Generally speaking, men go out to earn money to support their families, and women do housework and take care of their children at home. In order to earn more money, many couples have to live apart for a long time.
I know a woman whose husband went abroad to earn dollars when she was pregnant. When her husband came back, the child was 5 years old. She looks much older than her age, so does her behavior and speech. Ask her if she regrets it? She said that if she had money, she would not regret it, while her husband said that she regretted missing the opportunity for her children to grow up and accompany her wife.
Will separation between husband and wife affect the relationship between husband and wife? What do men think? These people spoke their minds.
@ Yimeng Spring and Autumn Married 10 Separated for 3 years.
I used to earn a little money at home, and my wife and children were very hot. I felt that such a dull life was also quite good. However, as everyone around me bought a house and a car, my wife began to urge me to work.
Only after I came out did I know that without a skill, the work I could do was very limited. I got a job selling coolies for several hundred dollars a day, but I was very tired.
After three years apart, I made some money. I paid the down payment and bought a small house in a small county, which was even more stressful. My wife just stared at me to make more money and felt that I was her money-making machine.
I was not used to it at first, but I miss my family and children very much at night. I'm used to it now. I have nothing to say with my wife more and more, and I will chat with people nearby. Purely to kill time, I didn't do anything wrong to my wife.
@ Bug married for 5 years and separated for 4 years.
I feel that I have a fake marriage and just make money outside every day. I drive a truck. It stands to reason that I have the conditions for my wife to accompany me, but she doesn't like renting a house, saying that I might as well buy a house in my hometown because I am outside all day and it is convenient for my children to go to school. I obeyed her.
Just separated for half a year, my wife still cares about me every day. Now she won't call me at all except asking for money. I can't say a few words when I call her. There is no same topic, so I have to say a few words and then hang up.
There is a great temptation outside. A woman once seduced me. I knew she was interested in my money and didn't go forward.
I'm going to earn money for another two years. I'm afraid I'll cheat and lose my family if I'm lonely for a long time. Although money is important, wife and children are more important.
Drunk, dreaming, married for 8 years, separated for 6 years.
After getting married and having children, going abroad for a long time to earn money is lonely both physically and mentally. People around me are playing temporary couples with other women. I look forward to it in my heart, but I dare not put it into action.
Until my birthday that day, I drank some wine, and another woman cooked me a meal and had a few drinks with me. Finally, something that should not have happened happened, and then we moved in together. In a foreign country, we hugged each other to keep warm. We agreed to break up after returning home and go our separate ways.
However, her husband found out on a temporary business trip, and I almost got beaten. Later, I reflected on it and felt that it was unfair to my wife, so I was relieved. I'm glad my wife doesn't know. I plan to go home this year. I won't travel far, but I will work near my home. Husband and wife have been separated for a long time, and there must be problems. It's best to be together.
@ Gray 15 married, 10 separated.
Seeing this problem, I think it is necessary to say that long-term separation will really lead to divorce. I am an example. I hate women in easy virtue.
In order to earn money to support my family, I went out to work and she took care of the children at home. She always gets along well. She often contacts me with her children. Later, she said that she had found a job and was too busy to contact. I believe it.
It was not until last year that the woman upstairs scolded me for being useless and said that my wife was not good-looking, that I was surprised that my wife would cheat.
In order to confuse her, I went out to work early, but two days later, I sneaked back. Seeing her coming out of the hotel with a man in the same neighborhood, I got up and hit the man hard. She still ran away with him, and I slapped her twice.
I wanted to divorce her, and she begged me on her knees. I didn't make a fuss for the sake of fame. Looking at the smiling face of the child, I wanted to forgive her, but I tried but I couldn't. I'm still talking about divorce conditions, and I hope to get a divorce as soon as possible.
After reading the hearts of these men, it reflects the problems that husband and wife must face in long-term separation: easy emotional emptiness, unsatisfied physiological needs, and weak feelings between husband and wife in separation.
However, it is not easy for separated couples. A woman becomes a woman at home and can be independent of everything. When a man has a home outside, he can't go back and run around to make money. If possible, no one wants husband and wife to live apart. Instead of complaining, it is better to understand and care for each other and strive for an early end to the day of separation.