Any of our parents hope that their children can get ahead and surpass themselves in their future life and work. However, there are different opinions on how to educate children and make them grow up healthily. A series of lectures on children's family etiquette education through kindergartens. In my opinion, only the method that suits your child is the best method. The formation of children's habits is inseparable from the living environment. As parents, we should lead by example and guide our children to grow up healthily with our own words and deeds. As a parent, I have the following experiences:
As parents, we usually pay more attention to the details of life such as whether children eat well, sleep well enough and get sick. In fact, parenting is promising. After listening to Director Chen's lecture, I feel that children's education is meticulous, starting from bit by bit, from queuing to buy water, hanging towels, greeting teachers, to learning to adjust their emotions, communicate with others, and learn to listen. All these need time to guide and demonstrate repeatedly to achieve the effect and internalize it into a behavior habit of children. In addition, no one is perfect, and any child will have shortcomings in one way or another, but we can't yell at them or even fly into a rage. After all, they are still a group of children with unclear concepts of right and wrong. What we need to do is patiently persuade, practice, encourage imitation and praise in due course. Our good boy is boasting, not scolding. However, as soon as they saw the child doing something wrong, they immediately flew into a rage and shouted at him. This will not only fail to correct, but will make children more rebellious, turn a deaf ear to their parents' words, and even produce inferiority complex. Aware of the seriousness of the problem, I tried to use the teacher's encouragement education method to find the bright spots of children and encourage and praise them in time. I give my children positive psychological hints and let them know what is right and what is wrong. In this way, children not only enhance their sense of right and wrong, but also have enough self-confidence.
First, have a tolerant heart and guide children correctly. He has bad habits. The first line should tell him that this practice is wrong, and also explain why it is wrong, so that the child can realize that he has done something wrong. Secondly, you can't simply yell at your child rudely, but have something to say. Third, ask children not to do this again next time. If this happens again, what should he do and give him a standard. Children's habits cannot be corrected overnight. Every child has his own shortcomings, so we should treat children with tolerance. Only when parents treat their children with tolerance and equality can they truly understand the problems and difficulties in their growth and guide them correctly according to their characteristics. Only in this way can they give their children a healthy and happy space and protect their childlike innocence to the maximum extent.
Second, change the subject and don't compare with each other. In fact, I think everyone has vanity and comparison, and children are no exception. For example, when our child is playing with other children, if we buy him a new toy, he will show it in front of the child, and other children are no exception. At this time, if he doesn't have toys, he will say what he has, and you didn't wait. At this time, we will tell our children that you all have your own toys. If you like each other's toys, you can exchange them with other children. In fact, children think other people's toys are the most fun, and everyone wants to play with other people's toys. Children in our community are playing with toys. This effectively avoids the children's comparison and avoids the situation that others want what they have.
Third, the educational concept should be consistent. First of all, parents' educational concept should be consistent and their thoughts should be unified. Don't be a good COP, be a bad COP. If so, let the children be at a loss and distinguish between right and wrong. For example, when a child eats, we all strictly ask him to finish his own meal, but his grandfather always says: You just have enough. If you are full, the children are in charge, and you can't finish eating, the educational effect will not be achieved. We insist that he must finish his meal. My child has been weak since childhood and often falls ill. It is common to take medicine by infusion. At this time, we often encourage him to be brave. A little pain is like being bitten by an ant, but it's not very painful. After the injection and medicine, the disease will be cured. Since then, children have been brave enough to take injections and medicines. I have reached out and actively cooperated with the injection, and I didn't cry at all. They can stick to the bitter medicine and perform well. Therefore, as long as the educational ideas are unified, the education is appropriate, the methods are appropriate, and the children's progress is obvious.
Fourth, the story attracts and improves the language and logic ability. We subscribed to several kinds of children's pictorial for children, including stories, mazes, finding differences, games and so on. Let's teach him how to play and tell him stories, and then let him watch and tell himself. Children will not be tired after reading it, and they will be happy when the new book comes. We insist on telling stories to our children before going to bed at night. A child may always tell a story when he is young, and suddenly one day, he will slowly tell the story we told him. When telling him stories, he was really serious and devoted, and gradually learned to think independently. We often encourage our children to tell us stories, his interesting stories at school, his own stories and so on. And stories are used to tell some truth, and children accept them quickly, which also enhances their evaluation and logical thinking ability.
The child is not a seedling in the greenhouse, but we should take good care of him and let him grow up safely and healthily. The child is not a flower in the hot sun, but we should water him and bask in the sun, let him experience some minor setbacks and difficulties, and make him brave and strong.
Chapter two: Experience of kindergarten parents' work.
In another month, my daughter will bid farewell to kindergarten, friends who have been together for four years, and teachers who have taken good care of and patiently educated her to grow up. While she was carrying her schoolbag with great expectation and happily stepping into the primary school campus, I often recalled many lives in the past four years and recalled the happiness and hardships of educating children. I am gratified to see my child grow from an ignorant child to a sensible and polite pupil, but I also want to share some experiences with my parents.
As parents, we must first realize and assume the main responsibility for educating our children, and we can't completely push our children to kindergarten teachers or the elderly at home. Instead, we should support and cooperate with teachers' education and various work arrangements for children, properly handle differences of opinion with parents in educating children, and coordinate the education of children between schools and families. Parents are the children's first teachers and will also be their lifelong mentors. In the process of children's growth, parents should always accompany, pay attention to, help and guide.
Observe carefully and get to know the children better. In the attitude of education, we should neither like it too much, nor be too harsh, nor let it drift or encourage it. We should combine children's actual ability and growth needs, create conditions for children's individualized development, put forward appropriate requirements and expectations for children, and set a goal and direction for educating children for ourselves. The focus of early childhood education is not to instill a lot of knowledge and information, but to pay special attention to the cultivation of children's good behavior habits. Two years ago, in order to cultivate children's artistic sentiment and hone her will, I sent her to learn piano. Considering that practicing piano for an hour every day had already caused pressure on the four-and-a-half-year-old child at that time, I left the decision on whether to attend the abacus interest class in kindergarten to her. Although she finally chose to give up, I felt a little sorry, but I was satisfied to see that she had learned to draw, write and go with relish.
In the education and training of children, we should not only respect the nature of children, but also give necessary constraints and guidance to make children's personality develop healthily in a benign range. Children always have to grow up, and we hope they can integrate into society healthily and happily. If they indulge their nature too much, their willfulness will inevitably lead to the lack of self-discipline, the failure of personal development and interpersonal communication, and the isolation of social life. Therefore, I always set an example by asking my children to be honest and trustworthy, helpful, modest and studious, and active and diligent. Probably because of these advantages, although she is not the best child in the class, she has won the appreciation of teachers and the love of children.
Communicate with children by words and emotions. From telling stories to discussing some social phenomena with children in simple language, I have been trying to let children know about the society around them and distinguish between good and evil, beauty and ugliness. Although children sometimes seem to understand the truth, I find that she is more sensible than children of the same age. In the seemingly simple evaluation of right and wrong, I am gratified by the kindness, tolerance and justice shown by this child. She is always caring and attentive when her family is ill. She knows how to be friendly and humble to her friends and polite to her elders. It is language education and emotional communication, so that this child can understand truth, know right and wrong, be smart and sensible, and know how to be grateful.
Children are the hope of every family and the whole society. They still have a long way to go. As parents, it takes a long time to explore and try to master the appropriate educational methods. We must maintain a good attitude, learn scientific educational methods, cooperate with schools and teachers, and cultivate children into healthy, happy and useful people!
Chapter three: Experience of kindergarten parents' work.
Parents are children's first teachers, and their words and deeds have a subtle influence on children. Therefore, the work of parents has become an important part of our daily work, especially for our newly formed new class. To this end, how to do a good job of parents and let children get more comprehensive development is something we must pay attention to and do well. Strengthening the art of communication between teachers and parents is the guarantee to do a good job in parent work. Combined with the situation and characteristics of parents' work in this class, I will talk about my own practices and experiences:
First, exchange sincerity for trust.
Sincerity is parents' trust and recognition of teachers, and teachers' work should also start from the perspective of all for children and communicate with children's healthy development as the center. Such sincerity is the most concerned and recognized by parents, which makes parents realize that they actively cooperate with teachers for the healthy development of their children. Just like my little friend Hu Hao, he cried for more than a month when he came to the garden. He is a headstrong child. No matter how coaxed by the teacher and aunt, he always cries and doesn't eat. The teacher who is sleeping has to be coaxed by him to barely sleep for a while, and parents and teachers are very worried. We will truthfully report the children's situation in the park to parents, let parents know the teacher's active efforts, and talk to parents in an empathetic way. Parents also actively cooperate at home and continue to cooperate with teachers. As soon as the children are sent to the park in the morning, parents will leave immediately to prevent the children from feeling attached. Slowly, the child got used to this reading mode, and gradually he could stop crying and making trouble, and he basically ate all the food his aunt fed him. My parents expressed their gratitude and recognition for our work, and specially sent banners to thank us for our efforts. It can be seen that sincerity and patience can win the trust and recognition of parents.
Second, understand the needs of parents, listen to their opinions and suggestions carefully, and establish good friends with parents.
Now? Four, two, one? Chinese-style families shape children's unique personality, and each family has its own unique thinking on children's education and can gain rich experience from parents. While listening carefully to parents' opinions and suggestions, we should put forward our own ideas, coordinate with each other and become the best partners with parents.
For example, Gu Jiarui of our class, a lively little girl at home, came to the garden without saying a word. At first, the parents will misunderstand that the teacher is too hard on the child, which makes the child afraid to speak. Only after parents know and are familiar with the teachers in our class do they know that children are afraid of strangers. Every time Gu Jiarui's mother picks up her children, she encourages them to say hello to teachers and nurses every day. Moreover, parents will also have a long talk with teachers, talk about their children's situation at home and consult some ways to educate their children. These exchanges not only promoted children's development, changed their shyness and fear of life, but also established a harmonious home for teachers, parents and friends to improve the quality of study and life together.
Third, fully understand the specific situation of children and skillfully organize language to improve the accuracy and execution of parents' work.
Parents are very concerned about the child's physical condition, whether the child has made progress recently, and even what aspects of the child's performance are weak. Therefore, we should regularly report to parents about all aspects of children and the educational measures we have taken. To do this work well, teachers must fully understand the situation of children and must never talk nonsense. Every time parents and children go out for activities, the attendance rate in our class is very high. First of all, when mobilizing parents to participate, we should patiently introduce the content of this activity and the benefits of this activity to children's physical and mental development, so that parents can create a natural and warm learning atmosphere for their children, and take the opportunity to let their children and their friends know more about it, and also let parents lead their children to integrate into the big family of the class and grow up harmoniously.
Fourth, timely and accurately reflect the situation of children in the park to parents, treat special children in a reasonable way, and obtain the support of parents.
In this process, teachers should actively publicize the work of kindergartens and timely convey all kinds of information about kindergartens and the latest developments in the field of preschool education to parents. In fact, parents are very concerned about the information of kindergartens, and information is constantly fed back to kindergartens. Therefore, teachers must do a good job in bridge work in order to gain more support, cooperation and trust from parents. Because the children in our class are the youngest, most of them are very dependent on their parents, and they are the little emperors at home. This is especially true of Jiang Kaifu in our class. He is the tallest child in our class, but every day, his grandmother is asked to carry him into the classroom. Not only children, but also parents think there is nothing wrong with this. The teacher has told the parents several times, but the parents always say there is no way. He cries when he walks. In fact, parents are largely responsible for this situation. Later, after repeated persuasion by the teacher, the situation of carrying her into the classroom improved, but new problems came again. She hugged her grandmother tightly and kept thinking of various reasons to delay her leaving, either to pee or to go back to the car with her to get this and that. Parents always loathe to give up her and won't leave immediately. I talked to Jiang's grandmother several times and learned that Jiang is also a little emperor at home, and his parents are extremely fond of him. The teacher talked with his parents and grandma several times, and now Xi 'an's situation has greatly improved. You can walk into the classroom by yourself in the morning and give grandma a few hugs to let her go. Therefore, it takes a lot of skills and language to communicate with these parents who love their children too much and make them aware of the seriousness of the situation and the future development of their children.
Auxiliary mode of maternal work;
1. Parents should communicate more when picking up their children. Complement home visits and promote? Problem children? The healthy development of;
2. Give full play to the window function of home-school passepartout and parents' garden, and combine home and school to promote children's development in many ways.
3. Choose good parents, point to face, play a demonstration role, and let more parents feel the importance of home-school cooperation.
Let me talk about some of my experiences and share them with you:
Smile service is advocated by all walks of life in today's society, and it is also the standard of quality service. Kindergarten teachers are no exception. In the morning, when parents send their children to the door of the classroom, they see the smiling teachers in the class and hear the cordial greetings from the teachers and children. Maybe from now on, parents will feel that their children are at home in kindergarten. In the afternoon, when the parents who had worked all day came to the park to pick up their children, the teacher smiled and said to him. Your children are great. He learned to dress today. ? Maybe his fatigue was relieved immediately; The parents didn't come to pick up the children, but the teacher still smiled and said: Never mind, don't worry! ? How can this not impress parents? The charm of a smile is infinite. For a teacher, it is the key to your parents' hearts. Sometimes, teachers will meet some critical parents, especially those children who are spoiled by their parents and grandparents. They are not at ease with their teachers, either worrying about whether their children are cold or hot, or worrying about whether their children have enough to eat and sleep well, whether they are bullied or not, and so on. When I meet such parents, I pay special attention to three points:
1. Work ahead and take care of the children more carefully.
Observe children's daily activities and performance, such as eating, going to the toilet and sleeping. And let me know when I grow out of the garden at home; For example, the twins in our class are Yang Longfei and Yang Longteng.
2. Let children be the mouthpiece of parents.
Parents usually trust their children. In some cases, parents don't understand it very well, and sometimes there are misunderstandings, so we regard children as messengers. Take Jin Nanxin for example. At first, Jin Nanxin's grandfather didn't know much about our work, and the young children were still young. The way parents ask questions makes the difference between the children's answers and the facts, and makes parents doubt the way we educate our children. Jin Nanxin's grandfather also complained directly to the director's office, trying to find out the truth. The person in charge of the school came to our class to learn about the situation and asked the children if these situations had happened. The children answered no and asked him if he liked the teacher. He also answered yes. If the teacher can hit the child, will the child still like the teacher? Obviously, it is the parents' questioning that makes the child unclear, and the child is still young, so the answer is inconsistent with the facts. After the teacher's patient explanation and the children's parents' understanding and inquiry, this misunderstanding was solved and the trust relationship between parents and teachers was re-established. It is found that the way children talk and the way parents ask questions will lead to different results, so we should teach children to tell the truth about the situation in the park and let parents understand the teacher's work.
3. Let parents participate in the activities and define the goals.
As the saying goes:? Seeing is believing, but listening is not? It is the best embodiment of class work to let parents participate in the class. Doing a good job of parents' work in multiple directions and channels can enhance parents' awareness of attaching importance to children's education, urge parents to have a sense of responsibility and urgency, let parents understand and follow the laws of educational protection and children's physical and mental development, and make their own educational methods more scientific and targeted. Close cooperation with kindergartens and the same class will achieve synchronous development, and will also spur us to explore more effective ways and means of children's education.
Therefore, as an aspect of early childhood education, parents' work does have its necessity and importance. Paying attention to parents' work and doing it well are good for kindergartens, teachers and children. For the development of kindergartens, for the growth of teachers themselves and for the healthy development of children, teachers, let's all pay attention to parents' work and do our best!