Ajie and his girlfriend have been in love for two years, and they live in different places. Even though they are far apart, constant phone calls and occasional elaborate small gifts make their feelings more stable.
But even so, Ajie is a person with low emotional intelligence. In the face of his girlfriend's concern and love, even if he is moved, he rarely expresses it. His girlfriend felt lost. Over time, the enthusiasm that time and distance failed to open was doused by Ajie's low emotional intelligence, and the two had problems again and again.
On Ajie's birthday, his girlfriend specially asked for leave and prepared elaborate gifts. The room was filled with balloons. I thought Ajie would be moved, but the reality is always indifferent. Ajie was unmoved, but accused his girlfriend of making the room too messy to clean.
My girlfriend was really confused and broke up with me after a long time. Later, Ajie, who was unsociable, tried many ways to apologize, but his girlfriend's reply became colder and colder.
Ajie's emotional state is caused by her ignorance of female psychology. Through the analysis of women's psychology, it can also help her better prescribe the right medicine and recover successfully.
First of all, women are emotional animals. While giving, they also want to get your feedback. In Ajie's feelings, the girlfriend has been paying, but she can't get the feedback from the man. Over time, she will accumulate disappointment. If there is a gap between the two sides, her feelings will be unbalanced, one side will have a psychological gap, and the other side will have no time to take care of it, which will lead to a gap.
Secondly, a romantic character like Ajie's girlfriend will naturally attach great importance to her emotions, which requires Ajie to be full of excitement and happiness about her romance. Ajie, on the other hand, has a low EQ, so he can't perceive the other party's intention when his girlfriend please himself, and can't provide positive emotional value for the other party well.
At the same time, in daily life, Ajie always stands from his own point of view and thinks that he knows each other very well, but he is not good at expressing himself. For his girlfriend, Ajie has lost too many things, so she will question this relationship in her heart. Over time, all the negative thinking patterns presented in the relationship between the two sides are difficult to maintain.
After analysis, in this relationship, my girlfriend broke up because of disappointment. Because of their deep feelings, the success rate of recovery is also considerable.
In the initial stage of recovery, I will focus on guiding Ajie to carry out emotional management and improve emotional intelligence and mentality. After mastering women's psychology, they began to improve their internal and external conditions, let each other see their sustainable development and dispel their psychological concerns.
After everything is ready, there are three key points in the contact state before recovery: "easy, aimless and low frequency". Generally speaking, breaking up and contacting each other will aggravate each other's psychological preparation. The model between you is very difficult, and it is difficult to further contact. Therefore, the best way at this stage is to maintain low-frequency chat, create a relaxed chat atmosphere, don't expose any sense of demand, and show your positive side.
As mentioned above, only when the two sides have almost the same investment in their feelings will their feelings be stable. Under the guidance, under the pretext of "breaking up", I recommend reminiscence singing to Ajie to make contact. In this process, avoid negative memories, choose meaningful memories to find * * * sounds, create sweet words in memories, and arouse each other's touch.
In addition, the way to narrow the distance and restore ambiguity is nothing more than two points, boldness and suggestion. Learn to use the topic and slowly integrate the chat content into your feelings, but you need to stop there to avoid further exploration and attract the other party's disgust.
In view of their deep emotional foundation, Ajie took the initiative to actively engage in emotional input through chatting with each other, verbal communication between the two sexes, and mastering women's psychological interpretation. With the warming of their relationship, his girlfriend saw Ajie's change from the inside out and was willing to give each other another chance.
Love needs two people to manage with care, and needs mutual acceptance and tolerance. If you find the problem and don't change it in time, it's easy to miss the person you love. If your relationship has encountered similar problems, please pay attention to the official account of WeChat WeChat "Orange Love" for more recovery skills.