I will be your mirror.
From the actual combat lesson to the fifth lesson, the thinking becomes clearer and clearer, but the process becomes more and more difficult.
Although I was looking forward to becoming a consultant for the fourth simulated consultation, I finally chose to be a helper because of sudden pharyngitis and considering the feelings of visitors. I deeply felt the growth of my classmates, and I saw the shadow of consultants more and more clearly in them.
This lesson solves a problem that has been buried in my heart. After really starting to contact psychological counseling, as a psychological counselor, there is always a sense of powerlessness. Tourists come with the original intention of solving their own problems. How can we really solve the problem? Does the counselor feel that the problem has been solved, or does the visitor feel that his own problem has been solved? Also, there are some practical problems that consultants can't solve. What should the consultant do in this case, and what is the significance of the consultation itself? This kind of problem has always been around me. Although I know that the services I can provide as a consultant are limited, I always feel that I have not thought clearly.
A sentence in this class made me suddenly realize, "psychological counselors can solve and repair emotional problems." It is this sentence that makes me suddenly understand that the real problems will ultimately be solved by the visitors themselves, and even some real problems are an endless loop, and there is no suitable way to solve them. What a counselor can do is to open his heart to the visitor, listen to his confusion, sort out his thoughts and let him see his heart slowly. Realistic problems are left to reality to solve. Psychological counselors can also be true to themselves and have real feelings in the relationship between consultation and interview. This feeling suddenly lit up my misty heart.
What impressed me most in the nonverbal listening class was the experience of everyone dancing freely. Facts have proved that expressions, body language and even eyes can convey a lot of information, and having a group of people who are "consistent" with themselves will make them powerful and incredible. Slowly, I really feel so warm and moved to see my "mirror".
For some time, I have been thinking that those who have passed away, if there is such a "mirror" in their lives, they will certainly see their sadness and helplessness, and they will also see how much they love themselves in the "mirror".
People have some expectations and some concerns about recruiting tourists. However, I want to go further on the road of psychological counseling, for myself, for my family and for the people who come and go in front of me!
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Let me warm you.
The homework in the fifth practice class is not finished. Busy is an excuse. I'm not too busy to take advice. The real resistance comes from my lack of confidence and my inner anxiety about receiving strange visitors, so I didn't take the initiative to fight for it and chose to pretend to forget and escape.
Before and during the actual combat class, I gave many presuppositions to the psychological counselor. Although I didn't put a mysterious veil on the counselor like others after contact, I still think that a qualified counselor can help visitors solve problems, but I feel a lot of powerlessness in the process of simulated counseling.
As a psychological counselor who is still on the road, I have a lot of expectations for psychological counseling itself, but because of the limitation of knowledge and experience, I feel that I can't be a psychological counselor confidently, so I am timid.
Count the number of classes with your fingers while looking forward to class, which makes you feel full and satisfied; At the same time, I am afraid of class, adjust the class time, travel long distances, and feel exhausted. But I can't bear to ask for leave every time. I like psychology and am eager to get in touch with psychological counseling.
I feel a breakthrough in the sixth actual combat class. 10 Six tenths of the class is already over half, and I have a little more confidence in sticking to it. The improvement of actual combat skills has also given me some support, especially the sharing of small partners who study together will also bring me a lot of inspiration.
* * * Love is a skill mentioned in the sixth practical lesson. By the time of the sixth class, suddenly some words were poor, sometimes the thoughts were clear but the expression was unclear, and I could feel the feelings of the visitors, but I couldn't find the right words to express my feelings. I have been dealing with language, and I really feel * * *, and suddenly I find myself speechless. It is probably a good way to start with imitation and try to think independently.
* * * Family ties should be a great support for visitors. No matter worldly, right or wrong, there is no criticism and accusation, only tolerance, acceptance, understanding and warmth, which may be what visitors need most. Every visitor comes with questions, confusion or trauma. When they stepped into the consulting room and decided to tell a stranger their experiences, they must have made a difficult choice and silently plucked up their courage. Therefore, as the teacher said, every visitor deserves to be respected.
If psychology is a road to return life to tranquility, then psychological counseling is a lamp, which can let people in the dark see a ray of light. * * * Love is a small cotton-padded jacket, which can help visitors resist the cold.
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No words are needed now.
Because of physical discomfort, I took a leave of absence to attend the seventh practical class. I spent a week with regret and anxiety.
The eighth actual combat class suddenly began to imagine separation in advance. I don't know what it's like to be separated from my teacher and my partner who studied together for three months. At most, I should give up. Actually, I don't have to wait for the real separation. I've felt this way since this actual combat class.
In the past two weeks, we still failed to recruit visitors, because people around us misinterpreted psychological counseling and found it more difficult to walk into the counseling room than expected; There are also some visitors who refuse to avoid dual relationships because of the rules. More from their own self-distrust, I feel that I don't have enough theoretical background to support myself to face visitors calmly, so I didn't take the initiative to carry out this matter. I hope the expectation and sincerity in my heart can inspire me to receive strange visitors.
The content of the eighth practical lesson should be of greater significance to me. "Silence" is the scene I am most afraid to face. Whether in life or in consultation, sudden silence sometimes makes me feel at a loss. I often can't stand silence, or ask questions, or answer, and I can't feel silence calmly.
In the experience session, I played the visitor. I obviously felt silent for a long time, so that I was embarrassed, but no one felt my silence. In this way, I am more aware that I can't cope with and feel silence well, which may be related to my personality. I'm getting a little impatient. Although gradually become calm with the deepening of learning, but still need to adjust the state.
There is another link in my experience that makes me feel deeply. When I accompanied my blindfolded partner through the "rugged" road, I was more anxious and worried, afraid that she would be hurt because of my poor guidance, and even preferred to be blindfolded. I carefully "helped" her and watched her follow my footsteps slowly to the finish line. I often breathe a sigh of relief. Yes, I "deprived" her of the right to explore independently. She gave me enough trust and I took all the responsibilities. I think it is good for her. This is my way of helping her. I made her feel safe and warm, but I ignored this point: if she left me, could she face such a "bumpy road" again? I began to reflect, what is the ultimate goal of consultation? Where should the consultant "stand" on the visitors?
As the saying goes, silence is golden. In fact, if you think about it carefully, silence in negotiation is not a piece of gold. Through silence, you can feel the hearts of visitors, capture their emotions, and even establish a better relationship between consultants and visitors through reasonable handling of silence.
Suddenly thought of a sentence "silence is better than sound", this sentence is too appropriate!