Once we took our children to the playground and felt that the slide was not high. Why did the children say they were afraid to slide down? They didn't know what leg weakness was until they sat on it. Recently, my sister began to learn to write Chinese calligraphy and practice with her. After practice, her shoulders ached, and I sat and stood with her ... Why did the Chinese teacher write "Under Hydrology", and standing and talking hurt her back? Then sit down and meditate, or you can set an example for your child with actions.
The idea of "cultivating honesty from childhood" comes from the Book of Changes. I ching? Preface, Postscript and Biography of Prophecy: "The deceived person is also ignorant, and things are naive", pointing out that "ignorance" is the state of things in the naive stage.
At the beginning, things are bound to be foggy, and so is the law of children's growth. Childhood refers to the characteristics of early childhood, so the ancients called early childhood education "ignorance" and enlightenment education "enlightenment education".
In the stage of enlightenment education, the people closest to children must be family members, and then teachers, and our role plays an important role. But we also hope that children can learn to be independent and take care of themselves when they grow up. The book used case analysis and gave clear educational guidance, which benefited me a lot.
"My birthday is for my mother" (P 10) What a good thanksgiving education. I never thought of doing it before. I'll give it a try this year and see the effect. It must be good. Indeed, for children, only by loving the people around them can they be kind to others and be kind.
The concept of "important others" mentioned in psychology and sociology refers to a specific person who has an important influence in the process of individual socialization and personality formation. The important people around us are nothing more than parents, brothers and sisters, teachers, classmates, playmates, and our colleagues and leaders when we grow up. Learn to communicate with others, deal with contradictions rationally, and get along well with each other. , so as to have harmonious interpersonal relationships and better adapt to the living environment. For human beings who can't live without collective life. This should also be regarded as one of the necessary survival skills.
At the same time, for children, people's social attributes determine their emotional needs for collective life, hoping to be recognized and accepted in the collective, respected and understood, so as to gain a sense of security and belonging. Only when a child studies and lives in a safe environment can he better stimulate his self-confidence. At the same time, through collective life, children can really cultivate their own moral quality and develop their own personality. For adults, they can finish their work more efficiently or realize their self-pursuit. Therefore, I am about to enter the age of no doubt. Although I am busy every day, I began to adjust my physical and mental state and treat people more actively. On the one hand, I want to live a better life. On the other hand, I want to set a good example for my children.
Everyone knows that children should be patient in everything, but personally, it is not enough. I often criticize my children loudly because I am very busy. How can I make myself less emotional? I consulted the school psychology teacher. The answer is simple, but you need to "practice" real kung fu!
Learn to be aware of your emotions and try to "kill" them when they first appear; If we really can't control it, then learn to accept it. We are human beings, not gods, without fragility and anger; Accept your emotions, but it doesn't mean letting them go. You should pay attention to control your behavior and not abuse or even violence. We should try our best to alleviate it, listen to other people's suggestions, and then make rational choices and responses.
Family rearing patterns, accumulated over time, will show clues in children. Sometimes, we complain, but neither his father nor I do. How can this child be like this? ! My daughter is not confident and generous in public, and I am also rethinking and adjusting my parenting methods.
What causes children to lack self-confidence? There are three main aspects: first, parents do everything for their children and make decisions for them. Second, parents deny their children's decisions and criticize them as long as they don't obey their wishes. Third, parents' high expectations of their children are also a kind of disguised denial of their children, which will make them feel that they can't do anything well and gradually produce a sense of inferiority.
Self-confidence is initially formed at the age of 3-6, and it is precipitated at the age of 7- 12. Therefore, at this stage, if parents can provide their children with opportunities to fully express themselves and teach them appropriate skills, their self-confidence can be well developed. (page 75)
We should trust and respect children and give them the right to choose in everything. Sometimes making mistakes is a good experience. Don't give children too high expectations, give up face awareness, encourage and appreciate more, and teach children to give positive psychological hints. Perseverance, children will gradually become confident.
Zhang Chunxing, a scholar in Taiwan Province Province, China, pointed out that mental health problems are rooted in family, formed in society and manifested in school. Therefore, the root of education is family rather than anything else. Parents should have a sense of learning, not only to improve their self-cultivation and sense of responsibility as parents, but also to understand their children, their growth and development characteristics, what children like and care about now, and to cooperate with the work and requirements of the school. Only in this way can we better guide and promote the healthy growth of children. Family and school are important places for children's activities. Parents and teachers need careful care and joint education to make children grow up safely and healthily.
On the issue of intergenerational education, we should have a clear position and good communication methods-(P139) For families whose grandparents are involved in child-rearing, it should be clear that grandparents are not the main body of family education, but only participate in family education, and the main responsibility of education should still be borne by the parents of the children. As for the differences between the two generations in values, educational concepts and educational methods, parents, as the first responsible person for child-rearing, should communicate with the elderly more and strive to reach an understanding. When encountering problems and differences, avoid confrontation, especially in front of children, and don't blame the elderly. Family members should seek common ground while reserving differences and complement each other's advantages to form a joint force of family education. As the first guardian and educator of children, parents should not be "lazy". No matter how rich the old people at home have parenting experience, even education and teaching experience, the role of parents is irreplaceable, and we have to bear the responsibility.
I like this passage in the book very much (P 15 1). A good teacher must be more than a teacher who can only teach. An excellent head teacher must be more than a head teacher with rules and achievements, a good parent, and not a nagging and extreme guardian. When life meets, teach children to have love in their hearts, "be kind to others in prosperity and be kind to themselves in adversity", so that their hearts will never dry up. In the face of trivial matters in life, teach children to be orderly and disciplined, make rules in advance, accompany children patiently, and help children develop good study and living habits.
Write little stories in your own life, experience years of tempering, have feelings and reflections. I am not only me, but also us. Only when we have light in our hearts and put it into action can we get happiness. For ourselves, for our children, we encourage!