Although there must be a brave man under the four rewards, the tragedy of doing bad things with good intentions has been staged again and again, which proves that helping people find people cannot be based on enthusiasm, and professionalism is the best. Let's talk about the misunderstanding and countermeasures of finding people:
One of the misunderstandings: lack of experience, eagerness for success, harassment and extortion.
The child is lost, eager to announce the news, and because of his inexperience, he treats everyone who provides clues as a good person, always listens to him, and will go as soon as he has a clue, regardless of the consequences. When I was exhausted by false information or countless blackmail, my spirit was hit hard, my mood fell to the bottom, and I felt cold, helpless and hopeless. He went to the other extreme, no longer trusted anyone and any clues, and even gave up all his search efforts. It is undoubtedly the most convenient and effective way to collect information from all parties by telephone, but it can be used by both good people and bad people. How to distinguish and filter the true and false information is not something that ordinary people can do. Even professional 1 10, 1 12, 1 19 can't distinguish the authenticity of each message, and they also encounter a large number of false messages. Finding someone is a very complicated matter, and it is also very complicated between people. If there is no special method to identify the rules of true and false information, the result is: either believe everything and waste life and money everywhere; Either doubt everything and lose information resources that may be true.
Myth 2: Local posting, short-term effect
Because the correct advertising form is not selected in advance, it is difficult to keep its advertising materials for a long time, which is convenient for people to consult at any time. Posting advertisements manually has low cost and high efficiency. 65,438+00,000 65,438+06/A4 paper advertising cost 1000 yuan. If you want to attach a 2-inch color photo, the cost will be higher. The advertisement of 65.438 million+0,000 can only cover one hanging area at most, and the travel expenses of manual vehicles covering this area are not a small expense. Paper advertisements are easy to fall off after being eroded by wind and rain in the wild, and some are artificially torn off because of the impact on the city appearance. Even without the above factors, the handwriting in advertisements will quickly degenerate and disappear under the action of sunlight. Everything disappears in a short time. Posting in a specific area to find you has a certain effect on the lost and missing people caused by a certain mental illness, because the behavior characteristics of the lost people are often obviously different from those of normal people, with obvious goals and easy to leave an impression. However, it is difficult to be effective for kidnapped missing persons, because their personal abilities have been controlled, kept in the dark, or transferred. The rescue action for such people must be a long-term action in a large area and across regions. This requires: long-term, easy-to-find, economical and wide-ranging large-scale advertisements, and only the Internet is the first choice.
Myth 3: Over-reliance on the police to solve crimes
After the tragedy, many families relied too much on the police to solve the problem by solving the case, and did not make any efforts to find people, thus losing the best opportunity to find people. According to some data, the abduction and trafficking of children took place in an uncertain place, with uncertain time and short crime time, so it is difficult to leave evidence and clues of the crime. This kind of case is extremely difficult to solve, and few children are rescued.
Myth 4: Expectations for publicity are too high.
Overestimate one or two media reports, thinking that everything can be better. It is of course important to publicize the search for people through TV newspapers, which can let the vast number of TV viewers see this information at a specific time and area. However, this kind of propaganda has its limitations and defects. Local TV stations and local newspapers are restricted by regions, and only local people can see and read them. However, trafficking is often abducted from place A and then transferred to places D, C and F for sale. A child abducted from Yunnan was sold to Guangdong and Fujian. No matter how much local publicity has been done, it is futile to buy this place without knowing it. Not only that, but its defect is that TV can only leave an impression on people, and can't leave any data and evidence that can be consulted. As soon as the TV is over, it will be over. So is the newspaper. No one will deliberately keep a newspaper with you on it, trying to find someone in the future. Using the Internet to publish the tracing information on the professional tracing website platform makes up for the above defects. Network communication has no boundaries, and there are more than 100 million netizens. Backward counties, townships and towns can surf the Internet as long as they have electricity, and you can see your search at your fingertips, including the photos and physiological characteristics of the searched person, for people to consult and compare for a long time. If other forms of publicity are adopted, such as publishing on the internet first, plus TV newspapers, the effect will be greatly improved.
Myth 5: Choose the original method and reject the advanced technology.
In the past two years, "child-seeking alliances" have sprung up everywhere, ranging from a few people to dozens of people, such as Nanjing, Henan and Dongguan, Yunnan. They still use traditional methods to find people, relying on their own strength to post people everywhere and collect gossip everywhere. When they have a clue, they will not be afraid to go on the road to look for it (some even search for half). Although many attempts were in vain. But they still enjoy it. However, due to improper methods, blind search has little effect. Because he is keen on the traditional method of tracing people, these people seldom use the most advanced, fastest, most extensive and economical network platform to publish searching for you. Although they are sometimes plagiarized by propaganda, they have never posted a formal advertisement for missing persons on the Internet, and finally they can't leave any detailed information for people to check or promise a reward. After a vigorous exercise, they are like a splash, and soon return to calm and original state.
Myth 6: I am stingy with money and hope that "good people" will help me for free.
Many people who are looking for you, full of sadness and eager for help, get only the word "thank you" in return. It should be said that there are many well-intentioned people in the crowd who are willing to help others, but usually they will help under the following circumstances: they don't need to deliberately occupy time and energy, don't harm their own interests, and don't take any "particularly high risk" risks. If you happen to meet someone in the street, it may be the tramp you are looking for, you can call me and give you a message. That's all. As for whether you can determine how to determine and other things afterwards, you can only judge and handle it yourself. Because going deeper will violate the above three principles of helping others. I wonder how much help this kind of "kindness" will bring to the success of finding people. In fact, every missing family has been taken care of by this kind of kindness, but so far there is no case of successfully finding a child because of this kind of care. It is precisely for these "goodwill concerns" that countless wrongs have been made and countless money has been spent. Finding people is an extremely complicated, laborious, time-consuming and expensive thing, and some even take great risks. A problem that even the police can't solve, even if a large reward is offered, it may not be solved. Just begging for sympathy and pity can help you find your precious child? This is too unrealistic. People may be moved by your story, but moving is not equal to action, because it takes too much effort, but there is no corresponding return.
The seventh misunderstanding is the lack of sincerity and binding commitment.
Many searches for you often end in a fixed reward. Fixed rewards and rewards promise, can't find any exact reward figures. It seems that a merchant is engaged in prize promotion, adding a word game of "the right to interpret belongs to the company" after a lot of attractive prizes. The so-called reward is just a numbers game. It can be any number, 1200 or 1000. In the era of serious lack of honesty, what will happen if you use this number game to find your closest relatives and lovers? Reward is commitment, and commitment needs to be guaranteed by integrity. Services that digital games can't get, as well as non-binding commitments, will not have results. Some reward advertisements are only published in the form of news reports or virtual forums, and the subject and form of reward are not clear, so it is impossible to distinguish the truth from the falsehood. Although some websites have been selected to publish reward information, they are all published in the form of free uploading, and their authenticity is still in doubt. Everything has its own rules of the game, and the rules need to be constrained. The forms of restriction are legal and economic ... It is a constraint to advertise on qualified regular websites, and no one will take money to joke. A person who doesn't even want to pay a few hundred yuan for advertising, how can a reward promise of 10 thousand yuan be fulfilled? This is the reasoning of human habitual thinking. Would you believe it if you changed your identity? A reward advertisement, people not only read its content, but also read the character of the reward giver from the content. Once the role is questioned, its reward is meaningless.
Myth 8: harsh conditions and wishful thinking
Although some offer a certain amount of reward, they ask the other party to send the missing person home first, and then pay the reward. Finding people is a very special and complicated task. It is difficult for an unfamiliar stranger to confirm a person 100% only by a few photos or some simple descriptions. He can only find the target according to the general characteristics, provide clues, and finally confirm that it is something that his family can accomplish. Even if there is evidence to prove it, the condition of "parcel delivery" is only practical for people with dementia or mental retardation or street children. If you are mentally ill, who dares to send it? Moreover, a healthy adult ran away from home, and another stranger insisted on giving him back to his family. Is it possible? It's even harder if it's abducted children and women. An ordinary stranger, who insists on taking them away from the buyer's home, will undoubtedly bear the suspicion of human trafficking again, and at the same time risk being chased and retaliated by his owner. It is not easy for a great country to give you accurate information, that is, the family members have personally confirmed why they want others to send them back. Setting too many unrealistic harsh conditions is actually a sign of dishonesty. In fact, this is a search for you who refuses to find someone. As we all know, a person who lacks integrity will not keep his promise even if he sends someone home.
Myth 9: jealousy mentality, narrow consciousness
Some people are unwilling to offer a reward because they are afraid that their hard-earned money will really be earned away, and their hearts are unbalanced. As a result, it is better to earn by yourself than to let others earn. So we choose the most primitive way to find people: to be a lone ranger or to form a sub-seeking alliance of several people. They just rely on their own strength, feelings or some gossip to run around and look blindly. They would rather spend their money bit by bit in a hopeless search until they lose everything. Even if the money in the narrow sense is spent from your own hands, even if it is spent improperly, it is better than letting others take it.
Myth 10: scientific illiteracy, lack of understanding of advanced network technology.
The survey shows that more than 80% of the abducted children's families are migrant workers at the bottom of society. They have little or no contact with the Internet. They know nothing about the Internet but play games and chat online. Coupled with the negative impact of the network, some people even regard the network as a deceptive scourge and avoid it. Not to mention advertising a reward online. Although some people agree with the Internet, they think that although the Internet is good, it is only used by urban people, and most of the missing people are sold to remote and poor places, even if the people in searching for you do it online, they can't see it. In fact, the internet is not a special tool for urban people. You can surf the internet as long as you are electrified. In the poorest areas, there are already commercial Internet cafes for people to surf the Internet in towns at the township level, and people with money and status, township officials and civil servants have more opportunities to use computers to surf the Internet. As for finding people, especially in rural areas, ordinary people are not needed at all, and it is not necessarily a people's war. In an area with a high incidence of cases of abducting and selling women and children, as long as a person with business acumen and ability (especially a person with certain power) discovers the huge business opportunity of tracing people, it is enough to dig out every abducted person in this area and turn it into a reward. Now all people think about money or how to make money, all kinds of things, especially officials. An advertisement offering a reward for finding someone, ranging from 10 thousand yuan to 10 thousand yuan. In a poor area, this is undoubtedly a great wealth that can be used. There must be brave people under the four rewards, which is not a bad thing in itself. I'm afraid no one will do such a good job without profit. The key is, how many of the many missing persons have the conditions to be rescued by "hunters"?
To sum up, the probability of successful tracing is less than 1‰ of the lost population. Among the millions of abducted people, so far, there are less than 200 cases of tracing advertisements that correctly use the Internet and sincerely offer a reward of more than 10,000 yuan. This is a pitiful and pathetic number. If only 200 of such a large group of spoiled missing people are worth looking for, what is the proportion? ! Is the family's indifference to the missing child unwilling to look for it? In fact, every missing child's home is undoubtedly a disaster, and some even destroyed their home; Is it because they can't afford to pay 10 thousand yuan or hundreds of dollars for tracing advertisements? According to our survey, in the process of finding a child, the average family spends more than 20,000 to 50,000 yuan, and some even hundreds of thousands of yuan. Many families were destroyed by this. Children are the spiritual food and even the spiritual pillar of grandparents in the hearts of parents, and children are everything to them. They desperately searched, but the methods and concepts of finding people were improper, and most of them were in a semi-underground and semi-primitive state, which led to a serious imbalance in the proportion of rewards, and the success rate could be imagined. It is precisely because of the shortage of manpower that the trafficking market has no scruples (of course, there are legal defects and lax law enforcement). Cases of theft, robbery and abduction of women and children continue to occur. It has brought disastrous consequences to abducted families and seriously endangered social stability.
In order to change this phenomenon, it is particularly important to change the concept and method of tracing people, in addition to giving full play to the main functions of the judiciary and the police to crack down on the crime of abducting and selling women and children and the buyer's market. As a abducted family, we should face the reality and try our best to deal with the disaster. Any luck and blind disposal will not help. Simply relying on the police to solve a case or begging for mercy from others will only lose the best opportunity to find someone. To solve the family crisis that has emerged, we must take the initiative to save ourselves correctly, and only by providing large rewards can we have a chance. As the saying goes; There must be brave people under the four rewards! Maybe a reward can't bring the child back 100%, but no reward is doomed to be 100% hopeless. With the economic means of offering a large reward, people can be widely mobilized, and people in high-rise buildings who abduct and sell women and children can spontaneously participate in the ranks of missing people who report and provide clues. In a poverty-stricken area with an annual per capita income of less than 1000 yuan (which is also a high incidence area of abducting and selling women and children in rural areas), the reward of 1000 yuan is enough to tempt people to sell friendship and affection. What if the reward is 30 thousand, 50 thousand or 65438+ 10 thousand? If all abducted families can be widely publicized on the internet in the form of heavy rewards, it will undoubtedly hit the buyer's market hard! Because whoever spends money to do such an outrageous thing will eventually lose both money and money and be punished by law. Who else will buy it again? Internet is the most advanced, extensive, fastest and practical communication tool in the world today, and it is also the cheapest advertising platform. The cost of posting advertisements in a small area is enough to publish them online for a year or more. The former can only cover a small local area, and the information will be retained for less than ten days and a half months, while the latter will cover the whole country or even the whole world. Detailed graphic materials can be fixed on the Internet for a long time, and you can click and consult them anytime and anywhere, no matter where you are. Netizen1.500 million, every netizen is an object of communication. As long as your information is interested in it, it will spread indefinitely. If we find a qualified, scientifically managed fee-based website to reward your search, we will get twice the result with half the effort. There are many uncertainties in finding someone. Even if you can't find them, you won't be left empty, and money will go empty.
If you are a responsible parent, if you really love them, you should act immediately, abandon old ideas, change stupid or even stupid ways of thinking, publish news about finding you on the Internet as soon as possible, win the trust of others with integrity, and reward your children with a lot of money! The children are looking forward to returning to their parents' arms-being bullied by others! The old man is waiting for the help of his relatives-they have become beggars on the streets! It is your responsibility to find them, your credit to get them back, and your sin to give them up! If your loved ones are missing, if you really love your loved ones, then please act immediately, change your stupid or even stupid way of thinking, publish the news of searching for you on the Internet as soon as possible, win the trust of others with integrity, and reward you heavily! If you are a netizen, if you are concerned about the lost family, please browse the effective tracing information on the regular tracing website. Help those who really need help, clean up boring posts, see the true colors of "free" websites, and devote your limited life to serving the truth indefinitely!
Warning to the liar: If you are a liar, please go back to the shore. Because you are also a person with parents and children, how can you bear to make a family that has been hit hard worse? If you are a real person, don't continue to do evil. It is understandable to make a mistake once, and God will not let you go if you make mistakes continuously.