What should children do if they like watching mobile phones and don't like reading books?
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Now almost all parents are "talking about the color change of mobile phones", chasing and intercepting children playing mobile phones everywhere, and cracking down on prevention everywhere. Parents have many reasons. Let's find a representative one to talk about.
"You know that the blue light of mobile phones is bad for the eyes and affects the eyesight. I broke my eyes at a young age. What should I do when I am old? "
"Playing mobile phone is a plaything. Where did you get the mind to study? This age is the age of study. If you are older, let him play. Not now.
"You don't know, my children play mobile phones until the early hours of the morning, and they sleep when they are sleepy, no matter what."
"I won't give my mobile phone to my child. There are all kinds of information in the mobile phone. What if I don't learn well? "
"I'm not worried about any information. My child is addicted to playing games and is eager to get a mobile phone. "
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In short, playing mobile phones is harmful and useless. Mobile phone is a scourge, which is the fuse of family conflicts.
I was addicted to TV when I was a child.
I wonder if mobile phones are so harmful. Let me talk about my childhood addiction.
I am a post-80s mother who has been engaged in education for more than ten years. Next, I want to arouse the collective memory of the post-80s generation.
When we were young, we didn't have a mobile phone, but TV was on the rise. I was an out-and-out TV fan. In the cold morning, I opened my eyes in the warm bed, and the first sentence: "Mom, turn on the TV." This is my wake-up ceremony. At that time, as soon as the TV was broadcast 10 pm, I changed the channel after the broadcast, and then changed the channel. All the channels were broadcast, and then I went to bed. My mother always said, "If the TV doesn't sleep, you won't sleep."
In addition, in order to watch more TV, I am still the "king of cards" in our class. When we were young, we all went to school by ourselves, regardless of transportation. I remember when I was in primary school, I had classes at two o'clock in the afternoon and rang the doorbell at one fifty. I will accurately calculate that the time from home to school is 1:53, and the time to school is 1:59. No sooner had I sat down than the bell rang and the teacher came in. I was one minute early and I lost. I really deserve the title of "King of Card Points".
If you have children of my type, will you be crazy? Anyway, my mother is not crazy. I can go to school at any time. It doesn't matter if I don't go. The best I can ask is, "Your teacher has gone to a meeting and has no class?"
You must think I don't study well. I must be a scum. I can responsibly invite my primary school classmates to testify for me. The grade is not bad at all, and it is still the first in the class. In particular, I get full marks in every composition. As a rural child born in the 1980s, I can imagine the poverty of studying, which is simply saline-alkali land, but I spend more than ten minutes writing a composition. Others think hard about writing a composition, and I steal to play. Engaged in education when I grow up, I am honored to be a Chinese teacher. My class is very humorous, and the whole class is connected like a story. Every time a child is still wanting more, this is due to my love of watching TV when I was a child.
At 7: 30 every morning, Tian Lianyuan's Elvis Presley, Shi Gong 'an and Xiao Bayi are continuously broadcast on Shandong TV ... These storytelling stories have greatly enriched my spiritual world. The story of the old man is full of fun, the characters are lifelike, and the story is ups and downs and fascinating.
Tang Tieniu, the third master in "Little Bayi", is full of bad ideas, funny and resourceful. It is said that Tang Sanye's wife is ugly, careless and a little polite, but her name is Yang Saihua. Qiyehua is handsome and has strong martial arts. I imagined his handsomeness over and over again. The story is full of twists and turns, which makes people feel ridiculous and mixed with love and hate. Laugh for them and cry for them. When the story reaches its climax, wake up and predict what will happen next. I have to worry about the hero in the story all day. Eagerly looking forward to the arrival of the next day.
I have heard the sum of Zhang. But my favorite is Xiao Bayi.
Television is more than just telling stories at 7: 30 in the morning. Advertisements are the most broadcast, and I will recite almost every advertisement.
"A good advertisement is not as good as a new flying refrigerator." "Sister, marry the chef of New Oriental."
Soap, I've been carving cards, ......
I will also imitate the broadcast cavity of news broadcast and Zhao Zhongxiang's Man and Nature. Mandarin is ok when I grow up, and I will twist my steps when I put on my mother's big apron to cook.
I know the stories of Flying Fox in Snow Mountain, Chu Liuxiang and Chivalrous Man by heart. I watch it early every day. As long as the teacher is absent, the teacher is generally absent. I made full use of this time to tell the TV story I watched last night to my deskmate, back table and adjacent table, which further deepened my memory and exercised my oral expression ability. Besides, I have to talk about it with relish. Does this pave the way for my future career in education? My mother doesn't know, my mother doesn't care about me, and my academic performance is good, and my teacher doesn't care much about me. Only when I am addicted to TV and my grades drop, will the teacher tell my dad, and my dad will ask me how I am studying recently and will not take any measures to stop me, so that my final grades will be guaranteed. Curiosity was satisfied when I was a child. In junior high school, I seldom watched TV. I hardly watch TV now.
My TV is contracted by my children. Please call him the director, the director of the TV station. It's up to him whether to watch the TV station or not.
I understand and accept that children watch TV and play mobile phones.
Now many companies are recruiting new media operations, Tik Tok live broadcast and animation design. A child has never touched a mobile phone, and it takes some efforts to enter these emerging industries.
Parents should calmly treat their children playing with mobile phones, and maybe their future life will be hidden in the mobile phone.
My children can watch TV after finishing their homework in the first grade. Watch for a long time, remind them to rest their eyes. If he doesn't want to do his homework when he gets home, he just wants to watch TV. He set the alarm clock and got up early to do his homework. Occasionally, I didn't finish my homework one day, and I was very calm. His head teacher, Mr. Liu, will definitely not ask me to stand up and make a penalty. Punishment is also a punishment for my son. It's good to stand up and be punished for your own business.
Give the control of life to the child and let the child control his life in his own way.
I think in family education, as parents, we should make it clear that we should manage those things well; We shouldn't care. Resolutely ignore the things that should not be managed, and the things that should be managed must be managed.
For example, if he has the ability to be responsible for reading, he must be given the responsibility instead of parents reminding his children to read quickly. If a horse presses his head without drinking water, it will have no effect.
Parents' urging and reminding are often binding children, creating all kinds of stumbling blocks for them and implanting all kinds of restraining orders for them. Many parents are perfectionists. When children learn anything, including reading, they want to be the ultimate and the best, which may backfire in the end.
If the child is deprived of the opportunity to control himself, the child will have no self. How can he be responsible for himself without himself?
Education depends first on the environment, second on example, and third on self-responsibility.
What's the reading environment in your home?
There are all kinds of books in my family, and the first-grade children can't read much. At present, I still read and listen to them
Who is your child's role model in reading?
I read 70-80 paper books every year, not including morning running and listening to books on my way to and from work.
Can he take the responsibility of reading?
My family can't be responsible for itself yet. If I am tired today and don't want to read to him, he won't cry or cheat easily.
What he can be responsible for is which book to read tonight.
Do your children read books of their choice or books designated by adults? When do you read it? Is the reading posture regular? When I was a child, I read on my stomach, lying down and leaning against it, but I didn't sit still and read. My father will remind me to pay attention to my eyes when reading for a while and take a rest, so I will turn a deaf ear. )
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"The Doctrine of the Mean" wrote, "Destiny is nature, frankness is Tao, and cultivation is teaching."
Mobile phones are not a scourge. My children often tell me the story of Altman beating monsters. As a loyal listener, I often ask for details. Let children decide their own reading, let nature take its course, and do the right thing. We should be leaders of children, not guides.
Starting from personal experience, I also hope that everyone will leave their own comments in the comments, saying that we will discuss and practice this "Tao" of education together. I am grateful to meet every lovely you.
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