2. Losing love without losing virtue. Some young people have an incorrect understanding that lovelorn is a shameful thing, and they feel ashamed and humiliated. Because of psychological imbalance, murder is born. You won't let me live well, and I won't let you live well, or some people retaliate after falling in love. Most of these people are women. These are immoral, contrary to the Marxist concept of love and not conducive to socialist spiritual civilization. The correct way is to break up morally in love, break up amicably and say goodbye. In this respect, the behavior of many celebrities and great men is worth learning. For example, the writer romain rolland mentioned earlier is such a person. Although Sophia refused his love, he didn't hate Sophia because of it. On the contrary, he cherished the pure friendship with Sophia more. He thinks Sophia has the freedom to choose love, but she has no right to accuse or criticize her. Twisted melons are not sweet, and love cannot be wishful thinking. Later, he continued to correspond with Sophia and discussed the moral and artistic issues of life as before. Although the flower of love between them has withered, the flower of friendship is blooming more and more brilliantly. His love novel "Spring in Rome" wrote his passionate love for Sophia in his early years. Later, he arranged the letters exchanged with Sophia into a book of two places, entitled Dear Sophia, and published it.
3. Emotional transfer. In reality, after all, there are many ordinary people. After falling in love, not everyone will be as lucky as romain rolland and other writers, and succeed through the road of creation. Many young people have no special skills. After being lovelorn, they can't and can't create to get rid of the pain of lovelorn. At this time, you can transfer your emotions. The most practical way is to make friends with the opposite sex again and find a bosom friend who suits you. Because it is not easy for a person to forget his lover in a short time, his feelings are complicated, touching and subtle. Only by finding a new bosom friend can we slowly heal the wounds of the soul and cheer up again.
4. For those who are lovelorn, still obsessed with their lovers, unable to get rid of the shadow, or even completely uninterested in other opposite sex, or suffer from mental illness due to the pain of lovelorn, it is recommended to see a psychologist and receive psychological counseling.