There are cases where consultants are taken away by visitors! This question involves some principles of consulting setting!
First, the consultant should evaluate the visitors. If the problems and personal personality disorders of the visitors are beyond the consultant's ability, it is necessary to give up the case decisively!
Second, consultants must always maintain a neutral position in consulting work, and do not judge or blame visitors!
Third, counselors should always be aware of their anti-communism, use self-exposure with caution, and prevent self-involvement from being excessive!
Fourth, the consultant should supervise the case regularly to ensure a clear understanding of the consulting work!
Fifth, strive to improve their psychological counseling ability!
Doing these things well can reduce the probability of being taken away by visitors, which is of great help to consulting work!
Psychological counselors are biased by visitors, which often happens among novice psychological counselors and is also an important way for psychological counselors to grow up.
Visitors may be biased against counselors in the following aspects:
1. Break the consulting settings. Consultation setting is the basic guarantee for consultants and visitors to carry out their work, including the location, time, duration, consultation fee and even the technical methods used by consultants. But sometimes visitors will intentionally or unintentionally want to change these settings, such as being late, asking for an extension, and developing non-consulting relationships. And novice consultants are likely to be taken away by visitors for various reasons.
2. Control the topics in the consultation. At different stages of consultation, the role of consultants is different. For example, in the initial stage of consultation, consultants mainly establish relationships with visitors and collect basic information. At this stage, the main skills are listening and open questioning. In the treatment stage, counselors will have more direct ways to help visitors, such as face-to-face teaching and exposure. At this time, the pressure of visitors will be great, and it is likely to avoid or relieve the pressure by changing the topic, and the consultant may also be biased by the topic of visitors.
3. Anti-empathy (including psychological counselors' empathy and anti-empathy for visitors). The personality, mood, behavior and life experience of visitors may cause psychological changes of counselors. For example, if a visitor divorces her husband, one of the reasons is the appearance of a third party, then the counselor's attitude towards the third party will affect the relationship with the visitor and break through the value neutrality when facing the visitor.
So, what if you avoid being biased by the interviewee?
Generally speaking, we must first realize that being biased by visitors is not necessarily a bad thing. Because walking into the "routine" of tourists is one of the ways to better understand tourists. However, this requires counselors to have enough awareness. If the counselor can realize the "routine" used by the visitor and the reason why he was recruited, he can help the visitor.
Second, find the supervisor. Novice counselors must supervise such "routine-deep" visitors in time, because their perception may not be accurate, and they need help from an objective and professional perspective.
Finally, face yourself. Counselors are human beings, with feelings and shortcomings, which are difficult to eliminate, so they need to face up to themselves and help visitors as much as possible.
Psychological counselors should avoid being biased by visitors, pay attention to the following points:
1. Locate yourself accurately. You are not a rescuer, and you are not helping him solve problems, so the focus of your response to him is not how to solve the problems encountered in his life. What is the focus of your response to him? What kind of habit pattern, habit thinking or emotional experience makes him regard this life situation as a problem.
2. Be aware of and care about your inner experience. In the interaction with visitors, counselors are more likely to be inspired by their personal problems. They may have the same pain as the visitors, may have the opposite experience, or may want to prove that they are a good consultant and satisfy the visitors. If the consultant is caught up in his own personal problems without knowing it, visitors can easily lead his thoughts astray. Therefore, in the whole consultation process, psychological counselors should keep aware of their own internal experience and take care of them. When they find that they may have internal problems, they should pull themselves back in time.
3. Consultants should insist on personal growth beyond consulting work. Counselors are human beings and have many personal problems to face. Raise a soldier for a thousand days, and use it for a while. If psychological counselors don't do personal growth at ordinary times, they may not have such a strong consciousness in consultation, and they can find their own internal problems in time and pull themselves back in time.
4. Consultants should insist on accepting the supervision of mentors and peers. If the consultant has the habit of insisting on being supervised, it is equivalent to putting a more upright observer into his consultation. This observer is actually a consultant of the consultant, who will help the consultant see the problems he can't see.
1. Consultants are often biased by visitors in consultation, so there is a principle that consultants must know, that is, the principle of value neutrality. Neutrality is manifested in unconditionally accepting the values of visitors in the specific consultation process. Even if the values of visitors are contrary to those of consultants, consultants can't blame or criticize them. Counselors should transcend the conflict of values between the two sides, adopt a neutral attitude, create a relaxed and harmonious atmosphere, and let visitors fully express their thoughts, feelings and behaviors. Only in this way can we use neutral principles and methods to help visitors establish independent consciousness, let visitors make their own value judgments and choices, let visitors feel the equality of both sides, and finally the problems of visitors can be solved.
2. If consultants want to participate less, they must pay attention to self-growth. When we have stories similar to those of visitors, it is easy to be taken away, so if you are not cured in this respect, it is not easy to help each other, because it is as harmful as you. All counselors need to find a supervisor or use technology to do it themselves. For example, the psychological compass technology I have learned now can monitor myself and reduce the chance of being led astray by visitors.
Counselors should practice self-awareness at ordinary times. In the process of consultation, we should always keep a neutral, third eye to observe ourselves, perceive our hearts, feel the inner feelings of visitors, and avoid being biased by visitors.
A qualified psychological counselor should first understand the laws of psychology and master psychological techniques on this basis. That result will never happen.
Care about visitors first, and care about each other by making friends with them first. You can't let visitors have a heart for you. Arrest slowly. Judge visitors by their faces. Whether it's true or not.
According to professional norms, operating norms, without personal feelings and likes and dislikes.
How can you have such an idea? Maybe you're just taking the exam yourself, which is extreme. How can you impose it on your patients? To be able to guide others, you must be aware of possible problems yourself, and you must enrich your wisdom.