Why does green tea always make people can't help getting together? It is because they are carefully exposed everywhere.
For women, unless your face value is "amazing", if you want to seduce men, you have to play some tricks.
? Behavior: Hold your home court.
Here, I'm going to tell you something about flirting with men, not chasing men.
Teasing Han is when you are in your position, teasing each other and attracting him; Chasing a man means that you are attracted to the other person. To put it bluntly, you got on the pole and ran over.
Therefore, Liao Han, we should wait for the opportunity, keep our own rhythm at any time, and control our identity at home.
In terms of strength, don't push too hard. You should always remember that you are flirting, not chasing, flirting is a dragonfly. Therefore, you should eat, play and have parties. You don't have to pay attention to this person at all. He is just an accessory to your daily life.
In the process of communication, no matter how enthusiastic and positive the other person is to you, you should learn to give in appropriately and let him be swayed by considerations of gain and loss. Remember that you can be friends and ambiguous, but it is definitely not a relationship between men and women.
Before you developed into lovers, there was "pure entertainment" between you. Keep yourself relaxed and happy. In this atmosphere, it not only gives comfort to the other party, but also does not make the other party feel pressured. Instead, it is a coquettish operation that warms up your feelings.
Many women, when they meet the right person, will subconsciously put down their posture and give them whatever they want, because they are afraid that the other person will run away. However, even if you get the other person with a low profile, you will still be in a low profile and never turn over. At this time, think about those green teas, which one is not, the man who stepped on his feet? Did that man get away? I've been chasing it, right?
And when you expose the signal of "I want to be with you", the other person will have a sense of superiority. Not only will he not immediately agree to let you into intimacy, but he will hang you. Therefore, if you want to be proactive, you must first master the initiative of "suspense" in order to keep each other's appetite.
And we also need to understand that in order to finally make him fall in love with us, we have been happy and relaxed before. How much comfort you can give him, he will want to be closer to you to a great extent. Therefore, if Hanergy can't succeed, the first principle is to stick to its own appearance, keep its own pace, and interact, communicate and communicate with each other in a relaxed atmosphere.
Learn to brainwash men.
Why can't MLM be finished? Why do so many people know that pyramid schemes are illegal? This is because the MLM organization brainwashed. If you can't brainwash, you can easily get in touch with men, because the other party shows kindness to you and is in a passive position.
Unless the other party is an overbearing president, you should think about how to control this relationship and not let yourself be in a passive position.
First of all, at the beginning of the relationship, no matter how much you like this person and how excited you are, you should "hide behind the scenes". It is to give the other person a feeling that "I am expensive, not something you can easily get". In fact, this practice is to give him a feeling that you are not so good at pursuing. If you don't show some sincerity, I won't even consider you.
Therefore, you should learn to retreat and push him away, but in words and deeds, you can also give him the illusion that he can't understand you. Why did you push him away while holding him? At this time, he will think that you are not the woman he knows, and you are not easy to get started.
Let me give you an example:
Other women may win with a bunch of flowers and a cake, but you are not moved by them, so in his eyes, you are different. His curiosity makes him want to get close to you, understand you and conquer you.
In other words, for others, it may be material cost or unilateral time cost, but for you, it is material cost, time cost and many emotional values. Will he leave his job easily?
In short, at this stage, you have to understand that you are expensive. Unlike those bitches, if you want to chase you, you have to work hard and shed some blood. So the content of brainwashing at this stage is: I just want to be with people who are good to me, but I will never kneel down.
Learn to give making of a man "availability", but control the frequency.
Many women see what I said above, and they will wonder whether they should pretend to be cold and lofty, and watch men pay us hard. NONONO, all wet. Which green tea do you think is like this? You also have to pay, just master the frequency and scale.
In the early days, we hoped that men would invest a lot of money and energy in us. You can see how much men like you in the investigation, but at this stage, you should give corresponding positive feedback and make lost efforts.
The usual practice of green tea is that you invite me to dinner for a while, usually around 500 yuan. Then I will treat you to a big meal at the right time, but the price is about 1000 yuan. At this time, he will be very happy.
He won't think why I keep asking you and you don't say anything, but because your "occasional" meal has just touched the other person's heart.
On the contrary, if the other party has been an investor and you don't respond, then he will give in, and then the negative force of "sunk cost" will tell him that I'd better stop in time.
Just like my friend asked me a few days ago, why did you chase me, halfway through, and stop chasing me? This is easy to understand, because the cost of chasing you is huge, and you have not responded to each other, so naturally you will not chase again.
Men are very realistic animals. Chasing a woman is not afraid of investment, but of what she has invested, like "wasting water", so you should avoid this situation, and the other person will shrink back after chasing, so you should give him an "available" bait.
You should make people realize that you saw his contribution, and in the other person's contribution, you recognized the other person. As long as he continues to work for you, you will like this person very much. Therefore, if he wants to get intimate with you, he must continue to work hard and pay more in this direction.
Make good use of the "Chinik effect" to make him forget you.
As we all know, the "Chinik effect" is unforgettable for those unfinished things.
That's why we are obsessed with our predecessors, because there is no result between you, right? Even if we don't love, we will still think of this person.
Let me make an analogy. You go to a place with a team. When you find a beautiful place, you just want to have a look, but the tour guide told you to meet at the next place. Do you think for a long time because you didn't see the beautiful scenery? You may even tell yourself that you must come to this place next time.
In fact, the same is true of feelings. If a relationship stays in the unrequited love stage, it will make people remember deeply and become a beautiful thing in their hearts.
So some people will say, "Regret is the most unforgettable, first love is the best, and what you can't get is the best."
Therefore, in the process of flirting with Han, you can appropriately create some unfinished things, strengthen the "Qinik effect" of the other party, and let him never forget you.
Let me give you the most practical example:
The normal process of dating between men and women is eating, watching movies, singing and running across the street. All this is under the control of men. Maybe he thought of what to do next just after dinner, but after dinner, you told him that I still have unfinished work, which is equivalent to interrupting his plan, which is to create unfinished things.
Then in the next few days, he will be thinking about the regrets brought by that date and planning his next date.
However, any way and method has both positive and negative aspects. In this process, we should control the frequency and not commit it every time. After a long time, a person's eternal heart is limited. Unless he loves you to the bone, he will weigh the cost and choose enough.
? Communication: Grasp each other's core needs and avoid awkward conversations.
I believe the word "full chat" is familiar to everyone. Some women often fall into this situation when chatting with men. After the chat, there was no topic, and then they tried to find a topic, and finally became a "full chat."
So in the process of chatting, you should collect useful information and grasp the topics that men care about.
Only when you catch the words or events he cares about when chatting, will he naturally talk about Kan Kan. If you don't understand what he said, you should show your admiration and say to him, "You know a lot, but I don't quite understand what you said. Can you elaborate? " When he has explained it to you, you should say, "Wow, you are amazing", and don't be stingy with your praise and recognition.
It is said that women chase men's interlayer yarn, so it is not difficult to tease Hanzhong to eat each other. As long as you master it, you can eat his core content.
Show your true self without affectation.
Men like the truth of women, and the so-called truth is not affectation.
For example, in a chat, you can say, "This is embarrassing. Don't mind chatting. I am still a novice on the way to flirting. "
This kind of operation, instead of exposing your shortcomings, can make the other party relax and feel that you are real. On the contrary, he will not know how to follow your words because of embarrassing chat and avoid embarrassing chat.
Men like to be knowledgeable and proficient in front of women. You can throw some difficult problems to each other. When he has been talking in Kan Kan, you can not only praise each other, but also throw away the eyes of worship.
If the other person is talking about humor, you don't have to hide your GTE point at all. Tell the other person, "I've never heard what you said. It's really funny."
When the relationship goes further, it would be better if you dabble in pornographic jokes. Why do I say better?
Because women's shyness can be fully revealed in this process.
You can pretend you don't understand, look at each other with innocent little eyes and ask each other, what do you mean? Explain it to me quickly.
After he explains it to you, you can say "Oh, you are so annoying" to the other person.
If you understand, you can keep your head down, keep silent, look up at each other from time to time, or pick up your glass, have a drink, and then attach a sentence: "annoying."
In this process, a man's eyes are completely attracted by you, and his heart is ready to move because of your performance. At this time, his IQ is 0, and the final stage is that you should close the net.
"Attraction" is the magic weapon to win.
In many books about communication that we have read, we will mention praising each other more.
But you can't boast as soon as you come up. Isn't that melodramatic?
You know, this man is the object of your flirting, and you want to develop intimate relationships. If you boast as soon as you come up, you will first appear too active, and secondly, it is not a way to flirt with Han people.
What is a coquettish man? This is attraction.
For men, when a woman suddenly comes to talk to her, men will also think, why did this woman suddenly talk to me? For what purpose? This will open his defense mechanism and make him defensive against you.
So the way you open it is the circle of friends.
You can send your beautiful photos, or send some meals you cook, and so on. The ultimate goal is to let him interact with you and open an interactive mode with you in this relaxed atmosphere.
Then how to boast? Let me give you an example:
Wrong: "Your mobile phone case is really beautiful".
Correct: "Where did you buy your mobile phone case?"
After the other person gives the answer, you can go on to say, "This mobile phone case is really special. I didn't expect you to have such an eye for men. "
Learn to use "what to do", "what to do" and "why" in chat.
And then ","and then what? , why? ",will make a man feel that you are interested in what he said, and induce him to talk about Kan Kan.
Let me give you a few examples for your reference:
M: Once in the company, I got gum on my feet.
W: What happened?
M: The other day, I passed a shopping mall and saw a very beautiful skirt.
W: And then what? I have a hunch that something indescribable will happen. ...
M: I find that I envy you sometimes.
W: Why?
M: It can attract a man like me.
When you master the above methods, you can try the advanced methods.
? Guide him to ask questions. Woman: I went to divination yesterday, and the fortune teller told me that I would never meet true love in my life.
M: Come on, come on.
W: But the fortune teller said it was not difficult, but it depends on how to solve it.
Man: Can it be solved?
Woman: Just tell ten fools the result of divination, hahaha.
Man: You. . . . . Dead girl.
W: I was joking, but when I heard the result, I was scared.
M: Why?
W: Of course. In my life, I only think you still have some room for development.
W: But then, I realized one thing, and I wasn't so scared.
M: Why? What is this?
Woman: Because I think you are definitely better than a fool. If it can develop into true love in the end, it is also a good choice, hahaha.
But there are also many taboos in flirting with Han.
Don't explain to men. Explaining is a cover-up.
Don't argue with men, there is no right or wrong between people, just different positions.
Learn to push and pull, push is to belittle the other person and push him away, and pull is to praise the other person for pulling him back.
Don't overexpose your sense of need.
Learn to retreat in time, see the man's attitude, feedback is benign, so talk more, the core content is to maintain a degree.
Do not prove yourself. I've met many women. In order to prove that he is kind, he keeps telling men how kind he is. Finally, when men find that they are not so kind, your inconsistency will make men feel disgusted.
So, to sum up, do you understand? The real way to seduce a man is to attract him and let him pursue it actively.
This is Liao Han's high-level operation.
Finally, I want to say that I hope all sisters can correctly attract the men they like and gain full happiness.
Do you want to know what your ex thinks of you? One-minute test, let you know what TA wants to say to you most:
1. Do you quarrel over trifles when you are together?
Yes, I often feel very tired-skip to question 2.
Rarely quarrel over trifles-skip to question 2.
Occasionally, but we can make up soon-skip to question 3.
2. Do you think you are a person who likes self-reflection and is willing to correct mistakes?
Yes-skip to question 3.
No-Skip to question 4.
3.will 3. TA volunteered to tell you about her troubles?
Often say-skip to question 5
Not that much-skip to question 4.
Will you tell your parents the process of your love?
I often tell my parents everything-skip to question 6.
Occasionally, when they ask, they just say-skip to question 5.
There is almost nothing to say, nothing to say-skip to question 5.
5. How much energy are you willing to spend to get what you want?
Everything is mine, and it is mine after all-skip to question 7.
Try hard and you may succeed-skip to question 6.
Try my best to get everything I want.
6. Did you break up because there was a third party?
Yes. -a
No-skip to question 7
7. Did the other party take the initiative to contact you after the breakup?
Yes -d
No-c
What's your final answer? Is it a, b, c or d?
Test results can be obtained by private mail!
I'm Chen Yu, an emotional counselor, and I know more than you think. If you are emotionally confused, you can ask for a private letter or comment.