Just after Valentine's Day, come and fall in love! One day, a young man was walking. He passed a cemetery and found a beautiful woman dead, so he kissed the corpse and lived happily with it. Isn't it romantic?
What, the author wants to take medicine? Please, this is clearly the plot of Princess Baiyun! Is Princess Baiyun the true love story of Wang Dao, or is it just the love illusion created by the sexual perversion of Prince necrophilia in order to satisfy his own desires? I really can't tell, because some illusions of love are very similar to real love. Maybe it's because of crazy love? Let's see if these are true love or just the illusion of love.
First, the love of empathy
The concept of empathy was put forward by sigmund freud, which means that people will project their feelings for some important people in their previous lives into their present relationship with others. In psychological counseling, special attention is paid to the empathy of the "object relationship" (usually parents) projected by the visitors' childhood feelings on the consultants. Of course, there are other situations of empathy. Visitors who have just lost their love will project their feelings on the counselor when consulting, for example, calling the counselor a heartbreaker and a liar.
Let's look at an example that often happens in TV series: the hero's first love died unexpectedly, and he suddenly met the heroine who looks exactly like his first love, so the hero began to pay special attention to the heroine ... and finally they lived happily together. In fact, the hero may just project his feelings for the first love on the heroine, and his love has always been the first love.
Second, the love of Stockholm syndrome
Stockholm syndrome, also known as hostage complex, refers to the situation that the victim in criminal activities will have feelings for the offender after contacting the offender for a period of time, and actively help the offender to commit the crime. Psychoanalysis regards Stockholm syndrome as a psychological defense mechanism, called "identity", which is the emotional dependence of infants on the strongest people in order to survive.
This is sick, right? But it's true. People will have distorted "love" for those who whip him every day. If you are a masochist, you will get more pleasure from flogging. Of course, examples of criminal activities are far from ordinary people. Therefore, to give a more common example, most victims of domestic violence will cover up their abusers. The victim thought it was love, but it was just an illusion caused by distorted emotional dependence.
Third, love-induced psychosis.
Induced psychosis refers to two people who are close to each other having the same delusion. Usually, a leader systematically imposes his delusion on another person, so that the other person has the same delusion.
Well, it's a little scary. But imagine that many lovers in love will fantasize about their future life, get married together and have children together. This is normal and romantic. However, it is undeniable that this fantasy is a bit like the induced psychosis mentioned above. The difference between the two is that inducing mental illness is a perverted version of romance, right?
Fourth, the love effect of Romeo and Juliet.
Romeo and Juliet effect means that love will become firmer and deeper because of external pressure, such as parents' opposition. Its core is that the degree of freedom of choice has an influence on the goodwill of the selected object, and the greater the degree of freedom of choice, the higher the goodwill of the selected object.
It sounds all right, but if you fall in love with someone your parents don't like, you love him very much. One day, your parents suddenly support your love. If you start to feel that his attraction is fading, your love for him may only be based on resisting the psychological needs of your parents. What you really love may be the freedom of choice, not him.
Verb (abbreviation of verb) Anima &; Love in Anima.
Anima and Anima were put forward by carl jung. Anima is a female role formed by the experience of getting along with women in the male subconscious, and there is only one; Animas is a male character formed by the experience of getting along with men in women's subconscious, and there may be more than one. It is worth mentioning that Anima and Anima are at the subconscious level, which may be different from the "ideal lover" and "Prince Charming" at the conscious level. The ideal lover at the level of consciousness is what you think you want; The subconscious Anima and Anima are what you really want.
If a boy has a feeling of love at first sight for a girl, it may be that the boy has projected his Anima on the girl. If a boy suddenly doesn't like this girl, it's probably because he found the difference between this girl and Anima in his mind. Of course, this happens at the subconscious level, and the reason for breaking up at the conscious level may be "you have changed, you are not like before." Actually, that girl hasn't changed at all. It's that boy.
postscript
Of course, it is also possible that these illusions of love will become true love. However, it is more likely that the illusion of love is just an illusion. "The other day you said you would love me the most. He thought about it. I'm afraid it's not that much." The lyrics of Xu Zhian's "It Will Pass" can probably explain the disillusionment of love.
(Author: Farm Chunyang)