A child's mother asked me for advice, earnestly: her husband loves his son very much, and of course he loves her very much. Every time he comes back from a business trip, he will bring different gifts to his son, and taking his son out to play is also the first priority. This made my mother very sad. She also talked to her husband, but he kept smiling. Later, when there was a conflict between mother and son, the son always liked to complain to his father and let him beat his mother. The number of times she lost her temper with her son is increasing gradually, and the harmonious family began to have problems.
Have you found out what the problem is? I should have encouraged and appreciated my father's behavior in the case, but I always feel that the relationship between the three people in the family is very delicate. What's wrong with it?
Many dads around us are very reserved, especially after having children, who are ashamed to express their love between husband and wife, or always prevaricate with the old couple. In fact, the father's love for his mother not only taught the child how to love his mother, but also taught the child how to manage the relationship between husband and wife in the future.
The core relationship of a family is the relationship between husband and wife first, and then the parent-child relationship, which is very easy to ignore in our family education. Children know what men, husbands and fathers are from their fathers, and what women, wives and mothers are from their mothers. Recognize love, husband and wife and marriage from parents.
A good relationship between husband and wife will provide great positive energy for the family, and the whole family will enter a virtuous circle to provide a good demonstration for the children.
Later, when I received family counseling, I told my child's father that in front of his mother, love should be bravely expressed and displayed, so it is easy to cultivate a little warm man. And suggest that the father of the child should do these four behaviors well.
1, every day, the father goes to hug the child's mother and let the child see it. In this way, in the family system, daily hugs will strengthen relationships and greatly reduce problems and contradictions. Children grow up in such an environment, their spiritual needs are met, and children will not be stingy to express their love for their parents.
2. Dad should always take care of his mother in the small details of life, and tell his son to take care of his mother. The intimate little warm man grows up slowly in life in this way, and can also cultivate children's sense of responsibility and independence.
3. Dad should give his mother more understanding and often tell his son this. Slowly, children will also show empathy and understand their mothers and parents, making it easier to establish a good parent-child relationship.
4. Dad takes an active part in family affairs and shares it with his mother. My son grew up in such an environment, and he will never be a male chauvinist, nor will he be a shopkeeper of cutting in the future.
Parents are the best teachers for children, and the relationship between husband and wife is also the basis of the whole family relationship. Two people love each other, three people are happy.