju try, they can't get pregnant.
When chatting, Huang Chen tentatively asked me, "Is it possible for the two of us ...? "I firmly say that our fate has long been over, so it is good to be friends now. Huang Chen understanding nodded. I am deeply relieved.
I think Huang Chen is a clever man. Now that we have talked about it, he knows my attitude. I am the person he should not look for no matter how messy the house is. However, Huang Chen is not embarrassed. One day in April this year, he called me again.
This time it was because Aju bought the latest mobile phone and spent more than 5000 yuan. My grandmother thinks that she spends money recklessly, and she also says that she spends Huang Chen's money. In fact, Aju gave the bonus, and she used it to buy a mobile phone. Because of a mobile phone, the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are anxious. Huang Chen spoke for Aju, but my wife was unhappy and threatened to jump off a building or run away from home. Huang Chen was embarrassed.
"What do you want to see me about such a thing? I have never been with my mother-in-law. How do I know how to mediate the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law? " Huang Chen is not looking for me to solve things, he wants to pour out his frustration to me. At home, he is not alone, and nothing is right. He can't go on living like this.
These have nothing to do with me.
Once, because of his indecision and cowardice, I had an unhappy marriage history. Now life is a mess because I don't know how to deal with the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. But life is his own, and the problem needs him to solve. I decided to give up Huang Chen, just as he did to me.
I refused all his calls and requests for help. In order to find me, he even came to my work place. I have accepted the pursuit of a male colleague. My boyfriend helped me stop Huang Chen and warned him not to pester me again.
When he left, Huang Chen's eyes were confused. His loss is not only mine, but also the loss of his family and life. However, these have nothing to do with me. I will never participate in his life again.
How can a man who has no opinion lead a good life?