The spiritual world is intangible, but we can compare it to a room visible to the naked eye, especially a single room. You may have seen or experienced a messy room. Too many things are scattered irregularly, things you need can't be found, useless garbage can't be thrown away, the lights are dim, the walls are covered with plaster, and insects rustle in the corner. ...
You may stand in the middle of the room for the first time, and you can't even find a place to sit. You will soon feel uncomfortable, unhappy and depressed, and want to escape. You may stay here for a long time, get used to the surrounding environment, get used to sitting in the corner and feeling depressed, feel useless and can't tell you why.
These experiences are similar to those when many people came to consult before. Psychological counseling gives us an opportunity at this time. With the support and company of psychological counselors, we have the courage to have a look, tidy up and clean up our chaotic "soul room".
In the safe and warm consultation relationship, we begin to experience feelings and seriously see our inner "space".
We finally look straight and admit that there are many feelings like "things", and we are willing to take responsibility for our "space".
We began to pour out our hearts, just like sorting out and storing "things" to restore inner order. Some feelings are no longer needed, and we have already begun to block them out when we say them. Some feelings need to be kept, so after we make it clear, we can put up a shelf in our minds and use more "space" to accommodate them.
We begin to heal the past, just like cleaning up corners that we don't want to touch. Secrets, wounds and shame are often hidden in the corner of the room. We thought we had forgotten them, but we were more controlled by them. When we are willing to pull them out, dust them off, clean them and take them apart, we can leave resources that are really useful to us now and release more free space.
After this finishing process, our soul room will be completely new. Clean, fresh and bright, neat and orderly, spacious space. We like ourselves like this, believe in our inner beauty, clarity and strength, know how to deal with internal and external disturbances, and are willing to open doors and windows, let sunshine and air in and out freely, and experience healthy contact with others.
Psychological counseling is like raising plants.
I wonder if you have the experience of raising a pot of flowers or green plants? Visitors are like that pot of soil, which contains seeds and necessary nutrients, but its vitality is weak, dim, non-germinated and dry. Consultants are like gardeners who cultivate green plants. They can't see the roots with naked eyes, nor can they replace or accelerate the growth of seeds.
What the gardener can do is to provide an environment suitable for growth, form a whole with just right sunshine, temperature, air, moisture and nutrients, and patiently irrigate the soil and moisten the seeds. The same is true of psychological counselors, who will approach the spiritual world of visitors with care and curiosity in week after week of communication, so that visitors can feel the warmth in their hearts in an atmosphere full of sincerity, affection and unconditional positive attention, and some forces are quietly accumulating and breaking through.
But when will this pot of seeds germinate? In fact, no one knows. Consultants, like gardeners, do what they can, and then wait patiently, and visitors will brew their own changes. Perhaps there is a very ordinary moment, after the seeds take root deeply, they finally jump up and germinate! It's like a visitor suddenly having an epiphany, knowing himself deeply, being willing to be closer to his inner self emotionally, opening up new ways of thinking and action, and accumulating new vitality. Visitors are not transformed into another person by magic, but under the constant and stable care of consultants, they dare to reorganize or excavate resources on the original basis and open up new branches and buds.
A supervisor once told me that psychological counseling is just asking about cultivation without asking about harvest, that is, "planting a good seed." I am very touched to hear that. What a consultant can do is to constantly sow the seeds of vitality in the hearts of visitors. These seeds may be called care, goodwill, respect and acceptance, so that visitors in trouble can feel that TA is so beautiful and so "worthwhile". Even though many times the consultant may not have the opportunity to see the seeds germinate and grow up, these seeds will accompany, nourish and protect TA in the ups and downs of life after TA, even if TA has forgotten it.
The above is about psychological counseling and related issues. If you have any related questions, please seek professional help. Psychological counseling is to use psychological theories and methods to help visitors find their own problems and their roots, tap their own potential, change their original cognitive structure and behavior, and maintain mental health.
Finally, choosing a suitable counselor is an important guarantee for the effect of psychological counseling. Please choose carefully.