What should parents do if their children are depressed and don't go out? Children's mental health has attracted more and more attention from the society. Efforts to help children solve their growing troubles have a great impact on their future development. Education is a long process. What should parents do if their children are depressed and don't go out to teach you how to educate their children?
What should parents do if their children are depressed? 1 1. See a doctor in time. When a child is found to have symptoms of depression, the best treatment is to seek medical treatment in time, because depression is very easy to cure in the early stage, but with the increase of illness time, the difficulty of treatment will continue to increase, and it is difficult for patients to get rid of the harm of depression. Therefore, parents are advised to grasp the best treatment opportunity and let their children get rid of injuries quickly.
2. Stay with the children. After the child suffers from depression, parents must pay attention to the care of the family. The best way is to give the child enough care, which can make the child healthy and the psychological problems easier to solve during the treatment.
3. Pay attention to children's sports. Exercise has a certain effect on regulating depression, especially for children, it is easy for depression to affect their health and lead to stunting. At this time, exercise can combat all kinds of discomfort caused by depression. Therefore, parents must attach importance to their children's sports and ensure that they can do outdoor sports for more than 30 minutes every day.
4. Psychotherapy. Psychotherapy is the most routine method to treat depression. This method can make children gradually adjust their psychological problems and realize psychological obstacles, so parents can help their children adjust in this way.
Finally, it is not a terrible thing for children to suffer from depression. It can be cured as long as it is treated in time. Therefore, in the face of children's depression, there is no need to be too nervous, and we should make adjustments according to our actual situation. If it is found that after a period of conditioning, the child's depressive symptoms have not improved, it is necessary to seek medical treatment in time and adjust the treatment plan.
What should parents do if their children are depressed 2.
Accepting his/her depression is actually a physiological symptom.
Whether it can be accepted after illness is one of the important factors that support patients with depression to continue to face pain. I believe all parents love this child, but in the face of depression, parents also have their own hurdles to overcome.
Parents should first face the problem of how they view depression. When a child has symptoms of depression, which may be depression or impulsiveness, insomnia, refusal to study, or even suicide, do parents have a chance to stop and think about what depression is? Am I afraid of this disease? My child has symptoms of depression. Why do I think children get sick? Is it because he is too obsessed with thinking (blaming his illness on personal factors), or is he influenced by the outside world, watching too many strange movies and making too many strange friends (blaming his illness on the external environment)? Many parents want to find the cause, often because they can't accept that their children have depression.
Because the pathological mechanism of depression is quite complicated, of course, parents can still assess whether their children feel the pressure of certain environments or situations. However, it must be admitted that before puberty, except for school bullying or non-domestic violence, most children feel the pressure from their families: parents' expectations and demands, emotional control, physical violence and aggressive behavior. And are parents willing to open their hearts and check whether their children's stressors are related to themselves, or just put the blame on the children or the environment?
Whatever the reason, depression is actually a physiological symptom. For various reasons, children suffer from depression because of endocrine disorders in the brain that control emotional stability. Taking medicine may help regulate endocrine stability. Once depression begins, it has already triggered physiological changes, just like headaches and stomachaches, which need treatment. So, why don't you hide your stomachache and keep it secret? This is actually the stigma of depression.
Don't be afraid to see a doctor, and don't rush to the hospital.
If the child suffers from depression, he should first take the child to a mental health hospital for medical treatment, make a clear diagnosis and treat him in time according to the situation. It is best to do both, medication and psychotherapy.
Don't rush to see a doctor, cram for the Buddha's feet, burn incense everywhere, ask the Buddha to bless you, ask Mr. Feng Shui to adjust Feng Shui, and don't go to some private hospitals ranked high in Baidu bidding, or small hospitals that advertise everywhere on the Internet for medical treatment. They often attract patients' families with advertisements exaggerating the curative effect, evaluate them with so-called neurotransmitter detection instruments, treat depression with so-called latest international therapeutic instruments and so-called pure Chinese medicine preparations without toxic and side effects, and publicly advertise in hospitals to ensure absolute cure and no recurrence for life.
These confusing hospitals began to target patients with refractory depression, which often caused patients to lose money and delay the opportunity.
Parents should know more about the popular knowledge of mental health related to depression, the commonly used theories and methods of effective psychotherapy, the process of psychological counseling and treatment, and actively cooperate with psychotherapy or psychological counseling.
At present, all the top three general hospitals have cardiology clinics, and more and more hospitals have psychiatry or clinical psychology departments, some of which are called psychosomatic departments and neuropsychological departments. Most of these departments have psychotherapists who can carry out psychotherapy.
Because the ranks of psychological counselors in China are mixed, parents need to know the personal qualifications and training background of counselors and whether the management of institutions is standardized when looking for psychological counselors. It is best to find a psychological counselor or psychological consultant with psychiatric internship or work experience. Some psychological counselors call themselves experts only by writing a few popular psychological books or bestsellers, but they may not have rich clinical consulting experience and standardized training supervision.
It is important to have the company of the border.
If parents gradually accept that their children are sick, it will only pass the first level. Faced with the ups and downs of depressed children's emotions, they sometimes have suicidal thoughts, which will be the second level that parents need to experience. In the family I came into contact with, there was a large class of parents who stood by, observed and said to their sick children, "You should cheer up" and "Don't let the symptoms of depression beat you" ... But usually the children's reaction was more excitement and anger: "I just can't help it." After you are sick to a certain extent, it is useless to think positively. It may have been useful before, but others can't judge where the situation is. After a certain point, it's like an attack, reminding you not to do these things. At this time, excessive positive encouragement, guidance, or suggestions, for depressed children, reflect that although parents want to accept the child's illness, they still can't understand the child's experience and feelings in the illness, or let parents consciously help through suggestions. At this time, parents are like a helpless bystander. By commenting and giving advice to sick children, they often feel alienated and uncomfortable.
Another kind of parents jump up and dance with their sick children: "If you want to die, I will die with you" and "If you are so depressed, you are torturing me" ... This makes the child's depression a burden to them. It seems that they want to use their lives to motivate their children and prevent them from falling into depression or suicide, but it may also lead to deeper guilt and guilt for depressed children, which will become another layer of pressure. At this time, because parents are unable to face the changes of depression, confusing their powerlessness with their children's depressive symptoms will often increase the difficulty of treatment.
Parental companionship is of course important, but the process of companionship needs to add real' understanding'. Even if you still don't understand it in the end, it is a positive behavior to try to understand it. Try to listen to the course of illness and the impact of the disease experienced by depressed children, and then talk about parents' own understanding, their own confusion, or share their feelings that they want to help but can't help, and ask the children what else they can do. In my experience, children usually ask their parents, "I am sick, do you still love me?" Parents are usually surprised by this question, and most of their answers are: "Of course. (Of course, a few parents don't accept it, but it is naturally impossible for such parents to enter the process of companionship).
For sick children, it is necessary to check whether parents will feel humiliated and disappointed because their children are sick, and then lose concern for themselves. At this time, parents' companionship, understanding and confirmation of their relationship will help children know that they are still loved, cared for and cared for at fragile moments, and they can survive the invasion of depression. At this time, parents, standing beside their children, continued to express their concern, but did not participate in the process of their children coping with depression. Companionship itself is the power to support children to continue to live. However, how to face the influence of symptoms can only be decided by the sick children themselves.
Parents also need psychological counseling and treatment.
A recent study shows that the families of adolescents with depression are different from ordinary normal families in many ways. The main purpose of the study is to evaluate the family function of adolescents diagnosed with depression and adolescents without mental disorders.
The researchers found 13 to 18 children and their first-degree relatives * * 70 people, and set the families of adolescents diagnosed with depression as the experimental group, and the families of adolescents without mental disorders as the control group, and determined the experimental group and the experimental group from the aspects of age, gender, education level, number and age of brothers and sisters, marital status of parents, economic income and so on.
During the experiment, family therapists conducted structured family interviews with each family, and evaluated their family functions from nine aspects: communication, rules, roles, leadership, conflict, aggression, emotion, personality and maintaining cohesion. Two family therapists interviewed these families. In order to avoid being disturbed by unnecessary information, they don't know in advance whether the interviewees are families of depressed teenagers or ordinary families. The standardized coding system was used for the evaluation. After analyzing the coded data, the research results show that the average scores of families with adolescent depression are lower than those of normal families in seven aspects, especially in emotional dimension. There is no significant difference in rules and leadership between the two families. It can be seen from the research results that it seems difficult for families of depressed teenagers to express their emotions.
Compared with ordinary families, family members of depressed adolescents have difficulties in communication, role orientation, conflict resolution, aggressive expression, emotional expression, independence and cohesion. It is difficult for parents of this kind of family to regard their children as independent individuals, and it is also difficult to admit that their children have their own independent desires, feelings and ideas.
What should parents do if their children are depressed? 3 1. Praise them more, don't give them any pressure, be patient with them and try to meet their requirements; Know how to respect them, so that they will open their hearts to communicate with you and have a heart-to-heart conversation. At the same time, parents should give their children a good environment and guide them correctly. Take your time, don't worry, the more anxious it is, the more useless it is, because they may resist, so we can't play hardball, or the child's condition will be more serious. If there is really no way to relieve their emotions, they can only wait patiently, observe more and take them out for exercise, and slowly relieve their emotions.
2. Let them participate in social activities, go out to play with friends, or let friends come home for dinner and play. Let them take part in their favorite activities, because they lack contact with the outside world, so they will have no motivation and interest in anything. So, let them take part in more social activities, and gradually they will get better and better, and their depression will be alleviated.
3. Guide them correctly, give them positive energy and let them participate in some volunteer activities. Because giving some help to others is good for treating this disease, letting parents and children participate in voluntary service together will also bring your closer.
Parents should spend a little time with them every day, during this period, you should accompany them with your heart. Simple companionship can also effectively reduce their depression. In fact, emotion is the best medicine to treat this disease. Parents must influence their children with love, and at the same time guide their children in the right way. They should calm down and wait patiently.