In this regard, some netizens asked: When did you suddenly decide to give up?
A high praise won my inner answer: not when I was arguing, nor when I was not around when I needed it, but when I was enjoying a good time, I took it for granted that it was not giving.
I am convinced that it is often the attitude of people around me that consumes the most feelings.
Whether it is friendship, love, affection, or strangers who can give us warmth, their love for us is lost at that moment.
Never mind, always be the executioner of emotion.
Take others' goodness for granted,
My heart is cold.
A while ago, A Yu, a college roommate, was very depressed and said that she was in a confused period and felt completely lost.
It turned out that Ayu, as a member of the National Precision Poverty Alleviation Task Force, visited farmers in the countryside for the first time. Out of courtesy, he bought a gift with his own money and gave it to the person in charge at home.
At first, farmers complained to him that agricultural products could not be sold and their income could not be increased. She bought some agricultural products with the farmers to express her comfort, and reported the farmers' problems when she went back.
After that, Ayu took time to visit the farmers, and the farmers raised chickens and ducks at home: "Teacher, you should eat these things anyway. If you can't get it in the city, you can buy it for me. Forget it. "
Ayu, who has no family, eats in restaurants all the year round, so she refuses because she can't use it.
She didn't think of his refusal, completely angered a few people, with rumors chasing him:
""Miss Xiao Yu, it's too stingy. Now that you come to see us, we don't have to buy presents. Forget what you didn't buy us, and don't bring gifts. Poverty alleviation teachers also clean houses for farmers. We've had enough if we don't let him clean up. "
"Have I ever made a mistake?" She has no choice. Yes, I said no, but some people are used to taking others' goodness for granted, which is their own fault.
Taking others' good wishes for granted is a very consuming process, which will make people angry, indomitable and chilling.
As Li wrote in his poem, "The truth of your God makes me shudder.
Really, the most hurtful thing is often not fighting or cold war, but that you take my kindness for granted at the same time.
To consume the kindness of others,
Eat your own fruit, eat your own fruit.
One day, menstruation came home and nagged her mother, saying that she should think twice about doing good deeds in the future.
After careful inquiry, I learned that in order to standardize management, vendors are no longer allowed to put baskets everywhere to sell vegetables in the street of my sister's office.
Street management is very standardized, but it also means that many vendors whose tenants can't open the door are unemployed.
Because a husband lost his job, my aunt took the initiative to tear down many stalls in front of the store and sell her vegetables. Every day, she can also receive the vegetables left in the store.
My grandfather's seventieth birthday, my aunt and the year before last usually closed the shop to accompany his grandparents. My second aunt, who just married far away this year, went home, so my aunt stayed a few more days.
During this time, the female stall owner called to ask about her sister's return date, which was polite at first. After learning that my sister was going to stay at her second aunt's house for a few more days, she instantly turned against her and asked her:
""where am I going to sell leftovers if you don't come back and open the door? Send the food home every day, you know? "
Everything is beautiful, but when you feel these beautiful things, it is not far away to lose them.
As soon as my aunt got angry, she took back the stall in front of the store in despair. As usual, female vendors began to pick baskets to sell vegetables. Once, she happened to bump into a big basket, and the basket and vegetables were taken away by the city management.
Everyone thinks my aunt has suffered, but I think the peddler has suffered a lot. She naturally ruined her financial resources and dealt a heavy blow to this family without labor.
It is natural to be kind to others, and eventually you will get what you want. What you want most must be a heavier price.
Even love,
Of course, I will die.
There is a sentence in "Caigen Tan" that deeply touched me, "The fish crossed the water and forgot the water. Birds cannot fly in the wind. "
Indeed, just as a fish swims in the water but forgets the water, a bird rides the wind but forgets the wind, and when it is used to it, it forgets that it is paying.
Humans will always take it for granted that they will lose their best self.
Once, I saw my friend Li and my friend turned against each other for a simple and common reason.
A friend works in a clothing store and has to register a certain amount of membership fee every month.
Being a good friend should be supported, so friends send links and pears register immediately, so that boyfriends can also charge.
A few days later, pear received a link from a friend. Pear said that after registering, the news came back soon: "You can send your friends and let them register."
Since then, whenever the attendance is approaching, pear will receive a link. In desperation, I had to give up.
So the other person turned and said, "I don't have your time." How about you help me register for my performance? "
The friend's reaction completely angered Li Li, and Li Li immediately dropped the words: "I have many friends, and I didn't bring them to you to eat."
After that, the two men tore their faces.
The relationship between people, like a balance, is based on balance and eternity. Only one party pays and the other party takes, which will inevitably lead to collapse.
Friendship is like this, so is love.
Not long ago, my boyfriend Qingyu and her boyfriend went to his house and broke up immediately after they came back.
Let Qingyu get up before dawn to cook for her boyfriend. Jade waited quietly after finishing, and didn't officially start eating until the sisters of Sangan's boyfriend got up.
Later, sapphire talked to her boyfriend, but the other party gave her three "books":
"You can't sleep till dawn like my sisters. Daughter-in-law is different from daughter.
"You should get up early to cook, otherwise how could my mother like you? 」
"You should cook, otherwise how to take care of me in the future? 」
Maybe it's because Qingyu usually pays a lot, so her boyfriend has a well-deserved feeling.
Finally, Jade proposed to break up. She said: What I am afraid of is not paying, but taking it for granted that others should pay for you.
I firmly believe that even the best feelings will die.
Teacher Dong Qing once said:
For him, it is a willingness to pay; It's not ideal for you. Of course.
People have always praised "you come and I go". You are good to me, and I am good to you. Don't just ask for it and don't know how to respect others' efforts.
Finally, I want to send you a sentence from Haruki Murakami:
Remember those who held umbrellas for you in the heavy rain, those who helped you stop foreigners and hugged you silently in the dark;
People who laugh with you, people who talk to you all night, people who see you by car, people who cry with you, people who cry with you, and people who have been thinking about you.
Whether it is the kindness of strangers or the efforts of people around you, you should be grateful and don't take it for granted.