Get ready.
Draw up a list
If it's just a gathering of friends, as long as you are close and have fun, you don't have to care too much about the rules. But if you want to build a relationship through a party, you need to first determine who the guest of honor is, who his usual friends are and what the purpose of this invitation is.
When inviting other guests, be sure to invite some people who have a good relationship with each other, so as to relax the atmosphere, activate the topic and easily establish a circle.
spotting
Generally, it is necessary to know the guests' hobbies in advance and choose the location according to the guests' hobbies. If you have a good relationship with the host and guest, you can also ask his advice or give him a plan to decide for himself. After choosing the right place, you should inform the other party by phone or text message to confirm that the other party has received it.
Schedule
According to the usual habits of the host and guest, it is generally appropriate to make an appointment in advance, usually 2-5 days, so that the invited person can make arrangements and will not hesitate because of the uncertain time.
In addition, the time is not fixed, it is best to give two options to prevent temporary changes. Moreover, it is not easy for the other party to refuse. After the time is set, the notice should still be in place, and it should be notified on the day of the banquet.
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The banquet is going on.
order dishes
The host should be the first to arrive, greet the guests and order the basic dishes before the guests come. The main course or main course after the guest comes should be ordered by the host. When ordering food, you need to know that the guests have no hobbies and special interests, and there must be one or two impressive "malicious dishes" on the table to avoid being considered inferior.
Generally speaking, the number of dishes is calculated according to one dish per capita. A table of dishes is best prepared, cold and hot. Men can order more meat dishes and women can order more vegetarian dishes. Don't ask the price when ordering, otherwise it will make the guests uncomfortable. After ordering, ask the guests what they want to drink.
Seating order
Chinese food generally has many round tables with different rankings, which need to be carefully arranged.
Moderator: It's right in front of the main entrance, so it's convenient to meet guests and arrange seats.
Guest of honor: Generally, the closer to the host, the higher the status. At the same distance, the position on the left of the owner is more distinguished. If one of the guests is higher than the host, in order to show respect, the host's position can let the guest sit, while the host sits in the original position.
have a meal
When a dish comes up, the host and guest take the dish first and the others take turns clockwise. The host usually uses public chopsticks. You can persuade the dishes properly, but if you are rejected, don't be forced. Excessive enthusiasm will only make people uncomfortable.
Pay attention to the order when pouring wine, which can be clockwise or counterclockwise, and can also be determined according to age, position, guest and host status, etc. Remember to treat everyone equally, don't pour wine for just one person.
When clinking glasses, clink glasses with your elders, and your cup should be below. With colleagues of the same age, you can be casual and parallel. When meeting someone who regards himself as respectable, the glass should not be too low, so as not to make the other person feel at a loss.
The content/manner of speech
If the guest likes to dominate the wine business, there is no need to steal his thunder. If the guests are not good at talking or the atmosphere during the dinner is not enough, then the host needs to take the initiative to guide them to open the box, which is getting better and better. Otherwise, guests will be snubbed, and the effect of treating guests will only be counterproductive.
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The Party Is Over
Generally speaking, the host is responsible for paying the bill. Say goodbye to every guest after the party and make sure that someone familiar will send him back. After that, make sure that every guest gets home smoothly. If appropriate, you can ask the guests whether they are satisfied with the banquet, so as to improve it next time.