The first point is that women should learn to be independent. What I mean by independence has multiple meanings. If a woman wants to have a certain voice in marriage, then she must be completely or almost independent economically. A woman can only support herself. When she speaks out and strives for rights, her back can be straight and her voice can be strong enough. Imagine if a woman is totally dependent on another person at home. To put it mildly, this is the man's spoil for her, and she wants to "support you for life." But if one day the man who once said that he would support you all his life is tired, tired and changed his mind, how can a woman without financial resources support herself? Just begging for mercy.
Economic independence does not mean drawing a line with the other party, nor does it mean putting all things related to property above marriage itself. Just let the woman be financially equal to the man, so that once the marriage relationship breaks down, the woman can leave gracefully without worrying about her future. In my opinion, it will not hinder the marriage relationship, but an important guarantee for the harmonious and happy marriage.
In addition to economic independence, the woman must also be independent in personality. Many women will choose to be the little woman behind men after they get married. There's nothing wrong with that. Everyone's choice is different, and we should respect it. However, I must say that even a young woman who is willing to get married, a woman and her husband should respect each other, understand each other and support each other in personality, and never lose their dignity by blindly worshipping each other.
Women should not listen to the man, have their own opinions and respect him, but they should never bow to him, let alone make him feel that he is a imprisoned pet. They will be amused when they are happy and indifferent when they are unhappy. Women must let men know that both sides are equal and independent individuals and need mutual respect and understanding. No one needs to obey the other side.
Second, the woman should have her own career and her own life plan. Many of us will take it for granted that a woman's life is to have a good home and find a good family to get married, and this life is to be husband and wife, as if a woman was born with this mission. But I want to say that this idea is all wet. Women should have their own lives. Women can temporarily give up their careers after marriage and focus on their children and family, but after the transition period, women still have to pursue their dreams again, or find and stick to their hobbies.
Women should learn to arrange their lives reasonably and enrich their lives, instead of just revolving around their husbands and children all day. It is not just rice, oil, salt and vinegar tea to communicate with their husbands. A really smart woman knows how to keep in touch with society at all times and not let herself be abandoned by the times.