20 18 12.6 a 34-year-old woman died in si hushan town, Yuanjiang city, Hunan province, and was convicted of murder.
Who is "he"?
Her biological son, 12-year-old boy Kang.
He stabbed more than 20 times.
After killing his mother, he stayed at home with his brother for one night. He answered the phone with his mother's mobile phone, returned to WeChat, and asked for leave in the name of his mother.
He arranged everything in an orderly way.
He doesn't care who the dead person is, because it has nothing to do with him, even though he is covered in that woman's blood.
When identifying the scene, the villagers said: "He is still laughing and not afraid at all."
When he was taken away by the police, he said, "I just hate her."
When his mother was buried, grandma cried when she mentioned her daughter. "This is my eldest daughter. She is only 34 years old. "
12 years old, 20 knives, 34 years old. These dazzling numbers cut into our hearts like knives.
Actually, it's not just this knife that cuts into our hearts.
20 1 1 In March, 14-year-old boy Meng Mou brutally killed his mother and sister for fear that his mother would report his secret smoking to his father, and made it look like a burglary.
20 12 In February, a senior high school student aged 17 in Zhengzhou, Henan Province personally killed his mother at home in order to get rid of the pressure of study. After being arrested, the teenager said, "I don't regret it. I don't have to study. I don't have to be so stressed."
In September, 20 16, a boy of 17 years old hacked his mother in her forties to death with an axe and buried her body in the henhouse in her yard.
On the evening of February 5th, 20 17, Chen Moumou, a 43-year-old resident of Wenxing Town, was killed at home by Yuan Moumou, a 3-year-old son of/kloc-0.
In recent years, we have heard too many unheard-of and shocking news.
We began to sigh. What happened? Why? How could such a young child do such a thing? Why should a simple and naive child be full of beautiful expectations for the world?
If you bring them up instead of feeding them, you will be great.
It turns out that this 12-year-old child was born in the countryside and raised by his grandparents. He was once one of the thousands of left-behind children in Qian Qian, and his parents have been in Guangdong. Two years ago, his mother went home because she was pregnant with a second child.
What do you mean?
This means that apart from economic ties, it is not an exaggeration to say that these two people are strangers.
And this exposes the common fault of our times: neglect.
In this realistic society where everything needs money and everything needs real money, adults know very well how to live a better life, and that is money.
However, what I am most afraid of is that parents apply this "I want to" to their children.
You think they can be happy like this. You gave them all your materials and tried your best, but only the most important thing in their hearts was missing.
A psychological counselor wrote in an article, "In my work, I found that many people's childhood trauma does not come from material shortage, on the contrary, it comes from parents' neglect, incomprehension and disapproval of their emotions and feelings. I seldom hear the psychological counseling room complain that I didn't get anything delicious and dressed when I was a child, but what I hear most is the trauma my parents have caused me because they are estranged, don't respect their children and don't listen to their words at all. Slowly, children's expectations of their parents gradually cooled from the perfect score at the beginning to resentment about why parents just didn't come to see their children's needs. The most uncomfortable thing is that even this resentment is gone, only despair is left, and there is no hope for parents. "
As Marx said, "man is essentially a spiritual animal", and many children just want to say to their parents all their lives, "Please, love me". The other side of hate is love. Hate is expectation, and the most terrible thing is to wait again and again without feeling anything. What is terrible is the endless despair and numbness after hatred dries up.
Sadness is more terrible than heart death. 12-year-old children are also like this, becoming numb after repeated "longing-failure".
Numbness is not our nature, but giving up the struggle in the quagmire of despair.
No one is born a bad person.
Why are children cruel? Because parents are cruel first.
Consciousness activity is unique to people and the highest level of psychological development. In other words, if your education is only for feeding children and you don't care about the inner changes of children, it is recommended to directly raise cats and dogs.
You don't treat children like people at all.
At least as a parent, you are really a failure.
The root of all evil is your carelessness.
It is often those who we think hurt us the least.
Chai Jing said, "Never overestimate the goodness of human nature and never underestimate the evil of human nature. The deepest evil of human nature often exists in your quiet life. "
On March 6, 20 18, a boy aged 13 in Jiangsu killed his mother because his mother killed his beloved dog. Mother claimed to have killed his dog that day. He said, "If you kill the dog, I will kill you". My son said such extreme things, but at night, my mother killed the dog. Perhaps for a middle-aged woman who has experienced many vicissitudes, a dog really doesn't matter. What's the harm of sacrificing to discipline her children?
So, the son really killed his mother.
Mother fell asleep at night and broke her head with a hammer. Then he sat alone in a restaurant near his home for a whole day. He only asked for a cup of boiled water and ate a pack of biscuits with him, and asked for nothing. In this way, he is waiting to be arrested.
For a while, I didn't know what to say.
Is this really an inhuman child?
It is precisely because his parents destroyed the humanity in his heart that he lost humanity! More precisely, it was his parents who deprived him of his innocence!
A child who can protect the puppy so hard has strong feelings and great love for animals, and we have every reason to speculate reasonably. He was supposed to be a warm and virtuous boy, and he was a dazzling boy.
What about now?
Inadvertently revealed the deepest evil of human nature deeply stung a young child. He made a wrong decision and ruined his life.
You are too forgetful.
"When I was in the second grade of elementary school, my mother told me that I shouldn't have given birth to me at the beginning because I got 70 points in Chinese. Later, she forgot, but I remembered it all my life. "
Chinese-style failed parents inevitably have a common problem: they dare not face their true selves.
We often say that there are no parents in the world who don't love their children, which is the opposite. We have many cases to prove that in this world, there are really parents who do not love their children, but there are no newborn children who do not love their parents.
Moreover, there are not a few such people, and the first bully in life is parents.
"Look at other people's children."
"Are you a pig? Why are you so fat? "
"How can you be so stupid? You can go to hell. "
"What's the use of eating mine and drinking mine every day?"
Yes, these hurtful words, even more ugly sentences, really jumped out of their parents' mouths.
Home, which should be the warmest harbor for all people, sometimes becomes the execution ground where people desperately want to escape.
A netizen on Zhihu told the story of his brother's suicide. Unlike many heinous domestic violence, his parents have never touched him since he was a child, and most families are rich. However, the funny thing is here. A boy who grew up in a rich family died of poverty.
More specifically, he died of his parents crying for poverty.
Because I can't afford social expenses, I play with my mobile phone in my dormitory and become a loner. When I brought my girlfriend home, my mother touched her whole body. Unfortunately, she handed me 100 yuan and said, "There is no change, save some flowers." He was only five bus stops from his biological father, but even after his death, he still owed a distant relative, 200 yuan.
Years of money pressure and cold violence killed a smart teenager, a 20-year-old boy with a beautiful life and unlimited possibilities.
Why do so many people want to go home more and more? Do you want to talk to your parents more and more?
Why can't children and parents be friends?
Do you really think this is just a generation gap?
That's not true.
Because, how can I pretend to be okay with people who hurt me again and again? Smile?
Because, I'm sorry, I really can't feel love.