It is such a science, an art, a technology, a therapy and a school.
Many of them are psychological counselors, and when you study psychological counseling or psychology, you may often be asked a question, that is, "Do you know what I am thinking?
"It seems that people who study psychology will know what others are thinking.
I have some anti-empathy for such a problem.
When I came into contact with Gestalt psychological counseling and therapy technology, I seemed to have a new view on this issue. That is to say, a person, if you master the real psychological counseling and treatment technology, when we face our visitors, helpers or the person who interacts with us, we may not know what he is thinking for a short time, but we can perceive his inner state.
First of all, Gestalt is a transliteration of German. 19 13 years, there were three great psychologists, one was M. Harmo, the other was K. Kofka, and the other was W. Kohler. They founded the Berlin School, also known as Gestalt Psychology School.
Later, Gestalt Psychology flourished for more than 100 years, and it was applied in literature, aesthetics, ethics, translation studies, architecture and so on. Of course, it is also a derivative of clinical psychology.
So what is its uniqueness? In the sixties and seventies, there was a great development, that is, Perls was the founder of Gestalt psychological counseling and therapy. He organically integrated psychoanalysis, cognitive behavior, humanism, psychodrama and many other mainstream psychotherapy schools, so he called it Gestalt psychological counseling and therapy.
Gestalt psychological counseling and therapy is also the pioneer of the earliest experiential therapy.
Psychoanalysis is related to gestalt. First of all, the founder himself has been trained in psychoanalysis, and the cognitive behavior, humanism, psychodrama and so on mentioned just now are inextricably linked with Gestalt.
Then how do we know the completeness of gestalt? How to understand this creative feature of gestalt in psychological counseling and treatment?
Consciousness is both a goal and a process. In this process of awareness, we will let our visitors have a good experience through internal, internal and external understanding, so as to achieve self-awareness and balance of internal and external personality. What we say can integrate the two poles and two parts of his human nature, make him responsible for himself and reach a process of choice.
Simply put, the macro goal of Gestalt is awareness, while the micro goal is put forward by me personally. It is a goal process and goal orientation from balance of awareness to integration to choice, so as to be responsible for myself.
What kind of consciousness, balance and integration can make our visitors reach an attitude and life philosophy that they can choose freely and be responsible for themselves?
"So we must first understand the essence of Gestalt psychological counseling and therapy, that is, I personally think that he is returning to the truest side of everyone, that is, the" truth "of things, because he originated from phenomenology, and the real meaning of phenomenology is called" returning to the truth of things ".
We help our tourists live for themselves truly, freely and freely.
Well, that's the problem. When we face a visitor, he may encounter some confusion in his life. How can we help him live a truly free life?
We will hear many counselors say, "You should realize, you should accept, you should let go, I understand you very well".
Not long ago, APA (American Psychological Association) published a series of books, proposing the language that visitors least like to hear.
The first is "I understand you", the second is "You need to accept yourself", and then the third is "You need to let go of something".
As consultants, the last thing we want to hear is: "Teacher, I know everything, but I can't do it.
Gestalt psychological counseling and therapy technology is to help you change unconsciously from the perspective of experience, rather than "let you change", "let you accept" and "let you let go".
Once there is such compulsion, it is not gestalt psychological counseling and treatment.
1970, there was a gestalt-oriented psychotherapist named Besser who wrote an article called The Paradox of Change.
He said: when a person becomes a person, a person becomes a person, that is, when a person wants to be a person, he can't be a person.
Pierce's final interpretation is that when a person gives up his desire for change and insists on change, change naturally happens.
I talked about it just now-you need to realize that you need to let go and you need to accept it.
And in the face of our visitors, how can we help our visitors, let her put down and accept herself?
For example, when a visitor is expressing a sentence, the visitor says, "I am very tired.
"Then we must first perceive-when the visitor says' I am tired', we must first hear what its timbre is, what its pitch is and what its tone is.
For example, "Oh, I'm so tired!" For example, "Oh, I'm so tired!" First of all, we make accurate positioning on sound, timbre and nonverbal symbols.
And in the content and frequency of the language, such as the number of times "I'm tired" appears in his whole language.
He repeatedly mentioned "I am very tired", and this "tired" is meaningful to him.
In addition, when he expresses "I am very tired", his movements, expressions, and his behaviors and emotions.
We call it subtle technology, also called trinity perception.
How to accurately perceive the state of the visitor at the moment, find out the pain points of the visitor, and the meaning behind the language he wants to say but wants to express is to turn his background into his image in gestalt psychology, which is very important for our gestalt psychological counselors and therapists.
Similarly, it plays an absolute role in the rehabilitation of our visitors and is a very important therapeutic factor.
When expressing clinical symptoms, visitors said: I am always anxious, especially anxious, and sometimes I don't want to take medicine now.
When I went to the hospital, the doctor didn't say anything, saying that I might have a panic attack and was a little anxious.
But I'm anxious every day, I don't know what's going on, so I'm anxious and inexplicable.
In fact, all my friends know that when this teacher expresses himself in this way, if she has to put a label on it in clinic, this unprovoked, endless and sudden anxiety is clinically called "floating anxiety".
And if we label him, it is an anxiety disorder, and the teacher may think that he has anxiety disorder.
So in the process of expressing with him, I said, "I find you are a little anxious when you speak." You seem anxious to express something. You seem anxious to say something. I see that you are very eager to tell me something.
""I think your breathing is a little cramped. I find you particularly want to say something.
"You see, the actual use of external perception, is a description, that is, a description.
Although I didn't have sex with him at this moment, the message the visitor received was that when he saw the teacher and heard the teacher's feedback, he seemed to be looking in the mirror.
There is an Italian gestalt therapist named Serrania.
Although the expressions of the two people are different, there are similarities. It must be this anxiety that inhibits your other emotional expressions.
The counselor began to observe the body language of the visitors.
He is saying: ouch! I always do this when I talk, and then his hand moves in a circle.
You know, it's like popping popcorn when we were kids.
Then I tried to repeat it to him.
I said, oh, I always talk like this, and then I do the action, and I let him watch.
I said look what I'm doing-"I always talk like this, I always talk like this".
He said to me: teacher, I think you do this like a puppet, like a robot.
I said, good, good! What you said is so good.
Puppet and robot, tell me what puppets and robots mean.
He said: teachers, puppets and robots show that they are controlled and manipulated without flesh and blood.
"flesh and blood, no flesh and blood", I could see that he was emotional. When he bowed his head, I would ask him, "When you just said there was no flesh and blood, your voice was very low."
He said, "Yes, I don't feel like a person."
Then, I began to ask him to repeat this sentence-"I don't feel like a person, I don't feel like a person, I don't feel like a person.
When he repeats this sentence repeatedly, we call it "amplification technology".
When he repeated this sentence, his mood began to come.
Finally, his mood broke out and he cried.
He said: "I have never felt this way. I always smile when I meet anyone. I am strong and I feel weak. "
Then I asked him, "Are you crying better?
He said: "What puzzles me is that I don't like the way I cry, but when I cry, I find my mood is a little better."
"I said," don't worry, what do you feel inside when you cry? Very sad, isn't it?
He said yes.
I said, what does this sadness in your heart remind you of?
He said that when I was a child, I thought about ... an accident.
When the visitor is emotional, he stays in a huge picture, which is his unfinished event, and we have to carry out the core work for this unfinished event, which is radical cure.