First, help you acquire the wisdom and skills to solve conflicts.
There are no couples who don't quarrel. Of course, 100% perfect marriage will not exist. When we talk to the marriage counselor about the difficulties we face, we can certainly learn many ways to solve disputes. For example, the marriage counselor will remind the husband and wife what kind of helpful attitude they should show and what kind of actions they should take to promote communication when facing big differences. The marriage counselor will first teach you to be a listener, and then teach you how to do the knowledge between husband and wife.
Second, help you calm down and have a rational conversation.
Haste makes waste, which is an eternal truth. Especially when husband and wife have different values, they need to communicate patiently and try to understand each other. But when two people have such a big conflict, it is usually impossible to sit down quietly and try to understand each other's mentality and try to reconcile. At this time, the presence of a professional marriage counselor is more conducive to resolving differences. Sometimes solving problems does not require profound knowledge, but only patient communication, and the mediation role played by marriage counselors is very important.
Third, help you avoid bad words and fall to an irreparable level.
Try to exercise restraint when there is conflict, at least talk about something, and don't make personal attacks and meaningless abuse. But this is also difficult for some couples to do. At this point, the marriage is on the verge of breaking up. Even if the problems between two people are not bad enough to break up the marriage, it is easy to hurt feelings because of swearing, thus making the marriage irreparable. At this time, the marriage counselor can help both parties focus on the problems in marriage, talk on the basis of love, and learn to put themselves in others' shoes.
Fourth, help you eliminate your fear and anxiety about marriage to the greatest extent.
Trust is an important foundation of a mature marriage, and it is necessary to find a professional to make an objective judgment on the relationship between the two. After all, even if two people exercise restraint, they will inevitably make some subjective misconduct. The marriage counselor can make a proper diagnosis of the marriage relationship of the parties from the standpoint of a third party. You can pour out your worries about marriage to them. In an episode of the American TV series House of Cards, marriage counselors are legally obliged to ensure the privacy of the parties, whether to the president or the general public. With the continuous improvement of laws and people's attention to professional ethics, marriage counselors will become one of the important ways for people to mediate marriage conflicts.