First of all, I want to say that as a middle-aged person, although I am also facing all kinds of pressures above, even if I am not a psychiatrist, I will choose to fight the pressure and climb up. Because the above pressure is both pressure and responsibility.
The burden of life is the responsibility of being a man, the health of parents is the responsibility of being a son, the education of children is the responsibility of being a father, and the pressure of marriage is the responsibility of being a husband ... All pressures are actually responsibilities, so we should fight them.
Moving on, that is, shouldering our responsibilities, is understandable.
Of course, being in negative emotions for a long time is a very bad thing in itself, which may really affect our mental health. Therefore, it is related to our mental health, and we still need to learn how to relieve stress and face negative emotions.
As a middle-aged doctor, I have to face a lot of pressure every day. According to my own situation, let me talk about how to manage my emotions:
Depression is a mental disorder, not a mental illness, nor a melancholy mood, but a chronic mental disease with mental disorder as the main complaint. It is characterized by persistent low mood and mood, slow heartbeat, loss of confidence and hope for life and future, severe insomnia, physical reaction, serious loss of work, loss of social function and suicidal tendency. Not to mention counselors, even general practitioners are helpless about this disease. Only psychiatrists can treat and save patients' lives. Yang Kun, a famous singer, once said in a TV talk show: When he suffered from depression, he consulted a psychologist, and spent 1200 yuan not to mention it, but it didn't help him at all, but it became more and more serious. Finally, he was cured in a fine hospital. He reminded patients that depression should be treated in a specialized hospital. Therefore, patients with depression are not melodramatic, not melodramatic and incomprehensible. Every patient is smarter and kinder than others. No amount of preaching and persuasion is redundant and ineffective, they just want to do it. That's all. Family members should give patients more understanding and tolerance, which is more conducive to rehabilitation.
The patient has a long recovery period, and symptoms come from time to time. The past is a line. It will be difficult to get back to normal for a while. The first relapse must persist in taking medicine for 3-5 years. Neighbor calf has been suffering from depression for 4 years. It's the first time for him to take medicine. He looks good, sometimes he can't sleep at night. Without this medicine, he will suffer from insomnia, weakness and complications. The president of Jinan Psychiatric Hospital clearly pointed out in the TV talk show that both schizophrenia and depression can be cured as long as they are treated systematically and comprehensively. Blind western medicine treatment not only has a great negative effect, but also treats the symptoms rather than the root cause. Some patients can cooperate with Chinese medicine treatment, some can cooperate with electromagnetic therapy, and some can cooperate with thirteen-needle therapy to treat obsession. Severe patients must also cooperate with electrotherapy, also known as painless shock treatment. For severe patients who have not been cured for a long time, it is recommended to go to provincial and municipal psychiatric hospitals for treatment, which is more conducive to treatment and rehabilitation. I think the combination of traditional Chinese and western medicine is the best choice to treat depression.
No matter how good a doctor is, he can only cure diseases, but not his thoughts. No matter how much medicine he takes, he still clings to the past, lives in other people's world, and puts his shortcomings on others or blames them, which can only increase his burden. Therefore, patients should not only let go of themselves, but also forgive others, so as to let go of themselves, let go of their hearts, be happy, do what they like and divert their attention, which is more conducive to rehabilitation and prevent recurrence. Cui Yongyuan, a famous program host, suffered from depression for many years. The effect is not obvious after treatment. Later, he interviewed the heroic survivors of the 25,000-mile Long March and made a movie. After a year of hard work, he announced that he had recovered from depression. So the 25,000-mile long March saved the people of the whole country and Cui Yongyuan. Only when you are awake in since the enlightenment, have a good sexual interest, walk around, change your bad habits, control your emotions, and cooperate with treatment can you really get rid of depression from your heart.
What should I do instead of obsessing about depression? If you feel stressed, you'd better cooperate with the treatment. It's better to live in the present, be happy and be confused. Every present is a continuation of the future.
Hello: Thank you for your answer. What should I do if I am depressed? Forty years old, I feel great pressure in life and work. How to solve them? Middle-aged work is stressful because of the heavy burden of life, because maybe you choose this stressful job, and the salary and profit may suit your life needs; But the pressure of work is too tense, which will make people very tired. People are a little tired, just have a rest. But people's hearts should not be tired. People's depression is caused by their two-way discomfort, and they feel that the pressure is really unbearable. They should find ways to relax their pressure. Don't let yourself be depressed. Health is the most important thing, so that they can shoulder the heavy responsibility of the whole family: calm down and live day by day. Then try to be happy and let go of some unpleasant emotions. When people are in a good mood, the knot will naturally be untied and nothing will matter. Maybe your smiling face every day will bring good luck to you and your family: this is my stupid idea, I wish you a happy life! ~ All right, that's it ~
Hello, depression is a popular word now. On the one hand, it is a good thing, indicating that people are beginning to pay attention to their emotions, inner experiences and mental health. On the other hand, it may add a lot of invisible burdens to people. Many people who don't understand depression and depression feel terrible when they talk about depression ... I want to further help you solve the problem you described:
1, depression and depression
Depression is very different from depression. Generally speaking, it has something to do with depression, because we will inevitably encounter such problems in our lives. If the problem is not solved, we may feel helpless, lost and depressed. Almost everyone will encounter it, but the duration is relatively short. Depression can be understood this way. Being in this depressed state for a long time, there are many physical obstacles, which affect social behavior and can't be adjusted by myself.
From your description, I guess you may be depressed just because there are a lot of pressures in your life. By asking questions, you will guess that you are weak and helpless, but you are unwilling and want to change yourself. From a positive point of view, if you can ask questions for help, it is actually an act of actively seeking change, which shows that you have strong motivation and good hope ability, which is very good.
2. Look for the causes and solutions of depression:
Age factor: Both men and women will encounter midlife crisis around the age of 40, and they will sum up their past lives and think about the meaning of future life. For example, people of this age may have been busy with work before and never thought about life. When they were 40 years old, they encountered bottlenecks in their careers and were in an embarrassing situation. They may start to rethink whether their decades of efforts are meaningful, and then start to choose their future life again.
At this age, some people often feel that their spare capacity is insufficient. They are old and young, their units may be backbone or marginalized, they have physical problems, they don't have enough energy, and they can't handle it well at home ... All these will lead to the imbalance of life and it is normal for their emotions to fluctuate. And China has a word "crisis", which indicates that there are hidden dangers in opportunities. At this time, it is necessary to adjust his cognition and life direction and rebalance his life.
Most people who have experienced a midlife crisis have a deep understanding after coming in. Some people lamented that "fortunately, I encountered a crisis at this age, which made me stop to rethink my life and adjust my direction in time."
Therefore, I suggest you re-examine your life. What are the specific pressures in your family life and work? These pressures are inevitable. Only by facing them and dealing with them will they become your motivation. There is another way to look at your life. Many people may be disappointed, because looking back on their previous life feels like failure, bad and useless, but as long as you look for it, it's really not like this. Everyone has many advantages and accumulated many experiences and lessons. Maybe you will be more relaxed from another angle.
In short, there is no shortcut. Only by facing it positively, taking action and changing the inherent thinking will we come out slowly.
When people reach middle age, most people are faced with the situation that there are old people and small people, just like a sandwich caught in the middle. Being caught in the so-called "middle-aged crisis" is a great challenge for anyone and needs to be taken seriously.
Find a notebook, write down the stress you face in your life and work on the left page, then put down your pen and go out for a walk or do other things, and then write down the solutions to each problem in an hour or two on the right page of this notebook. The purpose of doing this is to clarify the thinking, because the pressure will be greater when the thinking is not clear. Once cleaned up, the pressure will be relieved.
See if you can integrate the resources around you to help you alleviate or solve your problems, such as family, colleagues, brothers and sisters, friends and so on. If possible, discuss the problem with your partner and discuss the solution to reach a consensus. Sometimes it's a big problem for you, but it's not that big if we solve it together. You should know how to gather the resources of people around you to help you solve problems.
Everyone's life is not easy, and everyone has their own pressure. But pressure can also be a kind of motivation. The key is to control the pressure within a reasonable range. Therefore, you need to learn to adjust your stress. Exercise can improve the level of stress resistance and help relieve anxiety and depression. It is suggested to form the habit of regular exercise. When you have bad emotions, you should find appropriate ways to vent them in time to avoid accumulating into big mental health problems.
It is good to be aware of your mental state and have a sense of health. If your own efforts and people around you can't help you ease your mood, you can consider seeking the assistance of a psychological counselor.
If you suspect that you have depression, you can go to the top three hospitals for screening in time. If it is only depression, it should be adjusted in time to avoid changing from depression to depression.
I hope the above can help you.
When you walk alone at night, you feel uneasy, afraid and anxious, and a group of people will be much calmer! Tell you: anxiety after 40 or even 35 years old is not unique to you! It is a group feature of an age group: there are old people in the world and young people in the world. You are the support of a big family, but you can only support it by yourself, and you can't be anxious!
There is rebellion in adolescence, anxiety in middle age and menopause in old age, which are the standards of ordinary people. You panicked!
The important thing is to jump out more tightly, examine anxiety and talk to it: get rid of anxiety!
A few locks of hair in the high hall mirror, though silky black in the morning, turned into snowflakes at night: this white hair speed is more suitable for a middle-aged uncle of forty!
Anxiety about what? Not much money? This is the root of anxiety and distress of middle-aged people over 90/ 100! Insist that the salary is not enough, start a business without principal and courage! Can't get out, can't get out: dilemma
Emotional discord? Half my life, how to get there?
Children's studies? Blessed are your children and grandchildren!
Live a good life, health is the most important thing, don't give trouble to the old and young!
1. People who are nervous and anxious for a long time will be accompanied by physical discomfort. Common symptoms are: persistent dizziness or temporary amnesia, rectal bleeding, rapid pulse, sweaty palms, or severe headache, trembling, urticaria, unbearable emotional stress, insomnia and so on.
Whether the mental stress is great or not varies from person to person. The focus now is on the sources and ways of mental and psychological stress, and the mental, emotional, psychological and sleep problems caused by it are only one aspect. In addition, there are many physical manifestations, such as frequent urination, urgency, sleep disorders, skin allergic reactions and so on. The so-called psychosomatic diseases can have symptoms of corresponding organs, such as ulcerative colitis in the intestine, skin allergic diseases, coronary heart disease and hypertension in the heart, headache and migraine, and even stroke. Therefore, it is very important to learn to release your own pressure and live a happy life.
3. enrich your brain. Is there always something big in too much pressure on your mind? Do something that can change your brain, such as listening to the radio, doing crossword puzzles, joining a book club or developing a new hobby that can activate your brain and body. Spend some time walking in the garden or going for an outing in the mountains.
Eating more cellulose can increase satiety, make people eat less and help to lose weight. It will also keep the body balanced, which is good for the heart. In fact, the greater advantage of cellulose is that it can decompress! Many delicious foods contain cellulose, such as oats, whole wheat bread, grains, apples, oranges, strawberries and vegetables. With so many choices, can't your body get enough fiber?
Try to beat the negative attitude with a positive and optimistic attitude, such as making positive self-suggestion, finding something to enhance self-confidence, or imagining your future success. You will quickly resolve your anxiety and anxiety and restore your self-confidence.
How should I relieve pressure and mood?
First, we should improve our diet. After all, food is the most important thing for people, and everyone wants to eat it. So I suggest eating light and digestible food instead of spicy and fried junk food. There are many substances in junk food that are not easily decomposed by the human body, which will increase the burden on the intestines and make people feel depressed.
Secondly, from the aspect of schedule, it is suggested to go to bed early and get up early, and quit the bad lifestyle of staying up late. If life is chaotic, it will affect your mood.
Finally, we should improve our sports. If we have time, we should take part in some sports, such as playing basketball, running and playing football. We should try our best to participate in some group activities, such as going out for a walk and chatting after dinner in the evening, which is helpful to our physical and mental health.
In short, relax as much as possible and make your mood better. There are always storms on the road of life, and a good attitude is needed. No matter how difficult the road is, as long as you don't give up and keep going, you will always come to an end; No matter how heavy the burden is, smiling is picking, crying is also picking, so why bother yourself; No matter how bad life is, as long as you hold on, it will pass and a smile will finally appear on your face. The world is worth it, and the future can be expected!
What about depression?
Ask yourself first, what pressure does life and work bring to you?
And whether you are asking too much of yourself. If you are willing to give up, you will get it. If you want something, you have to give it up, or time. How can there be so many good things without giving?
Health is the capital of revolution. Take care of yourself first. Try harder and don't be too tired. Realize your wish little by little! Come on! ! !
How to solve it? I usually sing, read books and stay with my family. You can tell your family about unhappy things. If you don't want to tell your family, ask more questions, record a small video, or go on a trip and shout to the mountains! Good luck!
40-year-old youth is stressful for everyone. Why do you say that? Children are not big, they have to live and support a family. This metaphor is correct. Everyone has his troubles and troubles. That's not the mood of life left on earth. Come on, brothers, people of all colors have their own interests. Metaphorically speaking, disabled people live as well as their families, and she has a good attitude. Just live in the world and see how wonderful the outside world is. The outside world is very helpless, just like those Xiegang parks that are in a better mood. When they are in a bad mood, they will watch TV at home and chat with their wives. They will be in a good mood. The young man said that he is still young at the age of 40. As long as you work hard, you will only cherish your life once. Every day, Fuzhou is proud of your life. As long as you live a good life, all the people in China feel happy and proud. I wish you smooth sailing on the road to a better life tomorrow. Long live youth!