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It is often said that if a person wants to live a better life and achieve different success, he must first become a person with high emotional intelligence. I believe most people agree with this statement. Although strength is very important, it is actually difficult to climb higher by strength alone.
To give a very simple example, although some people have good strength, their emotional intelligence is too low, and it is easier to offend people when they speak or do things, so it is particularly difficult to succeed.
But if he has a high emotional intelligence and wants to climb up, it is relatively easy for people with high emotional intelligence to talk and do things. It can not only make leaders like him, but also make colleagues like him.
Most importantly, he can gain strong contacts through high EQ, which is also very good for his future, but people with low EQ can't do this at all.
Why are some people always the same? Why do some people still mix at the bottom of society after many years? In the final analysis, it is not because their emotional intelligence is too low. If they can improve their emotional intelligence, that's another matter.
If you want to be a person with high emotional intelligence, you must first have the characteristics of high emotional intelligence. A person with high emotional intelligence has the following characteristics.
Understand the meaning between the lines
Lao Wang is a person with low emotional intelligence. He will never understand what others say. Sometimes others are lying, but he takes this sentence as true. Sometimes people say irony, and he listens. This will naturally lead to a bad result.
Once he made a mistake, and the leader was very angry, so he used some words to satirize him. Who knows that he actually took it seriously, which made the leader angry at that time. In fact, this kind of thing often happens in real life.
Some people really have low EQ. They can't hear the meaning at all. They just think they are what others say. In fact, this is a big misunderstanding.
Pay more attention to obedience and understand the implication of others, so that you can become smarter, solve many problems and make fewer mistakes.
A very simple example, at work, people sometimes say something between the lines, which only insiders can understand.
For example, in the process of cooperation, people in our company communicate with each other, so they will say something between the lines, so that smart people can understand it as soon as they listen, and naturally they can get the best results.
There are also some people who, when they are in danger, will let themselves out of trouble through hints, and there are many such situations in real life.
But sometimes you don't have to face such professional things. In life, you should also be a person who can understand the implication of others.
For a simple example, someone told you that we should have dinner together one day. If you take this sentence seriously, it's really ridiculous, because most people just say it politely.
There is another situation that everyone must remember, for example, you are a guest at a friend's house. Maybe you are relatively familiar with each other, maybe you are not very familiar with each other, and then he tells you that it's getting late and stays for dinner.
In this case, you may think that he really wants to keep you for dinner, so if you really stay for dinner, he will entertain you, but in fact you are wrong, because his purpose is not to keep you for dinner at all, but to imply that you should leave. Why do you say that?
If he really wants to keep you for dinner, he will say it's time for dinner. I can cook or order takeout or something, but his words are very clear. He said to let you leave after dinner. Isn't that to let you go?
If you don't understand this sentence, it will naturally bring some embarrassment. Even if you don't feel embarrassed yourself, this kind of behavior is not good and will leave a bad impression on others.
Know how to give others steps
Tell you a story, a story that tells you how to give others a step down.
A friend is a real estate agent. His name is Akun. A friend of Akun went to him to buy a house and said that he had taken a fancy to a house. Akun told his friend at that time that the house was not very good, and he suggested that his friend change to another house.
Maybe it was because my friend liked the house so much that he finally chose to buy it. Because he didn't listen to Kun and didn't buy it here, because they didn't have the same experience as before.
However, shortly after buying a house, my friend learned that the apartment type was really bad, and he could feel it after living for a long time, so he told Akun that he regretted not listening to Akun, and now he especially regrets buying a house.
If you change to a person with low emotional intelligence, he may follow his friends, and then blame his friends for not listening to him at first, which will make them feel even worse.
But Kun is not like this. He is a man with high emotional intelligence, so he didn't blame his friends, but comforted them. He told his friends that although the apartment was not very good, it was large and spacious, and it was more comfortable to live in.
After listening to his words, my friend felt very happy in an instant.
People with high emotional intelligence know how to give others a step down, and you will feel happy when chatting with them, while people with low emotional intelligence will not give you a step down, and even make you feel that the conversation between you is adding to the block.
As for what kind of person you want to be, you have to start with your emotional intelligence, but if you want to improve your emotional intelligence, you can also exercise.
It's never awkward to talk.
Some people are always embarrassed to talk about it everywhere, and those who don't know the situation may think it is intentional.
To give a very simple example, some people are very strange and always say something inexplicable. They took office early in front of a person, and his current position is still there, which will make people feel particularly embarrassed.
This kind of thing will happen in life, and so will some stars. Even in front of the screen, this kind of behavior is very undesirable, and some embarrassment is written on your face, so don't do this kind of thing, because once you do this kind of thing, you will offend people.
Maybe for various reasons, he won't lose his temper on the spot, but you can't be friends all your life. If he is narrow-minded, he may get back at you for this matter.
In any case, this matter is absolutely harmful to you, so everyone should be a beautiful person and don't make people feel embarrassed.
Never make unnecessary arguments.
Don't make unnecessary arguments. Many people happen to have this habit in real life, which is a waste of time.
If you have to say what kind of people like to do such things most, it is probably the network keyboard man that everyone often says. As long as you surf the Internet, you will find that there are many people arguing on the Internet every day. The point is that they haven't even met.
After all, people are different. People with different levels, different concepts and different living habits have different ideas. Why do you want others to agree with you? Why don't we go our separate ways?
What kind of results can you get by arguing with others? Will people's minds change through your words?
For example, some people often argue online whether it is better to have a son or a daughter, which is simply a waste of time.
As long as your child is the best, can you not love your daughter because of a word from others? Can your words make others feel that it is particularly sad to have a son? This is ridiculous.
Emotional intelligence is not determined by heaven, but can be changed through our own efforts. If you often become a person with high emotional intelligence, then these characteristics are worth having.
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