What are the three views in marriage? Many people who are in love or married live a married life, and often quarrel over some things, but some people suddenly feel that the three views between you are not appropriate. So what are the three views in marriage?
What are the three views in marriage? 1 1. What are the three views in marriage?
1, in marriage, we must first do three things: appreciate each other's advantages, and both sides can be honest and tolerant. To achieve these three points, no matter what kind of feelings and marriage, you can basically live in peace and calm, so that your marriage life will be happy and harmonious.
2. What are the three views in marriage? In fact, the three views in marriage refer to: outlook on life, values and world outlook. Whether in life or marriage, both husband and wife should establish a correct outlook on life, values and world outlook, face their choices correctly, and face them bravely regardless of the outcome. In this way, your life and marriage will be happy. Love at first sight in real life is not getting married as soon as we meet. After the test and running-in of time, they also have similar views, and then they are closer to each other.
Second, what is the correct view of marriage?
1. Getting along in marriage is a pleasure. If we can experience this pleasure in our marriage, your's love will become sweeter and sweeter. In fact, no matter how busy you are at work, you should spend more time with each other and give them more care. This can reduce many contradictions between husband and wife, so everyone should treat their marriage life with a fun attitude.
2. Husband and wife get along for a long time, and it is easy to be indifferent to their mistakes and dare not admit them. When a husband and wife have an argument and lose their temper, they see the worst of each other. If you can sincerely apologize afterwards, I believe many contradictions can be resolved. In this world, no one wants to see his marriage become unbearable. If you accidentally hurt the other party, you must be honest with each other and strive for the other party's consent.
The three views of husband and wife are family, growth environment and education. I have heard a very realistic saying: "Three views determine whether two people are suitable, and three meals determine whether two people are stable." A happy marriage is based on a relatively stable material foundation, but what is more important than material is that two people should get along well.
As the person who has the deepest feelings and the longest time in the world, the relationship between husband and wife is very difficult to deal with. Although husband and wife are close lovers, the closer lovers are, the more problems there will be. Because two independent individuals have lived together for decades, there will be problems in the process of running-in, so it is actually very important to have a proper view.
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The way husband and wife get along.
In a long-term marriage, love cannot be expressed by actions alone. You need to say it. In the face of an already numb marriage, couples are too indifferent, which can add some temperature to your's marriage. Love words are the preservative of marriage. When in love, boys often say sweet words to girls that only two people can understand. The girl blushes and scolds you in a low voice, but she can't help being complacent.
The same is true of feelings in marriage. You always regard each other as brothers who don't need to say love, and he will never leave you his heart again. If you don't know how to express your love, or are ashamed to say it, let's start with sharing. What couples share are feelings, emotions and secrets. These originally private words not only brought each other closer, but also made people feel each other's emotional changes from the lovers' language descriptions.
What are the three views in marriage? 2 0 1
Daniel often communicates with some divorced people and people who have experienced the blow of extramarital affairs. Sometimes you will find many new marriage words and find the root of divorce that many people usually don't realize.
In some failed marriages, Daniel often listens to many people complaining. They attribute the divorce to the "three views" of husband and wife, but don't talk about the relationship between husband and wife. Although the root cause of most people's divorce is emotional problems, the word "three views disagree" appears more and more frequently.
Perhaps divorced people themselves don't know what the three views in marriage are, but everyone can vaguely know that the three views are the most difficult hurdle for many couples to cross! Many people have differences before divorce, which is also the reason for their divorce.
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Xiao Fei and her husband are typical three views, and there is an extramarital affair in her marriage. Her husband cheated first, and she cheated too. Her husband didn't fall in love with her lover, but she fell in love with her lover, and finally the husband and wife divorced. She has a clear concept of "three views on marriage are incompatible".
She made a very apt metaphor: I like to eat braised fish, and you like to eat braised pork, which doesn't mean that you and I disagree. The real difference is that I like to eat braised fish. You say braised fish is disgusting, then throw it away! You like braised pork. I said braised pork tastes worse. Throw it away!
Xiao Fei once said that my ex-husband and I loved each other very much at first. At that time, we struggled together and ran a marriage and family together. We didn't have much conflict for many years, until one day his three views were led astray by colleagues around us. He cheated on me and left me, which deeply hurt my pride.
According to Xiao Fei, after the couple accumulated a little savings, her husband began to be dishonest. One day, Xiao Fei looked through her husband's mobile phone and found an ambiguous message. That message is very eye-catching, and it has not been deleted. Because of this information, Xiao Fei found out that her husband was having an affair.
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Xiao Fei's husband was honest and admitted on the spot that he had been cheating for nearly half a year. He began to argue. He said that men are like this now. Don't be sad. I still love you. It doesn't matter how I play outside, I'm still your husband, and I only love you forever! Xiao Fei's husband thinks it's normal for men to cheat. As a wife, a woman doesn't have to cling to her death. What's wrong with playing
But Xiao Fei didn't agree. She is sincere about love. She thinks that love should be unique and the body is unique! My husband is mine, and I can't be played by mistress casually!
Xiao Fei can't stand her husband having sex with another woman, and she can't stand her husband keeping in touch with that woman. The couple quarreled about it all day, but the husband wouldn't change, insisting that it was just a game! Even her husband said don't be afraid, I won't divorce you, what are you making trouble!
Xiao Fei gradually realized her husband's stubbornness and stayed in Lacrimosa all day. Due to great psychological pressure, Xiao Fei complains in front of colleagues all day. Xiao Fei told her colleagues that her husband doesn't love himself, he is too irresponsible and he is too playboy! A male colleague has always been her listener and always comforted her.
Because Xiao Fei and her husband have different views on marriage, Xiao Fei gradually came to the brink of an extramarital crisis. It wasn't long before Phillips fell in love with the audience and they had sex. The two fell in love after becoming lovers and agreed to combine with each other after divorce.
Xiao Fei said frankly: Since you won't let me take care of you, don't leave me alone! You can find a lover, so can I. Let's get a divorce!
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If only one of the couples cheats, the marriage may be easy to recover. When two people cheat and fall in love with their lovers, marriage loses its foundation of existence! Despite her husband's entreaties, Xiao Fei filed for divorce, ending her ten-year marriage with her husband.
Xiao Fei said: My husband cried and begged me not to divorce that day. He said he still loved me, and he asked me why I changed my mind. But my heart no longer belongs to him, and I'm too lazy to explain it to him. The main reason for the breakdown of our marriage is him. He trampled on love! So I can only help him, and he can't blame me for being cruel!
Strictly speaking, Xiao Fei's husband is having an affair, but he really loves Xiao Fei. It's just that he underestimated the loyalty of marriage, and he underestimated the power of cheating! So, he ruined his marriage, and from the root of the divorce, it was his own fault!
Xiao Fei's example is definitely not a case. There must be many others who have had similar experiences with her. After divorce, many people often say that each other's personalities, views on love and future goals of marriage are incompatible!
And this is "the new three views of marriage are inconsistent"!
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These three views have always been important to the stability of marriage. If there are many contradictions between husband and wife, it is difficult for marriage to last long. No matter how loving couples are, there must be more important responsibilities in marriage than just empty love! You think there is nothing wrong with cheating, but you may have overlooked the harm to your other half.
In other words, although there is marriage between husband and wife, it is terrible to have different views.
If there are three different views in marriage, husband and wife will not have the same runway. I can't tell which day I ran away and ran out of marriage! In that case, can the marriage be peaceful for a long time? Just don't get divorced!
What are the three views in marriage? 3. Different world views.
Broadly speaking, the world outlook is people's overall view and fundamental view of the whole world, while in marriage, the inconsistency of the world outlook means that two people have different views on life attitudes. Sister Wang is a very elegant woman, and her home is always clean and decent. All kinds of vibrant green plants and bright flowers, clean and tidy tea sets are placed on the coffee table, and dust has never been seen on the tables and chairs. Even the books on the bookshelf are classified by color, which is particularly neat.
Sister Wang's husband, Brother Jun, is a burly businessman with heavy eyebrows. He is a little male chauvinist. Although decisive, but undisciplined, careless and informal in life. I suddenly heard the news that they were going to divorce the other day, which really shocked relatives and neighbors. From the appearance, their husband and wife have a good career and there is no reason for divorce.
Recently, the author chatted with Sister Wang, only to know that your brother is very untidy at home. He is always playing ash and throwing dirty socks and shoes everywhere. He has said many times that he will not change, which makes Sister Wang unbearable. Although Ge Jun kept a straight face before, when they decided to divorce, he also expressed his thoughts: he couldn't stand Sister Wang's meticulous work, which made him feel that he couldn't relax at home, and he was as tired at home as at work. Only then did they decide to divorce.
On the surface, there seems to be no big contradiction between the two people, but if you look closely, you will find that they are not the same person at all. Sister Wang is more perfectionist, likes the small atmosphere of elegant life and likes to do things in a planned way. Brother Jun, on the other hand, is informal and likes to be happy with everything. If two people continue to live together, there will only be more and more contradictions, and divorce is a matter of time.
Second, the outlook on life is different.
If a marriage wants to be stable, both husband and wife need to have a common goal to fight for. For example, if two people like to travel, then the couple usually try to save money, book air tickets when they have time, and see the local conditions and customs elsewhere. Or if the couple are both drifting north and want to buy a house and settle down in Beijing, then their daily life will be saved and they should try to have a small family in Beijing.
If two people don't have the same goal and different outlook on life, the wife wants to travel and enjoy life whenever she has time, while the husband has a strong sense of responsibility and wants to save money to buy a house and live a stable life, then it is difficult for the couple not to have conflicts.
Third, different values.
We often see some couples quarreling over money. Now life is under great pressure and prices are rising. It's really hard to make money. It is normal for two people to want each other to spend money according to their own ideas. In a family, if the husband is frugal and wants to save money to prepare for future business, the wife often goes shopping and pursues a high-quality life.
Then both of them will be really angry, because they have made contributions to the family, so they should naturally have the right to use money. They are both right. What is wrong is that two people didn't seriously understand each other's values before marriage, which led to so many contradictions later.