Ayong said that because his mother and brother wanted to rob his wife's house, he had to do so. No matter how many people scold him, he feels that he is right, because he has long since separated and owed their family.
Ayong was born in a remote town, a family of five, and he has a brother and a younger brother, so he is the second child. His grandmother didn't love him since childhood, and his uncle didn't love him. Most of the responsibility in the family falls on Ayong. He had the best academic record among the three brothers since childhood, but he was the first to drop out of school, because his mother asked him to work early and then read to his younger brother, so that he could share some pressure with his family.
Ayong is an honest and conscientious person. Before finishing junior high school, she was sent to work in a factory by her mother, and all the money she earned in those years was scraped away by her mother. At that time, my mother told Ayong that she would save money for his future marriage.
However, when Ayong was 2 1 year-old, when he was talking about marriage, his mother said that there was no money at home. Not only did he not take out the bride price, but he even split up on the spot. Two houses in the town were allocated to Ayong's brother and younger brother. At that time, her mother told Ayong, "You work early, you can support yourself, and you will have a house in a few years. Your brother just graduated and his job is unstable. Your brother is in college.
It was also the mother's decision that made Ayong almost unable to get a wife, because her husband's family insisted on 80,000 bride price, but Ayong couldn't get it. Finally, when he was about to give up, his wife married him regardless of his father's opposition, and then everything was crowded into a rented room. Because his wife didn't abandon him, he was particularly grateful and vowed to be good to his wife in the future. Then he worked hard, and after a few years, he finally got a house of his own in the county.
Ayong said, in fact, since his brother got married, he lost his thoughts and feelings for his mother, because his brother got married one year later than him, and her mother got a total of 654.38+10,000 bride price that year. It is also because after that, Ayong completely abandoned her mother's family and lost contact with her family. Even though his wife was pregnant and confined, her mother didn't ask anything, which made her very angry.
With their efforts, Ayong's life is getting better and better, and she has her own children. At that time, Ayong thought that family happiness had finally arrived, but he didn't know that his father-in-law died unexpectedly at that time, and his wife really lost her parents.
During that time, the whole family was depressed. My wife has been living in her in-laws' former home. At that time, Ayong's mother came to see you. At first, she said it was to find a job for Ayong's younger brother. Because Ayong's younger brother just graduated, he doesn't have a good job. Because his wife doesn't live at home, Ayong took in his mother and brother. But when Ayong's mother learned that his wife's father had died, she had other ideas.
That day, my mother said to Ayong, "Son, give your father-in-law's house to your brother. Your brother just graduated from college and hasn't got married. This house is very important to him. If they are dead and empty, give me a pension! " !
Although Ayong was particularly uncomfortable when he heard his mother's words, he still calmly said to her, "That house belongs to my daughter-in-law. I can't decide. Everything has to be decided by her. " It is also because of Ayong's words that my mother took my brother to the old father's house. Ayong didn't care at first, thinking that his wife was all right anyway, but then he thought that his father-in-law had just left, and his wife was in a particularly unstable mood now. Knowing that something would happen, he quickly followed.
When Ayong arrived, there was already a quarrel in the room. After his mother put down her luggage, she still lingered on, saying that the house was half that of Ayong, so she had to live in it.
I also saw that my mother was angry with his wife, so Ayong suddenly got angry and said directly to her mother, "Mom, move out quickly, this house belongs to my wife!" " ! Ayong thought his mother would move out at once when she heard this, but after listening to his words, her mother not only didn't make any moves, but even said to Ayong, "You baiwenhang, her parents can't live here any longer. They have passed away. Anyway, this house is empty, why not live here? " ?
Hearing Ayong's mother's words, Ayong's wife became more and more angry, so Ayong forced her mother and brother to go out. Because of this, Ayong's mother and brother slandered Ayong everywhere, saying that Ayong was a baiwenhang and ungrateful.
So Ayong asked me, "Did he really do something wrong?" ?
Bian Xiao has something to say:
In my opinion, I don't think there is anything wrong with Ayong's behavior, because as he said, he has separated from his mother and them, and now they are two families. He has no obligation to find a house for his brother at all, and the house is not his, and he has no right to decide that house.
Psychologists say: "Putting the relationship between husband and wife first is the foundation of a happy marriage."
Therefore, it is no problem for Ayong to stop his mother and brother for his wife's sake, because he is not only a son, but also a wife's husband and a child's father. These are all things he should do.
In fact, Ayong's mother is unreasonable because her daughter-in-law's house has nothing to do with her. Not to mention that she treats her daughter-in-law badly. Even if she is very kind to her daughter-in-law, she is willing to help her. This is also a mutual affection, not a duty. She has no right to ask for these things.
Ayong's younger brother is an ungrateful baiwenhang. He not only doesn't appreciate Ayong's efforts for him over the years, but also bites the hand that feeds him. Without Ayong's education for many years, he wouldn't be where he is today, so people like Ayong's brother are simply not worth paying.
Maybe at this moment, some people will say sarcastically that Ayong is too unfilial, because the house is empty, even if it is for the family, it doesn't matter, because the family and the two families don't talk about it, they will help if they can, and it is really better to live with relatives if they are empty.
But in my opinion, the people who can say these words are all people who stand and talk easily. You have never considered the feelings of the client. The house was not blown down by the strong wind. Someone else earned it. In a word, it's like putting it down. Who can accept someone else's parents robbing a house like a robber before their bones are cold? I didn't kick you out. I've given you the biggest bottom line.
I often warn my parents around me not to sacrifice one child to fulfill another, because it is doomed to be a tragedy. In your later years, you may not know who will support you.