It is a fact that you have a second child and were playmates when you were a child.
For a carefree child, besides parents and study, the most important thing is to have fun with friends.
We have grown from a child to an adult ourselves, and playing alone with two children is completely different.
I have a younger brother. I'm 1 year and a half behind him. They almost grew up together.
I quarreled with him many times in my ignorant childhood. After the quarrel, they ignored each other and even said cruel words to each other: I will never talk to you again. When I grow up, I will not associate with you.
In a rage, the words were no longer malicious. After a while, the two children played together without any bad feelings.
Now chatting with my brother about these childhood anecdotes, apart from memories, is more a testimony of two things, revealing each other's happiness and pleasure.
When I grow up and get married, I will only be a relative. This sentence is somewhat one-sided. Besides being relatives, there is a deeper bond between two people: the parents who raised us.
Yun Yun is an only child. After her father had a serious illness, she didn't want to have a second child, so she gave birth to a second child without hesitation.
Asked why, she said that during her father's illness, she thought it would be nice to have a brother and sister!
It turned out that her father had an operation immediately after his illness was diagnosed. After the operation, she looked after her father in the hospital.
Her father stayed in the hospital for more than a month and invited a nurse to take care of him at night. During the day, her time is basically taking care of her father in the hospital. Money, you can find a way, but no one talks about physical fatigue and mental stress.
Her husband's job requires frequent business trips. She doesn't want her husband to work outside, but she is still thinking about home and is easily distracted. Even if she did, her husband was not around, and there was nothing she could do except worry about her.
Mom, she dare not say, for fear that her mother will be sad. If her mother gets sick again, she will be at a loss.
There are many relatives in her family who can help, but there are few. Every family has a hard time, so it is impossible for a person to stay in the hospital and take care of her father like her.
She is also grateful to have relatives take time to help look after a day once in a while.
If she has a younger brother and sister, the two take turns to take care of them and share them. If two people discuss something with each other, she won't feel so tired.
This is the biggest feeling of Yun Yun's father after his recovery.
Having a second child is not only a playmate as a child, but also a relative after growing up and getting married. And the relatives who have been with my children for the longest time.
You can have many relatives, or you can have only one relative.
I have two brothers and three brothers and sisters. I am very grateful to my parents for giving me brothers and sisters (if my mother doesn't have three, I have nothing). Let me count the benefits of brothers and sisters:
1. In my rural area, in order to cultivate our three brothers and sisters, my parents are hardworking and simple, setting a good example for us. In addition, the children of poor families have long been in charge, and our three brothers and sisters are very sensible and United, which is also influenced by our parents. My father has been dead for six years, and my uncles and aunts have tried their best to celebrate the New Year together.
2. My eldest brother and I both graduated from university (my eldest brother graduated from 0 1 985 and I graduated from 2006). Second brother has been learning carpentry and decorating with his uncle. When we were studying, my second brother made money to supplement us. I came out to work and tried my best to support my parents and supplement my second brother a few years ago. Now I am married, have children, buy a house and settle down. My eldest brother is responsible for subsidizing me and supporting my mother. Second brother makes some hard money. Now two children are studying, and the county house has to repay the loan, but he is self-reliant. My mother is with me now to help me take care of the baby!
3. 13 years, my father got liver cancer, and my eldest brother and I had to go to work and couldn't take care of it. The second brother has a freelance job and took care of my mother at home for half a year. My eldest brother and I paid for the treatment. Without the help of brothers and sisters, the situation at that time was unimaginable.
4. Now Big Brother has no mortgage and no car loan. Fourth-tier cities have two suites and two cars, and the annual family income is 700,000 to 800,000. I have a suite in Changsha, Shanghai. Although it is not in the core city, fortunately, after one month's provident fund is filled, the annual mortgage will be less than 40 thousand. At present, the annual household income is also 400,000. The pressure now is to owe hundreds of thousands of foreign debts to my eldest brother. The house in the second brother county has to pay more than 1000 mortgage a month, and the two children are studying, which is a bit stressful. But now my mother has paid the town social security for my second brother without telling me. My eldest brother and I know that if my mother is gone, my eldest brother and I will continue to pay.
Let's discuss it now. When we all get through it, my brothers and sisters will scrape together some money to renovate our old house and go back to live comfortably. It's not that big brother can't build it now, but that everyone pays a share and lives in peace!
6. Some time ago, my mother was in poor health, my husband and I had to go to work, and there was a preschool baby at home. Eldest brother didn't say anything about packing things to help in Shanghai for half a month.
We don't rule out that some brothers and sisters are still relatives after their parents are gone, and maybe one day we will be brothers and sisters, but my grandparents have been gone for more than ten years, and my uncles and aunts are still our reliance. I know that when we are in trouble, uncles and aunts will stand up and help us, and so will we. Don't ask me why I know, just borrow money once or get sick once.
If this topic was put in the past, many people would not recognize it, but with the changes of the times, such a thing is gradually becoming a reality.
This is a sigh, but it is a real truth.
That is the reality. Everyone is an independent individual, even brothers and sisters who are related by blood. One day we will grow up and learn to be independent. No one can always protect you, help you and accompany you.
The second child was a playmate when he was young. When he grows up, everyone works, falls in love, gets married, has children, and then they are busy with their own lives. Even if you want to maintain their feelings, you will eventually be confused and powerless by the trivial things of life. Especially the kind of two brothers is more realistic. At least we have never seen a family with many brothers at present. After marriage, the brothers are very close and busy. When you really want to help, you may not be as reliable as your friends. I really can't think of anything good except blood relationship.
Also, if the idea of having a second child is to be a child's playmate, it is really unacceptable. Everyone is an independent individual. Why is the second child a playmate of the first child? Have you ever thought about the feeling of having a second child? It won't be easy for you to have a second child. I hope people who want to have a second child will seriously consider it. What is the purpose of having a second child? Is it for a child not to be lonely? So that two people can support each other when they grow up? Or other reasons?
I hope that the second child in the world is born because parents simply love you, not because of other ulterior motives [wit]
That's a good question. First of all, I agree that my husband, sister and in-laws live upstairs and downstairs, doing nothing and eating at her mother-in-law's house every day. Of course, I have nothing to say when others are happy. Ever since I married their family, I have always felt that only my in-laws and their daughter-in-law are pregnant and just go to eat. Seriously, I have nothing against my sister-in-law. We are polite on the surface, but I really don't like her. I think she is very melodramatic. She is the center of the family. Then my daughter divorced her ex-husband, and she didn't get a good education. She often loses her temper and runs away from home. My husband went out to find her many times to help communicate. Even I was pregnant and once worked outside late at night. I put up with all this. I thought of the poor child. Now that I have a baby, I want my family to live a good life. Of course, relatives need help when they are in trouble, but not all big and small things are mixed together. It's not who's gone. The earth can't turn around. After all, every family has its own problems. My husband and I have a good relationship, and he loves each other very much, so even if I feel uncomfortable in my den, I will muddle along, so I still hope to distinguish between them at ordinary times, otherwise it will take a long time, and I don't know if it will affect the harmony of my small family!
Our family is a combination of brothers and sisters. We played together and quarreled together since childhood. We pursue each other and hate each other. I grab toys and candy. When I was 5 years old, I remember one time, I was stared at by a dog at the intersection, and the guy kept barking at me. I dare not move. My three-year-old brother galloped home to help on a tricycle. I brought my mother here. Finally, he took me home with a tricycle. Later, my mother told me about this experience, and we still felt very warm to each other.
I remember hearing this passage. Brothers and sisters are the only people in the world besides parents who remember your childhood and know your childhood experience. I married in distant Hubei. When I got married, my brother could only take a day off, but he still came all the way from Guangdong, and he couldn't buy a high-speed rail ticket or even a train ticket. He brought a small stool for more than ten hours and came overnight. Without closing my eyes for a second, I went to the table and made a toast, saying, "My sister will be taken care of by everyone in the future."
I am very grateful to my parents for giving me this family to accompany me all my life. I don't need to prepare for him, I don't need to look at the occasion when joking, and I can turn over the books when quarreling. I am very willing to send my daughter as a relative and partner! What about you?
I have two sisters, both of whom live better than me. Every time, my sisters organize competitions. Our family of four can just go! Since childhood, we have all been taken care of by our sisters, and our feelings are stronger than gold, including our career failures and sisters' support. Isn't it good to have a second child?
My mother gave birth to three children, only my husband. After we grow up and get married, we are far apart. We haven't seen each other for several years, and our feelings will really fade. Poverty is the memory of my whole youth. If there is only one child at home, how can life be so embarrassing? Parents rush about for life every day, where can they care about their children's academic and psychological education? A bowl of water is absolutely uneven. So if the conditions are not good, having a few children will drag all family members into the abyss of poverty. I envy my only child. Parents can concentrate on training a child to be a success, which is better than nothing.