Sometimes, if you pay too much, others will think it is a natural behavior. The most typical example is those children who dote on themselves. Their children grow up to be neets, and they take it for granted. This kind of situation is actually very common in our life, especially between relatives.
Blindly paying, blindly helping, will eventually make the two families fall out. This kind of example is very common in our life, because relatives are relatives, so we must help. Of course, this is not the case.
The so-called help is based on your own ability to help, not the kind of brother-in-law that appears in today's society. What matters between relatives is not what you give her, but your encouragement, trust, respect and recognition.
If it's something, you just give it to him out of thin air. Then he will take it for granted, and everything will be blamed on you. If you give him something that doesn't satisfy him, he thinks you are not good to him. The story we are telling now is the story that happened at home. Very sad and helpless.
Fall out with my uncle's house Xiao Gan's family finally fell out with my uncle's house. The reason why it was finally used was because Xiao Gan actually knew in his heart that this would lead to such a result, but he had advised his parents and they wouldn't listen. Now this result makes her mother very sad. She never knows what she did wrong in this matter.
Xiao Gan's uncle is his mother's brother. For a long time, her mother never owed anything to her brother, and she was almost responsive. But now he's a big head. Instead, the younger brother blamed the younger sister for not doing a good job for himself.
When she was a child, her uncle was lazy, a funny man and liked gambling very much. He quarrels with his wife from time to time. If it weren't for having several children at home, it is estimated that my uncle and aunt would have divorced long ago.
Because my uncle likes gambling all his life, he has little money left. My uncle and aunt have been living in a rented house, and this aunt is very angry. My aunt and my uncle quarreled many times because of the house problem. Every time I say it for the last time, I can't do it.
After my uncle lost all his money again, my aunt had no choice but to file for divorce. Both of them got divorce certificates directly, but they couldn't bear to have children. My aunt said to give my uncle another year. If he can change, then he can consider coming back.
I thought this would not change when I bought a house for 50 thousand yuan, but I didn't expect my uncle to really change after this incident. He will never go to those messy gambling places again. But menstruation felt that after so many years of marriage, they didn't even have a house of their own. If there is no house, then she still doesn't want to come back. This incident made my uncle's sisters very anxious. They tried their best to help their younger brother. Because now Xiao Gan and his family live in a new house, and there used to be an old house with a square meter of 120. Now, because Xiao Gan and they have moved into a new home, the old house has been rented out.
Then, as my uncle's sister, Xiao Gan's mother said, You start working hard now, and I will sell my house to you in a year.
My uncle works really hard, really hard. A year later, he had only 50,000 yuan left in his hand, so Xiao Gan's mother gladly sold the house to her brother.
Xiao Gan didn't agree with it at first, because she felt that the house could not be worth only 50,000 yuan now. You are selling 50 thousand yuan now, which seems to be helping your brother, but it is likely to cause more disputes in the future.
But my mother wouldn't listen. Her mother thought she should help her brother in this situation, but Xiao Gan's father listened to her mother and thought it didn't matter. So the deal was made.
Since my uncle moved into a new house, troubles have followed. Whenever there is anything wrong with the old house, my uncle will call his mother.
What's wrong with water, electricity and electricity? Her mother always comes to fix it. Xiao Gan felt very strange that she didn't rent it to them, but sold it directly to them. Shouldn't they do these things themselves?
However, after Xiao Gan raised this question, her mother said nothing and agreed to all kinds of unreasonable demands of her uncle. But only when the epidemic broke out, because the whole family couldn't get out, they kept calling to say that there was something wrong at home. My mother had no choice, so she quarreled with him. The two families just fell out.
My mother is so sad and painful that she doesn't know what she did wrong.
In fact, we can clearly see that our mother Wen played a doting role in this incident. She dotes on her brother too much and needs her sister's help to solve his house.
When you promise him too many unreasonable demands, he will think that you should meet all my demands. It is precisely because of this that the family finally quarreled.
Everyone should remember to treat the people closest to him in life. You shouldn't always give. You should give him respect and encouragement to regain his confidence in life, instead of giving him everything. It is an older truth that it is better to teach people to fish than to teach them to fish.