Why do you send so many gifts? This classmate said that five years ago, her husband's business was in trouble, and the husband and wife tried their best to fill the funding gap.
At this time, my brother, who just graduated from college for one year, turned 200 thousand.
Later, students learned that many of these 200 thousand were borrowed through various channels and needed interest. Although my classmates returned the money to my brother after half a year, I still kept my brother in debt for a long time.
However, my classmate's husband felt that he gave his brother-in-law 10000 yuan when he paid back the money, and he also bought a mobile phone as a gift. The debt is even. Now giving a gift of 10000 yuan means "helping my little brother."
Students believe that consanguinity is not a simple equivalent exchange that can be replaced, not to mention that now that business is on the right track, 654.38+ million won't affect their quality of life at all.
Because of this, the two are still in the cold war.
Coincidentally, the reader Zhao Nvshi also suffered a similar thing, but Zhao Nvshi's husband is more reasonable, knowing that the equivalent exchange between relatives is affection, not material.
Ms. Zhao and her husband come from different cities in the same province. Both of them work in the provincial capital, and the wedding room is also bought in the provincial capital.
Ms. Zhao's husband was born in an ordinary working family, and his parents are ordinary workers, with a general family. Although he is an only child, it is economically impossible for him to buy a house and get married in the provincial capital.
Ms. Zhao's parents have been in business for many years and their family is well-off. They like and value this gentle and steady son-in-law, so the down payment for the wedding room is more than 800,000 yuan, all from Zhao Nvshi's family, and they also married a car.
What moved my husband most was that the real estate license of the wedding room was written with the names of the husband and wife.
It is because of Zhao Nvshi's trust and support that her husband has no worries and has achieved good results in his career.
In the third year after marriage, Ms. Zhao had a child and her retired mother-in-law took care of it. Soon after, the family just caught up with the demolition, and my father-in-law reached retirement age and moved to the provincial capital to live together.
Just as the life of Zhao Nvshi's family was getting better and better, a series of bad things happened to her family. First, Ms. Zhao's mother was cheated by 300 thousand for investing in wealth management products, and then her father failed in business and lost a lot of money.
Later, my parents decided to retire, stopped their business, sold the house in the county, and moved to the self-built Xiaoyanglou in the suburbs to start their retirement. Who knows, my father had an accident after drinking and got a lot of money.
Fortunately, people are fine.
However, at this time, Ms. Zhao's younger brother is getting married. After graduating from college, my brother worked in her husband's hometown city and fell in love with a local girl.
When talking about marriage, the girl's family asked her brother to have a wedding room in the local area. Because the girl is an only child, her parents don't want her to marry in other places.
My brother can't afford a house at all, and my parents can't help it. In addition to selling cars and buildings to support their sons, they have no better way for the time being.
Ms. Zhao wants to help, but although the house price in her husband's hometown city is not very high, the down payment is 300 thousand, not to mention other expenses if she gets married.
At the right moment, at this time, my husband's family's demolition and resettlement house came down, divided into two sets. Zhao Nvshi is thinking about how to discuss with her husband and let him share a house for his brother to get married.
Zhao Nvshi is very embarrassed to open this mouth, and has been struggling.
When my husband was in a good mood that day, he said in a joking tone, "Husband, give my brother a set of demolition houses assigned by your family, and we'll be even."
My husband paused and asked why. He smiled and said, "Great, I'm even with you at last. Otherwise, I don't know when I can repay you. "
Zhao Nvshi was very moved. She didn't expect things to go so smoothly.
Emotional analysis:
I remember a friend once told me that there are some hidden rules in the current marriage and love market, among which the woman has a younger brother, which belongs to the interpretation of hidden rules.
Because everyone is worried about marrying a "brother helper".
In the TV series Ode to Joy, fan Mei Sheng is an out-and-out "elder brother's helper". As a senior white-collar worker who has worked hard for many years, he put all his money into the pit of "Born into a Family", but he couldn't even pay the rent.
Fan is an unmarried "elder brother's helper". She just cheated herself. What is hateful is that those married "brother helpers" not only lied to themselves, but also lied to their small families.
In the TV series "Only Son", Lin is a married "brother helper". When her husband needed money most, she even bought a wedding room for her brother with 260 thousand savings at home, and it was a sponsorship, not a loan.
There is no bottom line for the help of a family. I can't wait to empty all the resources around me to supplement my parents' family. This is the main reason why people hate "helping my brother".
It is precisely because of the popularity of some TV dramas about "helping younger brothers" that people have misunderstood the role of sister. Many people think that a girl is a "helper" when they see her helping her brother.
But what I want to say is that not every sister with a younger brother is a "brother-helping demon", but a "brother-helping demon" without unilateral efforts and bottom line assistance.
I think it is proper for relatives to help each other. It is the deep affection between brothers and sisters, and it is a traditional virtue that deserves our admiration.
Just like my classmate's brother would rather be in debt than save his sister from danger; Just like when Zhao Nvshi's parents married their daughters, they did not abandon their son-in-law, but gave them great support.
Feelings are mutual, and it is worthwhile to pay back.
In fact, I prefer "Give me a peach, give me a plum" in the papaya in the Book of Songs.
Why is the value of returned items obviously greater than the value of donated items? I think that's because the recipient cherishes his feelings and hopes to be good forever!
Just like Zhao Nvshi's husband, he remembers his former feelings, so he doesn't care about the unequal return, but returns a warm feeling.
I think it should be like this between relatives. Love is the main thing, and reason is the supplement, so that we can always feel good!