In today's society, the voices of women's independence are one after another. With the development of society, more and more women realize that women can be independent and hold up half the sky.
Independent women are highly sought after in this society, because they have the confidence and backbone to live well with or without men. Many women in the new era are proud of being independent women.
But through investigation, it is found that more and more female friends don't want to get married, or they want to get married but can't find the right person. This leads them to be very picky about their marriage partners, but as time goes on, their female friends are getting older and older, but they haven't found a marriage partner yet, which makes them "leftover women".
What happens when a woman never gets married?
A passer-by told us that women don't feel anything when they are young, but they will regret it in middle age.
-02-
Xiao Xia is just 40 years old and unmarried. In the eyes of others, she is a standard older woman.
In fact, Xiao Xia really wants to get married. She envies others to get married in pairs. However, when Xiao Xia was young, she had high requirements and strict conditions for her marriage partner. There are many suitors, but none of them can enter Xiao Xia. Xiao Xia is very picky. She chose herself as an older woman.
When I was young, Xiao Xia was very beautiful and elegant. There are endless suitors, but Xiao Xia has high requirements for his other half. Men should have a bachelor's degree or above, with an annual salary of 200,000 yuan, a house, a car and a deposit, and parents should have a pension.
Such conditions have stumped a large number of suitors. But Xiao Xia refused to give up these conditions.
Her parents are worried when they see her getting old day by day. Xiao Xia is the only child in the family, so she likes her very much. Mother advised Xiao Xia not to be so picky, but Xiao Xia wouldn't listen. Parents can't help her.
-03-
When I was young, a woman was like a flower, and everyone wanted to pick it. But with the growth of age, this flower will slowly wither, and finally no one cares.
This is the case in Xiao Xia.
Since he was over 30, Xiao Xia felt that there were fewer and fewer suitors. But Xiao Xia doesn't care, because she can support herself. I am still very picky and full of confidence in myself.
But at the age of 36, Xiao Xia began to worry.
The reason is that Xiao Xia's mother suddenly fell ill. While in hospital, Xiao Xia broke his leg. But a woman, after all, has limited ability, and many things are powerless. At this moment, Xiao Xia thought that if he had a man, he could help him take care of his mother.
After taking his mother back from the hospital, Xiao Xia moved home to take care of her.
Looking at her daughter's busy appearance, the mother also felt sorry for her. Sometimes my mother would ask Xiao Xia, "Daughter, you have been single for so long. Do you regret it now? "
Xiao Xia was silent for a while, then said, "Mom, to tell the truth, I regret it now. I really want to get married now. I want a man to take care of me and help take care of you. But as I get older, few men are willing to marry me. "
Xiao Xia didn't realize that women are different from men until she was 40 years old. When a man reaches the age of 40, he can still marry a girl in her twenties; When a woman reaches 40, probably no one wants to marry her.
Men are in favor of marrying a divorced woman at 40, rather than marrying a single woman at 40.
Cruel reality.
-04-
Xiao Xia is more and more eager to get married now.
She began to register major dating websites and asked for help to introduce marriage partners. But when men heard that she was 40 years old and single, they all shook their heads and left.
My parents are getting older and worse every day. Xiao Xia is busy with her work, and at the same time she has to take care of her parents. It's really hard. Besides, Xiao Xia is getting older and older, her appearance is getting older every day, and her health is also having minor problems.
A 40-year-old single woman must look after herself and her parents at the same time. Xiao Xia felt that he had no one to rely on and lived very tired.
Apart from taking care of life, spiritual loneliness is also very difficult for Xiao Xia.
Middle-aged, elderly parents, 40-year-old single Xiao Xia now regrets it very much.
She began to regret her humanity and picky when she was young. Because of her picky, she lost the chance to get married. Leading to the possibility of dying alone.
-05-
Older women have become a social phenomenon.
The reason is that too many women misunderstand the concept of independence.
I understand that independent women can be economically independent and spiritually independent in marriage, and can love a person without fear. You can support yourself when you are single, but you should still try to find your other half.
Nowadays, in order to pursue "independence", too many women only unilaterally set various conditions on their marriage partners to meet their imaginary marriage partners. This kind of behavior can only lead to turning yourself into a leftover woman.
Remember, people are gregarious animals and are not suitable for living independently. It is realistic that women need men's care.
The reality faced by elderly women is even more cruel:
In the face of my growing age, my body has problems and my heart will become more and more anxious. Parents are old and need to be taken care of, but single women sometimes feel overwhelmed. Getting married becomes difficult. Men seldom choose older women as their marriage partners. I will become more and more lonely psychologically. Therefore, female friends, when they are young, must think more, lower their mate selection standards appropriately, and avoid becoming older women.