First of all, I think your male chauvinism is more serious. If you live in your parents' house or the house your parents bought for you, this kind of distress does not exist, does it?
Secondly, your mind is not open enough, and your wife's house is also your home. The old man didn't treat you like an outsider!
Third, you think your wife and children need to be taken care of now or after giving birth. You are busy at home at work, not only suffering yourself, but also wronged your wife and children. Mature men should have a sense of responsibility.
Also, don't blame yourself for always feeling incompetent. Young people all have the stage of starting a business. After hard work, I believe you will have your own career and economic foundation. At that time, you will return more to the people you love, not only will you not be looked down upon by the people around you, but you will also be greatly appreciated!
Finally, I want to say that many people can't ask for the feeling of harmony in a big family. Now many people are suffering from loneliness and depression. Back home, with so many relatives around. How lively and happy!
Adjust your mentality and wait to be the happiest father! !