Know mediocrity: you are the one you care about.

Maybe they can defend themselves by saying that when there is no clear career goal, they will have to ride a donkey to find a horse in the future. But more people have many problems in attitude, method and execution. In the process of searching, they are more impulsive or be swayed by considerations of gain and loss, and it won't take long to persist in searching. On the contrary, it can be a normal concern and embarrassing to start giving up on yourself and turn your attention to the content related to food, clothing, housing and transportation or health care. After a long time, I gradually forgot my grand goal and began to accept the dullness and mediocrity of reality, while my life and work entered a habitual inertia. As everyone knows, it is this habitual state that makes many outstanding people in school gradually become mediocre or unknown after a few days of customs clearance. Finally, I suddenly woke up one day and found myself wasting too much precious time. Not only did he not find his own "horse", but he also abused the "donkey" he should have taken care of. In daily career counseling, many counselors often ask a question. Miss Li, why do you think I know nothing about myself and the workplace? In fact, personally, there are two reasons why a person will be confused when facing the future. One is that I don't know myself, I don't know what I can do, I don't know what I want to do, I don't know what I should do, and the other is that I don't know the workplace, and I can't figure out why I may be forced to give up even if I think hard for a long time, even if the final conclusion is difficult to implement. But if you want to accumulate in these two aspects, you need to invest time and energy. After all, these two aspects can't be learned overnight by rote. Individuals not only need to know themselves and cultivate their cognitive and thinking abilities, but also need to pay attention to and search external information and maintain high sensitivity. Both aspects are indispensable. Why does this consultant work for many years, but he knows nothing about his basic knowledge of the workplace? I don't know my personality characteristics, hobbies, what I really want, or even the most basic interview skills and processes. This result is not accidental, because as a professional, he didn't do any research and in-depth investigation in his own job, but was satisfied with being a monk for a day, didn't spend time and energy to study and pay attention to his own specialties and industry information, but paid attention to too many things unrelated to his career and development in his limited spare time, such as entertainment or leisure. There are too many things we can pay attention to and try in real life. Where we project our hearts will largely determine what kind of people we become. So, if you look at your life, many people have become experts in life or entertainment, such as basketball, shopping, singing or playing cards. However, if we focus too much on the content of life and ignore the content of the workplace, it will be difficult for us to become professionals, and naturally it will be difficult for us to achieve something in our careers. A girl told me that I don't like work, so I never take the time to pay attention to work information. Not only did he turn a deaf ear to the work, but even his colleagues in the department couldn't remember their names. On weekdays, her focus is on online shopping. Every day, she uses her working hours to participate in various group buying activities or collect various discount information online, which can be described as a few treasures. Online shopping has become her living habit. If one day she doesn't buy anything, she will always feel very lost. For people in this working state, how can they expect to achieve something in their work? Therefore, while playing different roles in life, don't forget that you still have an important role-people in the workplace. In terms of importance, a person can have no interest and no entertainment, but he can't live without work and income. Work is also a strong evidence to realize personal value. Moreover, a lot of workplace knowledge and accumulation is not timely rain, when it is needed, when it can be raided in advance, and more importantly, a person's long-term accumulation and precipitation. Someone once asked me such a question. Miss Li pays attention to the workplace every day, but she feels that she has not gained much, and sometimes she doubts whether she should continue to pay attention. I told him that in the emotional world, one party's efforts may not win the favor of the other party. But in the workplace, as long as a person determines the direction and is willing to pay, there will always be returns. Only part of the return can be seen in the short term, while the other part needs long-term efforts, and the return obtained through long-term efforts is often more precious. On the contrary, if you don't pay attention to your career development, there is no problem. I didn't pay attention for two days, and there was no problem. If you don't pay attention every day, the problem will be big. Because career development is like sailing against the current, if you don't advance, you will retreat, if you don't advance, you will easily become a very low-level employee for a long time, and it will be very difficult to really implement it until you realize that you are confused. I believe it is difficult for many people to get back to what they really want. After all, the reality is complex and changeable, and it is difficult for individuals to distinguish between true and false and find what they value most. And what a person wants will change with time and place. Maybe what he thinks today will change 360 degrees the next day. I once asked a consultant what kind of job he wanted. He said he didn't know and didn't think about it carefully. Then he asked me, Miss Li, what do you think I should do? After listening to his answer, I gave him an example. Suppose you stopped a taxi in the street. When you get on the bus, the taxi driver asks where you want to go. You answer, master, I don't know or think about where I should go. Where do you think I should go? I think the taxi driver will be speechless after listening. They don't understand some of their ideas because they don't pay attention to their personal characteristics. Naturally, they don't usually summarize, but after many years, there are still some messy information in their minds. According to my own observation, what a person pays attention to most of the time and what kind of work habits he has developed often largely determines what he thinks and is interested in every day, and naturally accumulates relevant knowledge. How does a person discover what he really likes? This idea has two forms. On the one hand, it is the exploration of personal internal factors. You can use some comments to broaden your thinking, and you can also ask people around you for their opinions or opinions. On the other hand, it is the exploration of external factors, mainly to try and understand more different industries and occupations within the limited time and ability. With more contact, you can know roughly what you like. After all, love is a comparative value, not an absolute value. Even if you don't like it now, at least you can know what you don't like, and then choose the best one by elimination. In real life, there are always some sad stories. For example, an excellent woman met a bad man because of the trick of fate. Maybe this man is not suitable for her, nor for her, knowing that he will not be happy, but there are still many reasons to convince himself to choose habitual tolerance and compromise. Usually at the end of the story, the ending is that she has to die, which makes people cry. In fact, many things are hated by the poor. What kind of man a woman meets is really influenced by fate, but what kind of man she falls in love with, what kind of man she leaves, and what kind of man she chooses are things that women can choose actively. So while we feel sorry for many of them, we also deeply feel that there must be many faults behind a person's dissatisfaction. It may be cowardice, hesitation or timidity in character. Similarly, what industry or job opportunity a person encounters may also be accidental. After all, God always likes us to play some jokes. Even if computer graduates from the same university successfully apply for a company, they will be assigned to different project teams because of personnel arrangements, and they will have different opportunities when they meet different leaders and colleagues. However, whether you like this industry, your ability to get along with colleagues and leaders, and whether you decide to leave are all things that one can decide. So after working for one year, people with different aspirations chose different development paths. Some jumped ship to big companies, some started businesses, and some stayed in our company. No matter which way, there is no absolute right or wrong, just look at whether this road suits you and understand what kind of work style and work content you want in your heart. Then, even if you think you are in the wrong business, you can focus on different industries in your usual work to find opportunities instead of giving up. Because choosing to give up attention will mean never having a chance, and the final result will be mediocrity and complaining. There is a metaphor that every company is like a ship sailing in the sea, and the boss is the captain or helm of this ship. Generally speaking, the boss is concerned about the company's development strategy, which determines the company's development direction and speed. Similarly, for people in the workplace, each of us has a boat of our own. Maybe some people are just a boat, or even a simple straw boat, weak and unable to resist the wind and waves. However, if you just crave the comfort and tranquility you just played and don't go to the seaside to exercise and grow, then you will always be a boat and envy others in a quiet environment. Live a hard life at ease and try to live an easy life. In the most comfortable time, people are easy to relax their vigilance, but it may often be the beginning of the next failure. Therefore, if you have entered the habit mode of your career at present, you can't find your own value from your work. In my mind, I should be more prepared and less comfortable.