Because it was an exam, I adopted a more secure answer:
"On the one hand, some people think that career is very important ... because ... on the other hand, some people think that family is more important, which is because ... in my opinion, career and family are both important, ..."
I say this, of course, to give the answer a structure and level, but also to extend the time of explanation and avoid a cold silence.
But later I also felt that a neutral answer, though safe, does not necessarily represent a person's true thoughts. Although warmth is appropriate, it can't compare with the enthusiasm of young people after all.
I can't help thinking, if it weren't for the exam, what would a young girl answer if she encountered such a problem? After all, in life, sometimes, you can't have your cake and eat it. What do girls think?
So when I became a teacher, I used this question to ask my students. Two years ago, the students' answers were similar to mine. I hope to have the best of both worlds, give consideration to both inside and outside, and develop in a balanced way.
However, the answers of freshmen this year are very different. Sometimes, before they answer, they will think about it and respond with "safe mode": "Both are important ..."
After a little hesitation, they will throw away this template and start talking about their ideas enthusiastically. It's a bit like an orator in a film and television, who is ready to read his lines after the script, but suddenly decides to follow his inner call, so he forgets his speech and is in high spirits.
A girl replied:
"I think love is the most important lesson in a woman's life, and home is the warmest place in the world. My parents are very harmonious and love each other, which makes me look forward to marriage and family.
I'm going to get married as soon as I graduate, and then have two children. My husband and I care about each other, support each other and care for each other. In my mind, this life is perfect. If you can't win a happy family in this life, you are not a winner in life. "
Another girl replied:
"I have expectations for love and family, but I have no illusions. I want to see the world, I want to travel, and I have no regrets when I am old. For me, my career comes first. In this world, only oneself is the most reliable. Only work can maximize the value of women.
Housewife is a great position, but it can't give you status. Therefore, to be a winner in life, you can't stay at home where you win. "
Their answer reminds me of two people.
Xiao Wei is a junior college student. As soon as she graduated, she met the destiny takes a hand's person, got married by lightning, and fulfilled her childhood fantasy.
My husband is a middle-level bank employee, who is very fond of her and has a gentle personality. He gave her food and clothing and was never stingy. As a full-time housewife, Xiao Wei is quiet and diligent. She doesn't quarrel with her mother-in-law, and keeps the house clean and transparent. Her husband's suit was ironed and his shoes polished.
My parents-in-law also like her simplicity and prudence. She helps her in daily life and brings her lovely twins. She praises everyone with all her heart. My daughter-in-law is really nice, quick and considerate, just like her own daughter.
After five years of marriage, her husband and she have never blushed. It seems that they have always been newly married.
25-year-old Xiao Wei, who is also fat in vain, is getting younger and younger, and doesn't look like a child at all. Her lovely babies are * * * clever, just like two angels, lively and cheerful.
At the end of last year, her husband was promoted to vice president and the family bought a new car. Husband also bought her a suite, and only her name was written on the real estate license. He funded her to open an online shop and followed her to English training classes. No matter how late the class was, he drove downstairs and waited, which was far away.
Relatives, friends and neighbors all say that they are so lucky. They are so good together, just like Guo Jingjing and Huo.
Sister Yun met me in Taiwan Province Province. Before resigning, she was the vice president of the company, fighting all the way, going through five customs and cutting six generals. From a very young age, I was aggressive and determined to be self-reliant.
With rich accumulation, she wanted to do her own business, so she came to the coastal city of Hualien and started a homestay. As soon as I open the window in the morning, it is spring, full of flowers, facing the charming and vast blue Pacific Ocean.
She also runs an exquisite coffee Jane restaurant. She has a lot of leisure time, so she cooks delicious food with her own hands and enjoys her time.
There are fresh and smooth jellies, and there are warm oranges and pineapple cake, with crisp skin and soft stuffing and soft fragrance. There is also peanut ice cream, which is delicate and slightly tough, sweet and cold.
Life in Hualien is very slow. Besides managing shops and investing, she still has time to enjoy art exhibitions, join book clubs and attend her favorite concerts.
Make a walking bead perfume with the flavor of Qilixiang. The petals are rippling in the crystal bottle. Take it to Wenchuang Market and give it to the girl who goes with fate.
If she is in the mood, she will pack her bags and travel, and fly across the ocean happily, refreshing, neat, clean and magnanimous. A woman in her forties, graceful and exquisitely maintained, with a skirt flying on the beach, still looks only thirty.
She used to have the experience of a big company, but now she has the accumulation of small businesses and no home to run. As a drag on children, she decided to do one more thing to realize her childhood dream of being a teacher:
She applied for a doctoral program in a prestigious school and was successfully admitted. After graduation, she hopes to study in Europe and America, study as a postdoctoral fellow, and then get a teaching position in the university with her own theoretical and practical experience.
I calculated that Sister Yun would be 52 years old when she left the station as a postdoctoral fellow.
Sister Yun, 52, and Xiao Wei, 25, have different life paths.
But in my heart, I always feel that they are so similar, but I don't think where they are.
Until my students enthusiastically and firmly said, "I want a marriage and family!" " ""I want to pursue my career! "When I was young, I realized.
Should women fight for their careers or take care of their families? As a once college entrance examination essay question said: The answer is colorful.
It suddenly dawned on me that if I had to choose one, it didn't matter what the answer was, whether it was to answer my family or my career first.
I don't care which side you choose.
I hope that when you answer, there is a dream in your heart and light in your eyes. You really believe what you say and are willing to work hard to realize your exclusive dream.
Life is so short, you can make your own choices, and you don't have to live in other people's eyes or mouths.
Just like Sister Yun, they are so similar because they all live soberly according to their own wishes and can bravely bear all the disappointments in this life.
Xiao Wei has a happy family, but in the face of a room full of people, she must also have the tolerance and wisdom of humiliation. Sister Yun is free and easy, but in the face of empty houses, she should also have optimistic courage and be able to withstand loneliness and desolation.
Family business, which is more important, is always controversial, just as there are always pros and cons in the debate. But the final decision of the debate is not because of which viewpoint is "absolutely correct", but because of which side can justify itself and discuss it logically and properly.
One of the most powerful methods in argument is giving examples.
If you really want to be something, just do it. You will use your success to complete your argument, and no matter which side you support, you will get envious eyes in the end.
Hey, the world is so diverse, I just want you to live the life you want.
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