Many times, as an outsider, or a person who has never experienced marriage, it may be easy to say the word "divorce", on the basis of not indulging her husband, otherwise her husband will get worse. But is divorce really the best choice? Friends who suggest divorce may wish to think about such a problem. After the divorce, did you stay single and never get married? Or will the next one be better than the present one? Men are all the same in the world, and philandering is inevitable. It is better to relax and keep a cool head so as to come up with countermeasures. What if my husband has a mistress outside? Better help yourself than ask for help!
Several steps to save yourself:
1, thinking-go or not?
No matter what answer you get, you need to follow your heart. Everyone has different views and values on marriage, so they will make different decisions on this issue, whether through the advice of friends or their own independent thinking, the decision is in their own hands. It is hard for people to be honest with others, but it is even harder to be honest with themselves. Whatever the decision is, tell yourself that there are still some challenges to face.
2. self-positioning.
Try to save yourself in a short time, find your own position and pull yourself down from the position of "abandoned wife" Many people will feel very painful when their husbands cheat, and even want to commit suicide, trying to solve the pain, but after thinking about it, this is not desirable. "I am a challenger, and the truth is often on my side. I have the support of many people. . . "This is the correct self-positioning.
3. Find someone to lean on.
Of course, this dependence is not the emotional dependence of men and women, but a person with enough influence to influence the relationship with her husband. The ideal thing is to find each other's parents to rely on. No parents want their children to divorce. Unless you have to, a wife can easily rely on her husband's parents to speak for you.
4. Analyze and sum up experience.
Only by summing up experience after failure can we improve ourselves and avoid similar mistakes. Making a summary will make us more confident. The summary includes: what kind of person is he, eating soft or hard? What does he like and dislike? What moved him most? What is the last thing he needs? Is his patience good? What kind of person is your opponent? Is she an ignorant girl or a schemer? What are her strengths and weaknesses? Know yourself and know yourself, and you will win every battle.
5. Put it into practice and start to act.
What if my husband has a mistress? If you are fully prepared, you can take action, enrich yourself, actively carry out marital psychological counseling and improve your emotional intelligence. Then show your low-key attitude. Reasoning and forgiving is a taboo, which can imply that the husband already knows him. Give him some time to analyze the pros and cons of things by himself. If you don't want a divorce, you should leave room for each other.